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“Closing your eyes will not prevent women from being raped, battered, or tortured by intimate partners being inspired and impelled by pornography. Nor will it help adolescent girls forced out on streets, coerced into imitating pornography upon thousands of clients’ requests, to escape the sexual abuse. Defining harm as an offence to observers silences and denies these women their rights.”

- “he” in the way you call an animal you don’t know the gender of “a little guy”

- “she” in the way sailors refer to their boats

Fuck that.

That's not what this post was saying and I don't give a fuck if you think it was. Just because you took issue with it. No male default. Not possession of the feminine. Fuck off.

He like the small and cute. He like the feeling of unsurity. He as in the comfort of seeing a small creature and wishing to take care of it in some small way. He in the way you call a small animal little guy.

She in the way of awe and strength. She in the way of fear and respect. She of comradery of shared trauma and experience. She of trials and judgements. She of survival and fierceness. She in the way sailors refer to their boats.

They in the way of the unknown. They of stories and rumors. They of knowledge and secrets. They who see and know. They in the way that people say that they say____.

Screw you for trying to ruin things.

Why do you THINK sailors refer to their ships as “she” … do you honestly think it’s because of awe and strength? You think that’s what they think of women so they call their ships she? No, it’s a possessive term. The same reason men calls their cars she. Possessions.

The absolute fucking lack of brain cells you all have. You never think about WHY anything comes to be the way it is. and it’s fucking infuriating. Your little interpretation is cute for you buddy but it is absolutely not why “he” and “she” are used that way in language. your little story doesn’t change anything. whatever spin you wanna put on it doesn’t change how tired and played out (and rooted in sexism) it is to use pronouns this way. Get a grip

The point is not in whatever assumptions you have made it

The point is why do you have to take something that's meant to be fun and over analyze it? Why can't you just let people enjoy little things? Why don't you just shut up and let people find things that make them proud of their genders? Why can I, a genderfluid person not enjoy the idea that even on masc days I can be soft? That on fem days I can be fierce? Why can't you just let people like things without making them feel bad for liking things?

Of course there is prejudice in language. Of course there is something to analyze. But you don't have to analyze everything. You don't have to break everything. You don't have to make people feel dumb and lesser for enjoying gender expressions that fit in things like this.

Roots of hatred

Why do men express such hatred of women? 

Psychoanalysts suggest that men’s gender identity is very fragile because, within typical child-rearing practices, girls can identify with their primary care-taker while boys have to separate themselves from their mother in order to achieve and assert their masculinity.

‘The whole process of becoming masculine is at risk in the little boy from the date of his birth on; his still-to-be-created masculinity is endangered by the primary, profound, primeval oneness with the mother.‘ 

It is only by setting woman apart as Other, by resisting intimacy with her, by treating her with contempt and aggression, that men assert their own independent and fragile masculinity.

And because men have distanced themselves from ‘the weaker sex’ over the ages, setting themselves up as superior, it must be unbearably humiliating to need and desire women so much. 

Sex with women can re-evoke in men 'the unqualified, boundless, helpless passion of infancy. If he lets her, she can shatter his adult sense of power and control; she can bring out the soft, wild, naked baby in him’.

In heterosexual intercourse men risk discovering in women an unsettling power which contradicts and undermines their own more obvious social, political and physical power. 

No wonder male sexual desire is so desperately tormented and full of conflict.

Because women know men to be vulnerable and fragile, they are often tempted to excuse them as 'just little boys’ who need to over-compensate for their sense of inadequacy or 'womb-envy’ with acts of spiteful misogyny. 

Female nurturing is presented as the solution to male violence - as though women haven’t been doing that for centuries. 

Germaine Greer once commented that 'women have very little idea of how much men hate them’.