This is a kink blog. Kind of. There’s gonna be smut. If you follow me and your age isn’t in your bio, I will block you. (If you’re following from a side blog, I can’t see that and your age needs to be in your main bio.)
I wouldn’t read too much into recurring themes, as a lot of what I write is in reaction to content I see on Tumblr.
Finally - and I know I'm a stereotype of a writer here - but I'll never be sad if you give me feedback. DM me. Ask me. Whatever, I like hearing what does and doesn’t click with folks.
As I have a working computer again, I've begun indexing my posts! I've Tried to put the ones that are more informative or educational at the top.
But it's a work in progress:
Hypnosis Concepts
Fractionation
Hypnotic Susceptibility and Other Myths
The Mind
Psychonautica
Astrology is Good, Actually
Hypnotic Memory
Cognitive Schema Schemata Stuff
Practical Play
Touch Training and Conditioning
Practical Check-ins
Hypnotic Amnesia
Roleplaying Consent
Negotiating Up (Long, Consent)
Being Brainless
Being Mindful
Hypnokink Tropes
Ask FPPP
Safety & Getting Started w/ Hypnosis
Unlearning & Memory Play: What If I Forget?
Why Do People Like To Hypnotise People? Why Do People Like To Be Hypnotised?
Feminism and Patriarchy
Barbie Girl in a Barbie the Real World (Barbie Movie Spoilers)
Girlboss
Liberal Feminism and Sadistic Glee
Proper Patriarchy
Overcoming Your Problematic Kink With Marxist-Feminism
Sex and Politics
Sex and The Silly
Intelligence as a Social Construct (And How That Explains Your Fetishes)
Feminism is Good, Actually (Please Stop Being A Reactionary On My Blog)
Your Kink Is Problematic. What To Do About It?
Kink and Politics (And Why You Shouldn't Try Not To "Be Political")
It's Not Corruption, It's Political Education
All The Good Smut Is Woke
Neurodiversity and Hypnosis
Neurodiversity Is Not A Barrier To Hypnosis
Neurodiversity and Hypnosis, Redux
The Neurodiversity and Hypnosis Will Continue Until Morale Improves
Things That Really Grind My Gears
You're [Not] Being Hypnotised Wrong
NLP, Stagework, and Hypnokink
Hypnosis-Adjacent
Why You Should Practice Storytelling
An Intro To Spirals (1st ed. 2022)
Fun Chloroform Facts!
Hypnotic Fiction
HR
Premonitions
Duplicates (Cora pt 1) (CW: Death)
Prototypes (Cora pt 2)
Hypnotic Thoughts
Gardening
Sustainable Brainwashing
Absolution
Why Wake Up At All?
You’re Not Into This Sort Of Thing
Adaptability
Seduction
Is Hypnosis "Real?"
Thought-Terminating Clichés
Role Models
OK!
Losing All Meaning
What's a Little Craniotomy Between Friends? (CW: Medical)
Thinking For Yourself (CW: Degradation)
Raw Materials (CW: Degradation)
Dumb Fuck (CW: Degradation)
Dumber (CW: Degradation)
Dehumanization and You
Posts I've Muted Notifications On
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There are another couple but I'll add them when I see them again.
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Air to air combat is the easiest form of warfare to argue that both parties consent to. Dogfighting is basically kink and it should turn you on at least a little.
This honestly does it all such little justice. You need to know your opponents airframe intimately- how it handles, turns, how much it weights and how it pulls against the air. How to dance with her body elegantly, and all for just a brief moment under the sights. The strain of your body as you pull the stick, the strain of the engines as they try to give all the force you need. All for a glimpse. The blood rushing from your head as you push forward, the fight for elevation, dominance, potential energy. Position is gained slowly and lost quickly. Eagerness can find you vulnerable, under the eye of your enemy. And all they need too, just a brief glimpse. Just one moment under her sights till you’re undone, penetrated, bleeding oil and smoke and shuddering.
I admire your writing and your analysis. Yet it honestly just seems like you take at face value the idea that the mainstream world has of what they consider to be attractive or sexually desirable. It's very confusing, because someone analytical and intelligent like yourself would have to come to the conclusion at some point that there is a difference between what is labeled "good" and what one's own personal taste is. Forming our own personal taste eventually.
Most of your images are very much mainstream, something you could see in any very popular porn or film or fashion photoshoot - not showing signs of individually developed taste, your own specific personal interests. Just generic "hot". It's hard to reconcile this because I follow you for the intellectual posts and am then bombarded with unthoughtful images taken by people who thought very little while filming/photographing about creating a countercultural definition, instead following "the norm". This is not really compatible with being a thinker.
First of all, thank you. When people try to troll me, hurt me for fun, or get revenge for me ignoring them, they usually say my thinking is crap, that I must be a closeted lesbian, or that I should stop writing nonsense that no one cares about and show my breasts. This is more elaborate and possibly a more refined form of malice. Apparently, because their logic has some holes.
I'll point this out; I'm dedicating time to this, and I'm not certain you have bad intentions. It's just that what you say, how you say it, and sending me Ask here anonymously have already worn me out, as it makes me think that's what you mean…
To begin with… you say that some photos could be from adult films—a few are!—but they come with commentary and are taken out of context in the style of French Situationists and meme humor. I'd say there's more posing, but not the Playboy kind (though there are some), more like a hosiery catalog… but anyway, you consider what's published to be showing personal taste, and I've said many times that naked women aren't my sexual priority. It's like watching a news report of a game and thinking it's because the journalist is a fan of the winning team… journalism, reporting, analysis. And to think that a journalist doesn't get emotional or show favoritism doesn't mean they lack a passion for the sport or affiliation with a team… it means they're doing their job objectively, not from behind a bar talking to friends, but formally addressing a large audience that follows them not for who they are as a person, but for what they report and show.
I don't understand the confusion between good and mainstream, or what it's about. Haven't I made a thousand jokes about the clichés and ridiculous things they sometimes do? When I say that mainstream is good?, there are countless references to the fact that it's only the most generic and massive spectrum, about adult productions seek the largest number of consumers by catering to general tastes and repeating formulas to absurd. Are you reading me carefully, or are these things slipping through because you're writing to me as an AI?
If it was already a mistake to adopt a popularizing tone and a journalistic stance with a personal opinion or lack of judgment, it's another mistake to think that anthropology or sociology can determine what's good. They can be used to clarify dynamics or outcomes that await understanding of their causes in order to modulate them, or simply to map a culture to understand why things are done. But the man with a mustache who disembarked on an island to ask the indigenous people to cover up because it bothered him, and to take notes while judging them is demodee. The establishment of serious criteria on 'cultural relativism,' an expression coined for anthropological study defending the need to refrain from judgment. Analysis is paramount if we want to understand.
Your complaint—if it's serious and not just a polite insult to get a response—is based on many assumptions that aren't there, that don't apply. There's counterculture on my blog, at least underground; just look at the music I post. But how can you focus on adult pop and mainstream culture without addressing the generic? It's like valuing anti-colonial thought and the study of the soft power that imperialism exerts through mass culture… and dismissing as "non-thinkers" those who wrote "about Donald Duck" because they talk about Disney stuff… to do exactly what you want to find, you demand to find it, and in return for nothing!
Why the last sentence? Because it has a lot of influence. Neither thought nor culture is born and travels in a vacuum without conditions or circumstances. It's expressed differently, and without photos, in an academic paper. Sometimes I cite one, but it's nothing people want to read because of its length and boring style. People hardly read anything in general. Here the rules are different: publishing doesn't cost as much as it does there or in the press, but you fight for attention by scrolling. Do I want to say something serious, profound, intelligent? Well, it has to be short, easy to read, and accompanied by attractive photos of a wide range that are examples or jokes related to what I'm saying. But beware! Another danger is censorship by AI. I mustn't use certain flagged 'words' or have the post flagged for what the photos show because that makes it appear less in feeds and less recommended in what's called 'shadowbanning.' So, between jokes, memes, lingerie, and pretty nudes (of women, because men's are less popular and the AI censors them more because their private parts are more visible when they're standing), I offer these reflections, these ideas that break the cycle of not thinking, that question things. It's like riding a wave or using the current to sow that difference.
My authors are always credited, and sometimes I upload their books if it's legal. Anyone who wants more, something deeper, can search for them and their work further. Here, I can do what I can given the circumstances. And I don't intend to introduce you to the complete thought of Mark Fisher or Camille Paglia; this isn't the place, and there are a thousand other topics. But I know from the feedback that many people have told me they've come to know about these people, their works, and their ways of seeing things because I've shown them examples.
I've never said my blog is countercultural or punk; I am, or perhaps these are my tendencies. I'm also a bit of a troll, but in a good-hearted way: I immerse myself in sexualized environments, I study them, and I expose clichés, absurdities, and unrealities of the mainstream, and I open debates about eroticism and the roles within it. Perhaps what's countercultural or different isn't what I post, but how or why, but I don't know. I just keep this alive every day and let my ways of doing things emerge, discuss some of them, and refine them. It's a continuous process; I'm playing: I'm learning to be a blogger and communicator, in addition to learning about what I comment on. I do it all while fearfully avoiding being banned and spreading ideas that don't usually find a place here. I don't consider myself a thinker, but rather someone who tries to think, to stimulate myself to write a little each day and read a little more so that what I say is well-researched and makes sense. I don't expect to create a masterpiece, a legacy, or generate my own system of thought, but rather to engage in an activity, a continuous process, that pulls me to think and study, shaking me out of the daily grind and from being a mere consumer of series and YouTube.
I don't give myself the importance you all want to give me. But often, breaking the dynamic of silence or the sexual harassment I usually receive, I find comments similar to yours where people who hide their true identities, even as a blog, reproach me for not being good enough to deserve their attention because I don't condemn adult films, the adult industry, or because I don't address the things they want in the way they want on my blog… I do something light and fun that I learn to do as I go. I've said it a thousand times: I don't find the photos I post sexy myself—unless I explicitly say so—and I don't entirely agree with all the quotes I include, but a debate, a process of thinking or rethinking something, begins this way: by presenting and mapping different perspectives on the topic. There are texts that condemn adult films, and the opposite; but you also find other theses about the mechanisms of terror or how it is sexual. There are many topics, opinions between photos that are just to keep the constant posting going, so stop demanding or questioning me for not being or not doing what you'd like me to be, based on what you've imagined I should be or what you understand by "thinker." I think, I express my own ideas and opinions, as well as those of others. As you can see, I also dedicate time to criticism if it's more articulated than mere insults… but I don't have final, preconceived opinions about everything. I came here to form them, to learn things, and to have debates, but what I get are requests for my breasts to see and anger from people I don't know for not being what they think I should be.
My blog is a conversation: between the posts that sometimes continue and have recurring themes, between my past and present self, where I revisit topics, expand on ideas I jotted down elsewhere… and between anyone who wants to comment on what I post. I don't speak from a pulpit or from a rigid system where everything is fixed in my opinions. If that were the case, and I couldn't benefit from what you tell me in my search, I would write a book, not a public journal where I listen to feedback, don't give lessons, and seek opinions, new ideas, and references that invite you to share what I share with you.
I'm sorry to disappoint you and that you think I don't think. If that's truly the case, and you're not just trying to mock me and make me feel stupid, I'm doing the best I can. This is how I know now; I'm learning, and the truth is, the lack of feedback, or feedback like yours, isn't helping me at all. If you have concrete ideas on how to do what I say, tell me. I'm looking for ideas and ways to improve, but to think that I must be unintelligent or lack taste because I post photos that appeal to my almost 23,000 followers…
Maybe I post mainstream photos because I talk about what mainstream media is like to a broad audience (that is, the mainstream in terms of readership). Haven't you considered that? I wanted to answer this alone, but I felt it might sound passive-aggressive to point out that you hadn't thought about something.
I'm more comfortable on this blog. I post fashion, memes, and only people who are clothed, nothing marked as 'adult,' between the downloads and posts with text that I'd like to keep if I suddenly had to delete the other one because of nudity. Any study is done with data. Here's some: this blog has 2,100 followers, and the other one has 23,000, as I said. Maybe it's because of the mainstream photos and my comments about them.
As I said before, you don't create something from nothing and there are conditions: artists have to make something they can sell if they're not rich, and blogs have to be attention-grabbing. If I'm going to talk about pop culture being invaded by pornography, I'll have to talk about adult films, pop culture, and mainstream culture. And I'll have to give examples, and discuss them, and compare the statistics between the two blogs—that's what differentiates this blog from the other in terms of content, and the other blog has ten times more followers. Maybe I do it for that reason and not because I don't think, maybe…
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It's natural to wanting to obey them. It's natural to wanting to be a docile, worshipful pet sitting between their thighs and muzzle against their bulge. They have all the authority, I give it to them. They are in control. It's natural to give in and be the most obedient and malleable pet that you can be.
it really is all about a gentle creepiness for me though. like a gentle creepy possessiveness. a situation that's intimate and kind of relaxing but still a little off-putting. it's really that specific feeling and vibe and atmosphere and tone that i'm always trying to capture. something looming and intimidating and overpowering but not violent at all. a calm and uncanny kind of predation. getting stuck in the web. it's a spidery feeling. a sticky feeling. i've always been really into it
honestly i'm such a sucker for like very subtle resistance in hypnosis, like in the middle of a session. the kind where the hypnotist just has to repeat themself or be a little more firm or give a little bit of encouragement, and it's just gone
like, you come up a little bit, you tense up a little bit, and then the hypnotist just kinda smooths that out and brings you back down and gets you back on track. i just like being soothed and coaxed and directed like that. it's gentle but it feels so controlling. like that little bit of resistance doesn't even register as resistance at that point, right. it was a little hiccup. it was just you losing your focus for a second, or not understanding what you needed to do. and that's alright. it's easy enough to work through that. you just needed a little help
It's really astounding how a touch of chemical mind alteration intertwined with a few previously *very* underappreciated triggers devoured my intellect so hungrily.
And I don't mean to imply I'm some accomplished thinker here. I mean, come on, lol. But I've never quite felt that way. I couldn't piece together more than a simple, short sentence without losing my train of thought. When presented with something moderately complex, everything just evaporated and giggles burst forth from nothing. Inhibitions were faint and indecipherable, easily muzzled by the torrent of dumb arousal.
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The first step feels the best. That first choice to give up a little bit of your will. That first domino. There’s nothing like it. Because you know where this path will lead. You know if you take the first step, you won’t stop until you’ve traded every last piece of free will for pleasure. And that’s exactly why the first step feels the best.
For the longest time (in the beginning of my hypno journey) I thought I couldn't be hypnotized. I couldn't drop my shoulders on command, I couldn't melt into relaxation and rolling my eyes back hurt. Staring at spirals just made my eyes tired. Everyone else seemed to sink effortlessly into trance while I sat there wondering what I was doing wrong so naturally I kept trying harder. Trying to relax harder, trying to focus harder, trying to become the kind of subject I thought I was supposed to be.
Then I met someone who was patient enough to answer my questions instead of dismissing them. Someone who explained things rather than insisting I was doing it wrong and slowly, my perception changed. Hypnosis stopped being this rigid thing with a checklist of symptoms I had to achieve. It became something much more personal. Something shaped by expectation, imagination, trust, and desire.
They didn't care whether my muscles felt heavy. They liked me a little dumb. A little giggly. A little silly. That was so easy! They wanted me to feel like a puppy in training so I perceived myself as such and acted like a puppy that is being trained by her handler. My mind had finally been given a direction it actually wanted to follow. The same thing happened with being a silly bimbo, a doll, a worshipper, a dozen other versions of myself.
It turns out hypnosis for me isn't about relaxation. It's all the influence I perceive and how my mind shapes itself in answer to it.
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Anytime you proposition someone, whether it's a long shot or a "sure thing", disappointment is a possibility. You shouldn't stop propositioning people for fear of disappointment, but at the same time that possibility has to be in your mind, and you have to be prepared to manage it. If you can't, if you make it the other person's problem, then that's a consent issue.
You have to practice the polite, friendly, "ok, no worries!" and then peace out. In an ideal world, you're super philosophical about it, you don't even feel disappointed. But in the real world - it usually means hiding it.
After that you manage yourself: maybe this looks like texting a friend to hang out, maybe it looks like cueing up a show or videogame you're excited about, maybe listening to country music - the music of pain - maybe doing something creative, maybe taking yourself out to dinner. But it's so important to learn to like your own company for such times - you must never put your hope in someone to save you from time with yourself.
I have to admit, when I see or read about men not holding it together in the face of rejection, eg many accounts of male behaviour on fetlife, I get a bit smugly judgmental. A part of me is like, "bro: man up!" But it is a tough thing to learn, and I do think men don't get as much support around managing their feelings around that - I feel like women are at least offered more advice about that.
And on the flip side, I know unregulated men are often at least a whiny, passive aggressive pain in the ass when disappointed, and not infrequently scary. There's even a micro trend of "incel horror movies" about men trying to take away women's ability to reject them, eg Obsession or Companion.
Interestingly, the non monogamous, slutty, granular-consent world of kink offers the chance for many new types of disappointment. Maybe someone only wants to do one limited thing with you, when you would like to do more. Maybe someone is fucking half the people at an orgy, and you're not in that half. Maybe they wanted to have sex with you for a while, and now they only want to hang out as friends. Maybe they only want to play with you once in a while, when they're in a certain mood. You have to be so real with yourself, and the other person, of whether that works for you - or if you need to take a step back, and switch into getting-over-that-person mode. But ultimately it's a beautiful thing, that, even when one side is thirsting for more, these customized-consent hookups can bloom. It's so good when you can look into your heart and find true appreciation for your time together, whatever form it took.
Besides just managing your own emotions, which therapy and other kinds of self help can improve, I know two things that make this better.
The first is a feeling of abundance, that there are lots of possibilities around, multiple people in the getting-to-know-them pipeline. That means hustling: getting out there and meeting people, even when you don't feel like it. Sometimes that means finding the right community, even when it takes significant travel time. And then proactively seeing if there's more there with the people you meet.
On this point, something the often-toxic PUA world gets right is that fixating on one person, what they call "one-itis", like it has to happen with my cute coworker or neighbour or rope instructor, is a recipe for disaster: both for having flatlining love and sex life, and also for putting pressure on someone to not let you down. (I hate moves and TV shows that buy into this trope, like to me How I Met Your Mother is a horror movie) Leave that person alone and think about how to make abundant possibilities.
The second is, this just gets easier with time and experience. I've had a lot of sexual and romantic disappointments, some of them super embarrassing. And I survived.
But I've also had lots of things work out. I've had people I thought were way out of my league be into me, I've had things just happen out of the blue with no effort. I've thought that something was definitely not happening, only to discover that the person was just busy or distracted and pinged me back much later (and being super chill with the initial silence or "no" vastly increases the chances of that happening). And I've been the one to disappoint other people - and being on the other side of it has given me a lot of compassion for when people have to let me down.
I will say, if you're in some kind of woe is me spiral of, "it never works", I'm doomed to always be the one who's disappointed, there's bigger problems going on, and those are not the fault of any individual person rejecting you - it's a signal that it's time to work on yourself.
Don't let fear of disappointment stop you hitting on people, in fact if you're a conscientious, consent aware person you probably could be doing it more. As long as you're doing it in appropriate ways and times, it's all good practice in surfing that extremely human and unavoidable feeling - disappointment.
PS Sex blogger and podcaster Kate Sloan has a lovely piece about appreciating one-sided, aching crushes for their own sake, as fuel for self-improvement and creativity, well worth a read.
Disappointment is such a normal feeling to feel. But it is super vital how you decide to work through that feeling. It is never, *never* the job of the person who said "no" or "not yet" or "not like that" to spend a lot of effort to comfort you, or capitulate to your desires, just because you are disappointed. You want others to be transparent with you, always, and tell you the truth about what they want or need or can handle.
This doesn't mean pretend you're not disappointed at all, especially internally to yourself, because that will create problems in other ways. But this post is a great jumping-off point to examine what your needs are and how to get those met. Rejection often says more about the other person than it does about you, so keep communicating openly, and try again! Maybe with someone else, maybe a different activity with the same person, maybe at a later time. So long as you allow for a change in at least one of the details, you are far more likely to succeed next time--or at least learn something about you and the person you're interacting with :)
I've absolutely told people at the bathhouse or the club that I think they're attractive and I'd be down to play, and they have indicated they're not interested for one reason or another. But every single one of those people has had respect for me asking in the first place, and they've appreciated the respect I return by listening to their "no".
It's really astounding how a touch of chemical mind alteration intertwined with a few previously *very* underappreciated triggers devoured my intellect so hungrily.
And I don't mean to imply I'm some accomplished thinker here. I mean, come on, lol. But I've never quite felt that way. I couldn't piece together more than a simple, short sentence without losing my train of thought. When presented with something moderately complex, everything just evaporated and giggles burst forth from nothing. Inhibitions were faint and indecipherable, easily muzzled by the torrent of dumb arousal.