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used the phrase "i mean, i don't think we're paying enough attention to what the back of that embroidery is going to look like" in a meeting today because if business bros get to throw out meaningless jargon all the time, i! get! to play! too!

having internet friends is the same as having irl friends but backwards. when you first meet someone irl the first thing you see is your face, and the first thing you learn is their name. maybe you ask where they're from, what their family is like, what they like to do in their free time. you have to figure out if you want to be friends. but if you make friends over the internet, you already have a shared interest. you might learn each other's routines, timezones, different habits. but learning their real name is a big deal. face reveals are an even bigger deal. the things you usually first learn about someone are some of the last things you learn about someone you meet online. you're making friends, but backwards.

love seeing everyone in the notes say how much they love their online friends and how grateful they are for them. love seeing love in the world

tuck him in Tuesday

tuck him in Tuesday once again

another tuck him in Tuesday is here

WHAT THE HELL IS YOUR PROBLEM

a small thing i learned from my sister dying is that i really would rather the people i love be a burden than be whatever the hell else they'd be if they weren't. yes even if it's messy and not always fair and hard completely inconvenient for everyone involved. even if it's weird. even if i'm rolling my eyes a bit inside sometimes. i just want you to bother me. please always bother me

like "it's rotten work" "not to me not if it's you" actually sometimes it's still rotten work. even if it's you. and i'd still do it a million times over

I’m not saying it’s easy, but you will do yourself a lifelong favor if you get to the point where you truly believe incontinence is not shameful. Unpleasant, uncomfortable, inconvenient, sure, you don’t have to like it, but trust me, as a nurse who’s done incontinence care hundreds of time—it is, at its heart, whatever. It is what it is. As far as I can tell, there only two types of people: those who’ve shit themselves and those whose turn hasn’t come up yet. To exist is to excrete waste. There’s nothing to gain from feeling ashamed of how you do it. Pissing yourself is value neutral.

“With his husband of 45 years.” You kids don’t know ... they got together before AIDS, at the peak of the Gay Glam Life. They stayed together as their generation died around them, and made through it to the point where they could marry and have a legal family. He looks like a chipper preppie who never had a serious thought or care in the world, but it took *incredible* determination, commitment, and also luck to get here.

having now read the first of this man's vampire books, you can absolutely tell that he cares a lot about historical furniture because oh my god he really wanted to tell us about all the historical furniture in this vampire's house. material culture as foreplay. seduction via theses about chairs