CLOUDY ☁️

i think we should bring this back (with some amendments ofc) if we ever needed an "internet etiquette" for the younger generations, now is the moment to remind them. purity culture kills fandom

as well as the three laws of fandom:

Me: I need to finish my assignments so I can graduate

I sent you to the DM what was sent to me.

⚠️(Warning: Contains death threats, doxxing, and suicide baiting sent by “antis”)⚠️

I received this message from a talented author who wishes to remain anonymous for their own safety. They were bullied out of the fandom. They deleted all their works. Why? Because of THIS. 👇

Look at these screenshots. LOOK AT THEM.

To all the “moral purists” and “protectors of children” in this fandom: You claim that drawing a monster or writing a 18+ fic is a “crime.” But YOU are the ones committing REAL CRIMES.

“Go drink bleach / Your mother should have had an abortion” — This is Suicide Baiting. You are telling a real human being to die over a fictional character.

“I found your LinkedIn… I’ll send it to your boss” — This is DOXXING and BLACKMAIL. This is illegal. You are trying to ruin someone’s real life and career because you didn’t like a fanfic? Are you insane?

“I’ll send it to the FBI” — Wasting law enforcement resources on false accusations is also a crime.

You are not heroes. You are not “saving” anyone. You are sadistic bullies who use “morality” as an excuse to torture people. You care more about pixels on a screen than you do about real human lives.

NOW, TO THE AUTHOR (AND ANYONE SCARED OF THEM): First of all, I am deeply sorry they targeted you. The fact that you had to delete your work because you were afraid for your life is a tragedy. You didn’t deserve this shit. BUT HEAR ME OUT: STOP BEING SCARED OF THESE CLOWNS. 🤡

Do not let these pathetic losers scare you. Who do you think is writing this? A dangerous hacker? The FBI? NO. It is a MOMMY’S DOXXER sitting in a basement, who probably can’t even ask for extra ketchup at McDonald’s without having a panic attack.

DO NOT FEED THEIR EGO. When you delete your work, when you cry, when you run away — YOU LET THEM WIN. You validate their sad, miserable existence. They get off on your fear because they have ZERO power in real life.

Being medicated isn’t for everyone, but it is a powerful tool in our toolbox. and I am seeing way too many people giving up that option prematurely, because they are unware that:

there are different medication options. they do not all have the same side effects, and not all are amphetamines 

dosage matters. if you are discontinuing bc of side effects, consider trying a lower dose first

a good doctor will be willing to work with you to find a regime that works

I know that’s such a “duh” statement but so so many people assume the high they feel for the first few days on a stimulant that works is how it’s always going to be and it’s not. Once your brain gets used to the new “normal” on meds, you lose that high feeling and get to a “hey, I can actually get shit done, lookit that” kind of place.

It amazes me how many people never had anyone explain that to them. I’ve been on some sort of SSRI for the last 20 years so when I started Adderall I knew what to expect. I had so many people (in a group for ADHD) tell me that the “holy shit look at me go!!!” feeling would wear off and it would stop working after a week or two and I had to walk them through just how wrong they were and quite a few had no idea that that feeling isn’t supposed to last long term. 🤦🏼‍♀️

I explained it like this:

Your unmedicated brain is used to operating at a 4 on a good day. It sucks, you’re all over the place, a hot mess. Then you get on a medication that works (antidepressant, stimulant, non-stimulant, whatever) and the first few days are incredible! You can’t believe that this is how it’s supposed to be! Your brain is now holding steady at an 8 or 9 and you are one productive bitch! But then your brain gets used to operating at an 8 or 9 and it becomes your new normal. It’s harder to recognize that the medication is still working because there’s no noticeable high anymore. You get bummed because you assume it’s not working and you either request a med change or a bump in dosage. Then 8 months later you’re frustrated and depressed because you’ve maxed out on the dosage of whatever med it is and you think nothing is going to work but really you’ve unknowingly self sabotaged.

Because the truth is, the first dose worked perfectly, but your squirrelly ADHD brain is so used to searching for the next dopamine hit that you failed to recognize that you were able to get through the tasks you needed to just fine. You weren’t hyperfocused on researching the nuances of plant breeding, you didn’t spend 5 hours in executive dysfunction while staring at your vacuum, you actually remembered to thaw out chicken for dinner. You missed all of that because you were looking for that high feeling that you had at first.

So, how does one figure out if the med is working or not when you can’t tell because your brain is a dopamine fiend? Personally, I make daily “ta-da” lists. Not lists of things I need to do, but lists of things I did. Before meds, I’d have maybe 5 things on a ta-da list. After meds, I’d have 15-20 things on my list! So it does work, even if I don’t feel like I’m on cloud 9 when I take it.

This is the post being referenced for those new to the blog!

1) Search for: watch TITLE OF WORK free online

2) Scroll to the bottom of results. Click any of the "Complaint" links

3) You will be taken to a long list of links that were removed for copyright infringement. Use the 'find' function to search for the name of the show/movie you were originally searching for. You will get something like this (specifics removed because if you love an illegal streaming site you don't post its url on social media)

4) each of these links is to a website where you can stream shit for free. go to the individual websites and search for your show/movie. you might have to copy-paste a few before you find exactly what you're looking, but the whole process only takes a minute. the speed/quality is usually the same as on netflix/whatever, and they even have subtitles! (make sure to use an adblocker though, these sites are funded by annoying popups)

In conclusion, if you do this often enough you will start recognizing the most dependable websites, and you can just bookmark those instead. (note: this is completely separate from torrenting, which is also a beautiful thing but requires different software and a vpn)

Option 1: try the DuckDuckGo search engine instead (bonus: dedicated to privacy! doesn't track your data!)

2026 UPDATE: