ok you can also offer a child a shiny knife or whatever and they’d prolly want it but that doesn’t mean it can’t hurt them. just because a child agrees to something doesn’t mean it can’t hurt them. like, a child is not going to go up to an adult and be like “haha, lets fuck?” it’s going to be adult initiated nearly all the time.

People aren’t gatekeepers or “hatekeepers” for telling you not to roleplay as someone with a very real and serious disorder. 

Traumagenic systems aka DID and OSDD-1 systems are the only real systems. You cannot be a system if you have not experienced trauma or abuse and it didn’t happen during your formative years. That’s the only way a system can form. It’s a scientific fact, not an opinion, and not hate.

I get that you see the diagnostic criteria, see it doesn’t fit, and make up a name for a new type of “system” so you can still pretend to have “multiple personalities.” It’s ableist and harmful because people don’t know you’re pretending. 

Anyone who doesn’t think to Google it won’t see instantly it’s not a real thing and may think you have a different but related disorder. DID and OSDD-1 are already highly stigmatized, and singlets seeing you play pretend and saying things like “i have evil alters” and “ive been possessed” makes us seem even scarier. That stigma, that fear, causes us to be abused, institutionalized, or even killed. I’ve experienced 2/3 myself and I don’t appreciate you as a ‘community’ feeding into the problem.

It also spreads misinformation which is very harmful! It hurts people trying to learn about the disorder and how it works, particularly systems who are new to the concept and trying to figure out who they are and what happened. I know your ‘community’ likes to make up new concepts such as “system hopping” where an alter can supposedly jump into someone else’s head. This has frightened a bunch of people, mostly minors who are already confused and upset. Alters are real people and a part of our brains, not spirits or demons that can possess you and leave at will. Additionally, alters can go dormant, they can all integrate fully or one alter can combine with another alter but they can not die. They are a piece your brain that while once whole, has been split by trauma, and can split further or combine but can’t die. It’s not possible. These concepts you make up as a ‘community’ are scientifically and factually incorrect and are just scaring people who have already been through so much. 

If you want to pretend, that’s what the kin community is for. Though, it has issues of its own. If you feel more like one kin than another, you should say you are kinshifting and not that someone else is fronting because that is system terminology and not yours to take. We have also as a community expressed hurt with the concept of ‘alterhuman’ which is supposedly for people who are kin with non-human things. It’s been said that comparing alters to someone who is not real or not human is harmful. It’s also an issue of stealing terminology again. Speaking of, a “little” is and always has been a child alter in a system but thanks to dd/lg kinksters, actual children don’t feel comfortable using the term anymore. Stop taking our terms, be respectful.

I get that on tumblr there is this desire to be “valid,” to be acknowledged, to be given approval, but please remember that saying ‘i’m valid’ isn’t positivity on it’s own and that saying ‘i’m valid’ doesn’t excuse any type of behavior. It’s at this point a meaningless phrase.

When we say you’re not a system we are not telling you that you’re a bad person or that ‘you’re not valid,’ but it’s important to point out the tumblr culture that is scaring and confusing trauma victims and subjecting them to further abuse and judgment. You are adding to that, whether you mean to or not. I don’t actually have an issue with you in particular, I saw this because you posted in in #traumagenic and #positivelyplural which are not tags you should be using. You probably don’t mean any harm but the behavior and ‘community’ you are partaking in adds to the stigma of real systems, and gets us abused, institutionalized and killed. It needs to end.

If you are a singlet aka not a DID or OSDD-1 system I beg you to read and reblog this. There aren’t a lot of us, and it’s so easy to be ignored. But this is a huge issue and I feel like if people were pretending to have any other disorder it would get more attention. This has been going on for years.

People like this, movies like Split, tropes and stereotypes and misinformation feed into the stigma and fear surrounding systems and has real-world consequences for us. Many of us can only be open about being a system online or with our partners for fear of violence. Just for an example, I talked to a psychiatrist about being a system, and was in and out of psych wards for a few years, as a minor where I had no say in leaving, where I faced additional abuse from staff and other patients.

Getting tired of this. =_=

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I am so tired of the “fish are products” mentality that corporate pet stores have. Employees cannot refuse to sell fish, even if someone wants to put a goddamn koi in a bowl.

I just had a customer get pissed at me because I told him that keeping two goldfish in a ten is akin to keeping a dog in a closet, and it’s literally animal abuse and they’ll spend maybe two years in massive amounts of pain. He got pissed, made the manager do it, and got mad when I said we can’t replace the fish if it dies.

Literally RIGHT AFTER HIM is a lady with a ten gallon, a pleco, and four goldfish, getting a fifth goldfish. “But it’s okay because they’re babies.”

They didn’t care. I told them that all of our fish have minimum space requirements and that goldfish (per policy) need 30. They went and got the manager and made him do it when I told them all it’s animal abuse.

Fish are living, breathing, feeling creatures. They can feel pain, loneliness, hunger, cold. If someone told me they wanted me to sell them a canary for a mason jar, a chameleon for a critter keeper, a rabbit for a cat carrier, I could refuse every single one. Because a mason jar, a critter keeper, a cat carrier are not proper habitats for those animals, and they will spend their lives in abusive conditions. If you go to a shelter and try to adopt a dog because “I want him to live in his crate and make the room look pretty,” people would riot.

Please. Please help me stop committing disgusting abuse at my store. Help other employees stop committing abuse at their stores. Customers do not listen to us. If you overhear an interaction like the ones I had today, step in and tell that person the truth. That what they’re doing is animal abuse. Back up everything the employee says, if the employee knows their shit or educate them if they are clueless. You’re right, many pet store employees know jack shit about animals. But some of us care, some of us spend hours outside of work researching animals to give customers the best information possible, some of us are passionate about those often neglected and abused pets (hamsters, fish, any reptile) and risk being fired if we don’t do what the customer wants. Sell this fish into an environment that will 100% murder it or you’re fired. How fucked up is that?

Please. Call your local pet stores. The lfs mom and pop shop, Pet’s Plus, Fins Feathers. PLEASE call your PetSmarts and your Petcos and ask to speak to a manager. Tell them that their store policy dictates that fish are allowed to be sold into abusive conditions and employees have no way to stop it. PLEASE call the actual corporate numbers and file a complaint. File so many complaints. Please. I love my job and I love animals and most customers are normal human beings who care about animals but every so often I get people like this and it crushes me.

One of my managers has gone to battle against corporate four times for the right to refuse fish to improper homes. He has lost four times. He is only one person and he works for the company. Maybe if the CUSTOMERS, the source of our money, start complaining, corporate will take things seriously. Maybe then we’ll stop having to sell shitty 0.8 gallon tanks for goldfish and giving fucking plecos to 5g tanks. Maybe if this changes, we can get fish bowls banned. Maybe if this changes, we can work on improper care for other animals.

These are the basic shapes I was taught, and I use. Standard lipsync shapes;; 

You have your closed mouth to open, to clenched teeth, to oohs, and your (often optional) F, L, and TH mouths.

Tips!

Your top teeth don’t move;  I mean, stylistically it happens sometimes (Gravity falls does it fairly well, as much as I haaaaate that), but your lipsync will prolly look better if they don’t.

My clenched teeth (SH) mouth is always a bit wider than my biggest AH mouth. It adds variation and helps your shapes blend more nicely. Conversely, my biggest AH mouth is narrower than my SH mouth and my closed (M) mouth.

My L mouth is a tiny bit more closed than my biggest AH, and not as closed as my second biggest AH. It fits between them nicely so that if you have to go from an L to an AH mouth, like you would for the word “Like” or “Love”, it doesn’t pop or look weird.

My R and oo mouths move forward on the face a bit, it adds dimension, and if you leave it all in the same place and have the mouth just shrink into a circle it miiiight look weird.

Aaaaand I think that’s it?  Never go from a SH mouth to a TH mouth, it’ll pop and look weird…uhhh;   Also! It’s alright to skip some shapes;; So below is a lipsync I made using the above shapes;

It’s clear what they’re saying, the mouth is moving nicely, but there’s only one problem. Veeeery rarely do they give you enough time to use all the mouths you want to make it move nice. Voice actors talk fast to fit everything in and holycrap do we hate  love them for it.

So here’s a fast one.

Can’t pay the full amount you owe on a bill? Pay as much as you can each month. Most places just wanna know you’re making a good faith effort. You can usually even call and ask for a smaller minimum monthly payment plan until you catch up, so that maybe you won’t be getting late fees added on to your balance. It’s worth calling to see. 

Third time you’ve had to reschedule that doctor’s appointment? Oh well. Your doc probably just wants to make sure you make it in to their office at all. Keep trying.

Half-assing is always better than no-assing folks. I know lots of us are anxiety-ridden perfectionists and it feels like if we can’t do everything exactly right on the first try we just shouldn’t bother. But that’s not true. 

What happens when a tree branch falls onto a powerline?

Answer: Dramatic Annihilation

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THAT IS BEAUTIFUL.

•rocking back and forth

•itching because i can still feel their hands

•never trusting where I stand with people

•constantly feeling like a liar or a burden

•being terrified of messing up with my partner because He told me I was always wrong

•fetishes because of abuse

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DID is caused by repeated childhood trauma before the child has gained a personal sense of self. Most children gain this sense of self around 6-9 years old. Therefore, DID cannot form after the ages of 6-9.

DID is caused by repeated childhood trauma. Trauma can include physical, mental, emotional, or sexual abuse, invasive medical procedures, repeated natural disasters, severe neglect, and/or war. The trauma must have been repetitive. Without trauma, DID cannot form.

To have DID, amnesia must occur. Amnesia is defined as gaps in the recall of everyday events, important personal information and/or traumatic events.

If someone does not fit all of the criteria for DID, they’re diagnosed with OSDD (Other Specified Dissociative Disorder.) For instance: If someone does not experience amnesia, they do not meet the diagnostic criteria for DID, and will be diagnosed with OSDD.

Fictives (or Fictional Introjects) exist in some systems. Fictives are fictional characters that become alters. They are formed like any other alter, from trauma, either at a young age, or stress happening to someone who ALREADY has DID. They do not develop just from a love of a character, or from wanting that character to be real. They are not the same as imaginary friends, or roleplay characters.

DID is not the same as being kin with someone/something. Being kin with a character means relating to that character. This is not the same as an alter. Some people may believe they are the character that they are kin with, but this is not DID either.

Alters are not roleplay characters. People who roleplay and create characters might feel like their characters have their own personalities, to the point that the character ‘doesn’t listen to them’ about certain things, but this is a fairly normal thing for writers. It is not DID, and they are not alters. EDIT: Roleplay characters, like any other character, can be introjected into the system in some cases, if the person already has DID. (You can still do whatever you’d like with that character, even if it feels like they would disagree. Knowing how they would feel about certain actions, or feeling like they wouldn’t agree or approve of you doing something when writing what they would do is not the same as an alter. Take it from someone who has both alters and roleplay characters: they are not even remotely the same.)

Alters are made inside the person’s mind. Therefore, alters cannot come from outside someone’s mind. Some alters believe that they came from elsewhere, and even have memories of lives before being an alter, but this is part of DID, and is an illusion. (I have an alter who has memories of a life before becoming an alter. I am not belittling any alters who have these memories or beliefs.)

Alters cannot travel between people. No one can send an alter into someone else’s mind, or send one of their alters out of their own minds. (This is in fact a very dangerous idea that can be used by abusers to further hurt or control people with DID.)

Alters cannot die or be erased. They can be sectioned off so much that they are no longer felt, or put in a hibernation state, but they are not gone. Integrating is an option some systems choose to pursue, but even then, the alter is not gone, they’ve just become part of another alter or the system as a whole.

Alters are parts of a single person that has been kept from being able to gain a full sense of self or identity because of trauma as a child. This does not make the alters fake, and does not mean that the host or core (if there is one) can control them. Alters are not the same person, and do not identify as each other or the host or core. This is the entire point of DID, to not identify as each other in order to compartmentalize traumatic events so the person is able to go on living. (It’s completely normal and in fact part of the disorder for alters and the core/host to not see themselves as the same person. For all intents and purposes, they are not the same person.)

DID is a serious mental condition caused by trauma. It is not a fad, or a game.

Everyone experiences the symptoms of DID differently. This does not mean that if someone does not meet the DSM criteria for DID, they have it anyway.

DID is not accurately represented in media. If you see a show, book, movie or game that says it’s about DID, or seems to have aspects of DID, assume that it’s wrong, or take it with a grain of salt. (The exceptions being recent case studies, books from people who have DID, and the like. Sybil and other such media is not an accurate representation.)