The Mune

You don’t have to lose weight to be trans and transition.

You don’t have to work out to be trans and transition.

You don’t have to eat a certain way to be trans and transition.

You don’t have to fit a certain body type to be trans and transition.

Fat is beautiful.

I got people saying I “should loose weight first before doing any chest surgery for the best results” and that made me worry that not being able to due to my life situation would somehow make things horrible on that part. TT_TT

Absolutely do not try to lose weight before top surgery.  It’s so fucking ridiculous that people recommend that.  Actual doctors who should know better are so fatphobic that they’ll give you this shitty advice.

Almost 100% of people who lose weight will gain it back plus more within five years. That weight regain will affect your top surgery.  I was lucky.  I like the way my chest looks after I regained a bunch of weight.  But I can’t deny that it looks like I have (small) boobs again and for some people, that is going to be dysphoria inducing.

You want chest surgery when you’ve been at a weight that has been relatively stable for some time.  That way, there won’t be any surprises down the road with how your chest will look when your weight changes.

Not getting out of bed - with bpd, depression is a reoccurring mood. Social withdrawal - we are champs at perfecting facades. don’t always have the energy for it though. Self-destructive behaviours - sometimes needed to escape those 4-5 intensity emotions.  Being ‘clingy’ - fear of abandonment. love addicted. not knowing how else to care about people. Forgetting things - emotional impermanence. we lose perspective of things we did if its associated with something painful (aka all things, all things are painful).  Getting upset about everything - impossible to see the good in anything unless someone sucked the cognitive dissonance right out of our heads. in other words, splitting–it’s a thing.  Bad self-care- see: depression is a revolving and reoccurring mood. Promiscuity  - see: needing attention because we don’t feel like “real” people.  ‘Weird’ or ‘unusual’ triggers - sorry if you hate the word ‘trigger’, but that’s exactly what this is. emotional ptsd. how else would you explain, “oh fuck, that song reminds me of when _____. welp. time to dissociate. haha i’m not here anymore. haha, i don’t feel anything.”??? Needing validation - we want attention to feel like people. we need validation to feel like good people. 

WISH I FIGURED THIS SHIT OUT A DECADE AGO. 

A little PSA for you guys playing Social 3D games–or just social games overall.

If you see a person with an avatar that’s opposite from their gender, guess what you have to do then? Absolutely nothing. Treat them like you would treat any other person.

Because if you say this: “Lol why r u using an male avi when you’re a girl?”

Dude…

It’s none of your business, and I’m not obliged to tell you why if you ask so rudely, or mockingly. Or anyone else for that matter. If we simply felt like we wanted to use a female avatar, so be it, same with the male one. We can use whatever we want–it’s OUR avatar after all. I cannot tell you how much I’ve been harassed for using a male avatar in games such as Imvu and Kaneva, because I feel as though the female clothes available (and actions) are not my style at all, it may be the same for some people. But then there’s people ambushing me and harassing me on PM for this, telling me that I’m fake for using a male avatar (and being completely honest about it) and telling me to attach a dildo or telling me that my mother would light herself on fire if she knew. No, this doesn’t mean I’m automatically a lesbian–though, I am bisexual but not everyone else is, just like this doesn’t mean I’m a creep and trying to trick people–though, again, there are some people that do this, stop assuming for christ sake.

So, STOP in the name of the lord, and leave people like us be ourselves. You do you, I do me.