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Calling All Fabulous Feminines

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✨Femininity (Esp. Black/Dark Skin Femininity)

⭐️Hypergamy

⭐️Level Up

⭐️Manifesting

⭐️Luxury (Esp. Black Women in Luxury)

♡ keep your eyebrows groomed

♡ keep your lashes done OR get an everyday mascara, i recommend essence lash princess!

♡ take vitamins EVERYDAY

♡ drink lots of water

♡ keep nails and toes done always!

♡ keep hand cream and cuticle oil on you at all times!

♡ have staple/everyday jewelry

♡ ALWAYS do your hair

♡ have skin care routine that includes at least a cleanser, moisturizer and spf

♡ reapply spf every 2 hours

♡ lip gloss, balms and oils are essential. keep those lips luscious!

Oversharing is the simplest way to breach your own boundaries. When you think about it for a minute, you realize it's a form of self-sabotage and can take away from your high-value allure, charm, or the magnetism that radiates from cultivating a mysterious personality. Here are some tips to practice self-restraint in conversations to own your privilege to privacy and construct a more mysterious aura.

Understand the root cause of your talkative nature: Are you genuinely extraverted and gain energy from speaking to others, or do you have repressed thoughts/emotions/ generally feel unheard and use social conversations as an outlet to release these thoughts or feel seen? 

Find ways to transmute this communication, but make it self-referential: Journal your thoughts as a stream of consciousness exercise or as though you’re speaking to a close friend. Draft a document that reads like a short dissertation on a topic that you would love to talk endlessly about but know would be a disservice to your reputation or mysterious allure if you shared it with someone else (an embarrassing story, details of a work fiasco, sex stories, a fight with a family member/romantic partner, a hot take or controversial opinion on a polarizing topic, etc.). Write anything that comes to mind. You can even create a voice memo as a mini-podcast to yourself to get the feelings out. 

Reframe your mindset: Having a mysterious personality means being selective – not repressive – with how you share information, engage in conversations, and present yourself to others.

Create a social rulebook for yourself: Write out a conversational “dos” and “don’ts” list. Decide on the topics/stories you want to share in a given situation and those you want to avoid discussing (work, family setting, intimate social gathering, dinner party/wedding, etc.) to help censor yourself/curate your image. By having a plan in place at all times, you’re doing half of the work beforehand to help you avoid oversharing when in interpersonal settings (at least most of the time!). Always have a few “fun facts,” opinions on cultural topics (music, movies, celebrities, current events that aren’t politics or religion, fashion, historical facts, favorite books, etc), and light-hearted stories that you keep in your metaphorical back pocket to give you something to talk about in particular conversations.  

Always think before engaging: Before speaking, consider this way of thinking when you enter a conversation: You want to share information that helps you connect but allows them to speak more about their personal experience (so you feel less vulnerable). You don’t always want to hold back.

Learn the art of following up. Re-articulate to connect: Essentially, allow the other person to speak, and ask thoughtful follow-up questions. Paraphrase their points to confirm your understanding of what they’re saying. Make generalized connections about the overarching themes/point of their opinion or life story. This way of responding will help you become captivating to the other person. It makes your conversation partner feel understood on a deeper level. 

Connect through intellect without being intimate: Share your thoughts on topics, just not your personal experiences as to why you have these opinions necessarily. This approach allows you to maintain a mysterious aura without appearing closed off. Sometimes, you can intellectualize your conversation points and relate certain surface-level portions of your story/life experience to current events or other cultural/worldly subjects. Use these more philosophical or worldly connections to ask more follow-up questions. Make sure to read, educate yourself, and stay up to date on different topics across industries/life arenas to help you navigate a wider variety of conversations.

Me: 

- being high maintenance

1. health & wellness

more nutritious whole foods

daily servings of veggies & fruits

weekly meal prep

weekly meal planning

create new recipes

consistent daily workouts

daily walks

stretching + yoga every morning

7 hours of sleep minimum

2. finance

set monthly budgets

track daily & weekly spending

read books on financial literacy

create savings goals

save 20% of monthly paycheck

increase sources of income

learn more on investing

3. personal growth

read atleast 2 books a month

listen to an informative podcast weekly

grow side hustles

work on personal time management

practice positive self talk & affirmations daily

daily meditation & journaling

gratitude lists

create a vision board

self care, self care, SELF CARE !