My BF with high functioning autism
I love my boyfriend to death, but sometimes I just need some time to myself. He has high functioning autism, but it’s still hard for him to take social cues and he has a hard time understanding that when I need space, it’s not because of him. I love him so much, but sometimes I just want to turn my phone on do not disturb and just listen to music off of my Alexa in the dark and just think about my life and stuff. Last time I told him I needed space, it didn’t end all too well. He misunderstood me and thought I was breaking up with him, which I would NEVER do to him. The two of us ended up getting into a fight over the phone and he said some things, I said some things. I started going off at him out of anger and stress and said something alone the lines of: “sometimes I really can’t take your shit” and, in effect to what I had said, he said something along the lines of “oh don’t worry, you won’t have to put up with it anymore” and he hung up. So after about, I’d say 3-5 minutes, I called him back. He was still angry, but I just kept saying “I love you” until he said it back. It took me a couple of tries, but eventually he said it back and he apologized, and I did too. I’m really trying my hardest to do more research into autism so I know how to communicate with him better so that way there me asking for a few minutes to myself doesn’t end in a serious argument.
If anyone could DM me any links to websites that talk about autistic people, and how they function, and how to communicate with them better, that would be so appreciated. I really love him and I need him in my life and I don’t want to overwhelm him, or make him angry, or confuse him or anything like that. I’m desperate for any sort of knowledge on high functioning autism.
Take care you guys,
~Angie
