LORA MATHIS

‘If There’s A Way Out I’ll Take It’ by @lora-mathis;

Child: doesnt want to spend time with them afterwards

Parent:

Child:*doesn’t want to admit their mistakes and starts keeping secrets from their parent*

Parent:

child: *doesn’t talk to parents about their issues and feels worse*

parent:

Child: *actively avoids academic achievement and becomes an atheist*

Parent:

Child: *never tells the parents about how they feel or their personal insecurities*

Parent:

Fight—Responds to abuse with anger and aggressiveness because that is the only thing that appears to give control in family dynamic. Responds to anything that resembles attack with cruelty and defensiveness and attempts to manipulate with intimidation and disdain before others can manipulate them.

Fawn—Responds to abuse by attempting to become the perfect victim in the hopes of being less hated and less mistreated in exchange for cooperating. Turns off all personal desires, boundaries, traits, and emotions, tries to become exactly what the abuser wants. Continues this set of interpersonal rules even with non-abusive outsiders.