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“AI addiction” you mean “self destructive antisocial behavior enabled by predatory technology”

“Porn addiction” you mean “internalized sexual shame and desensitization”

“Sex addiction” you mean “self destructive promiscuity”

“Addiction” is a clinical fucking disease. These people are not diseased, by and large. Some of them are experiencing/committing maladaptive behaviors and trying to absolve themselves of responsibility for their actions. Some of them are just existing in an evolutionarily explicable way, but our Puritanical/Calvinist society thinks they should be ashamed for ever experiencing pleasure or gratification at all rather than sacrificing every scrap of enjoyment they can claw out of life and suffering all the time because humans are tainted by sin and have to do penance for living.

away and putting it on

the top fucking shelf.

"AI addiction" you mean "Over-reliance on a dubious source of information."

"Porn addiction" you mean "Enjoying media that some arbitrary authority considers too erotic."

"Sex addiction" you mean "Choosing to have sex more frequently or with more partners than is considered normal in a sex-negative, monogonormative society," unless what you mean is "Cheating on a partner to whom one promised exclusivity, the problem with which is the lying, not the sex."

“AI addiction” you mean “self destructive antisocial behavior enabled by predatory technology”

“Porn addiction” you mean “internalized sexual shame and desensitization”

“Sex addiction” you mean “self destructive promiscuity”

“Addiction” is a clinical fucking disease. These people are not diseased, by and large. Some of them are experiencing/committing maladaptive behaviors and trying to absolve themselves of responsibility for their actions. Some of them are just existing in an evolutionarily explicable way, but our Puritanical/Calvinist society thinks they should be ashamed for ever experiencing pleasure or gratification at all rather than sacrificing every scrap of enjoyment they can claw out of life and suffering all the time because humans are tainted by sin and have to do penance for living.

away and putting it on

the top fucking shelf.

"AI addiction" you mean "Over-reliance on a dubious source of information."

"Porn addiction" you mean "Enjoying media that some arbitrary authority considers too erotic."

"Sex addiction" you mean "Choosing to have sex more frequently or with more partners than is considered normal in a sex-negative, monogonormative society," unless what you mean is "Cheating on a partner to whom one promised exclusivity, the problem with which is the lying, not the sex."

Japan, late 19th century - photo. T. Enami 1859 - 1929

T. Enami (Enami Nobukuni, 1859 - 1929) was the trade name of a celebrated Meiji period photographer. The T. of his trade name is thought to have stood for Toshi, though he never spelled it out on any personal or business document.

Born in Edo (now Tokyo) during the Bakumatsu era, Enami was first a student of, and then an assistant to the well known photographer and collotypist, Ogawa Kazumasa. Enami relocated to Yokohama, and opened a studio on Benten-dori (Benten Street) in 1892. Just a few doors away from him was the studio of the already well known Tamamura Kozaburo. He and Enami would work together on at least three related projects over the years.

Enami became quietly unique as the only photographer of that period known to work in all popular formats, including the production of large-format photographs compiled into what are commonly called Yokohama Albums. Enami went on to become Japan's most prolific photographer of small-format images such as the stereoview and glass lantern-slides. The best of these were delicately hand-tinted

https://www.shutterstock.com/cs/editorial/image-editorial/t-enami-nobukuni-1859---1929-trade-15322970a

https://www.flickr.com/photos/okinawa-soba/albums/72157614096929365/

sorry but this is maybe THE most annoying response i see to discussion of anti-transmasculinity and exorsexism in trans spaces.

i hate to use "sides" in this context because things are not that binary and they are not that uniform. but like. i need to fucking remind everyone that one ""side"" created the term transunity specifically to call for less infighting and for transfeminist theory that integrates all kinds of trans experiences, and the ""other side"" immediately began insisting the people behind it must hate trans women.

its so fucking infuriating. like jesus fucking christ you do not need to condescend to us about how this infighting shit is gonna get people killed!!!!! WE KNOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! & its ESPECIALLY fucking gross when you type this shit on a post about intercommunity bigotry, as if the people being anti-transmasc or exorsexist and the people talking about how that is bad are equally contributing to infighting.

this discourse is not actually pointless or meaningless i'm sorry. there is real shit, real rotten fetid wounds in our community, that we have never properly addressed (& that goes for the anti-transmasculinity, the exorsexism, the transmisogyny, the biphobia, the misogyny, the aphobia, the racism, the classism, everything). we cannot just "stop fighting" because the REASON there is so much fighting is because people - bi people, aspec people, transmascs & nonbinary people, queer people of color - keep saying "hey this shit is hurting us, can we talk about it & stop doing it?" and then other people react to that like its a personal attack on them to have somebody question their emotional support lateral violence. and then because the internet is built to incentivize outrage over productive solutions & meaningful community-building, it becomes something huge and messy and shitty, and the core problem struggles to ever get actually properly addressed.

most of the time, at best, you get what happened post-ace discourse, where the community goes "fine okay the A can stay" but never actually grapples with the acephobia and arophobia or amatonormativity, never grapples with the extent of the hostility towards aspec people, and everyone just pretends it was silly terminally online teen arguments that had nothing to do with real life, and we return to a slightly modified status quo. and that is not fucking improvement.

hmmm...