IMPORTANT: PLEASE READ. CALLOUT POST FOR @/SEHOWLAWOODS
hello to all my followers. I havent posted in a very long time, and unfortunately, I've only returned with bad news and a callout post, no art. but I feel all of you, who most likely follow this person as well, deserve to know.
@/sehowlawoods is a groomer and abuser.
this is a very large claim to make, so let me give some references:
I am 17, I was born in February of 2004. (I will not disclose my full birth date or name for privacy reasons as I am still a child)
Frisk is 21, they were born September 13th, 2000.
Frisk and I met on Quotev circa 2015, when I was 11 and they were 15.
receipts for when we both joined, as we met not long after:
They often also go by howlinw00ds, and names similar. I am only covering my state of residence.
Since we met, we would frequently roleplay together. These roleplays were innocent until around 2016-2017, when we began to roleplay NSFW together. Mind you, at this time, I would be 12-13 and they would be 16-17.
While you could argue that yes, they are still a minor, that does not make this okay whatsoever. They were and still are 4 years older than me, and doing an NSFW roleplay with a 12-13 year old is repulsive. You can argue that I consented to this, but once again, I trusted them and didn't think it was bad.
These NSFW roleplays continued until just recently, when I cut them off. Where I am 17 and they are 21. A whole adult.
I have receipts of SEVERAL of these roleplays as well;
the only thing I am not disclosing in these screenshots is what we were role-playing, as I do not feel comfortable sharing that information. but as you can see, this has persisted since at least 2017.
now, while this is already enough evidence for grooming behavior, I have more to share.
in October of 2018, Frisk confessed to my girlfriend that they had a crush on me.
now, if you do the math, they would be 18 at this time and I would be 14. I do not know how long this crush had been going on, so they might have had a crush on me while I was younger, as well. Regardless, a 4 year age gap is NOT OKAY.
Receipts of them telling my girlfriend:
^^^ As the above receipt says, I go by Nic with my close friends, and I went by she/her pronouns at the time. I have several people who remember this incident and can back me up, as well.
^^^ Here is the conversation the same day where Frisk, who went by Tia at the time, was mad at my girlfriend for "snitching" about their crush to me.
My girlfriend did not snitch, because as implied in the screenshots, I already knew. I simply pretended like I didn't because I didn't want to acknowledge that my friend, who knows I am in a relationship AND is much older than me, had feelings for me.
Eventually, they dropped this and did not pursue it, claiming that they "confused romantic feelings for platonic ones". I also have evidence of them blatantly lying about that here:
They since deleted this ask after I proved them wrong. They also claimed that I was toxic as well, however, anyone who knew us both at the time could say otherwise.
They were extremely dependent on me up until I broke it off with them. They relied on me to vent every day about their trauma and abusive household, despite me being a minor and having mental illnesses and trauma of my own.
for this next part, I will add a trigger warning:
I will mention this only once as I regrettably do not have a receipt for it, as it was in Twitter DMs, and I believe it was on my account that got suspended, however; I vividly remember them sending me a very clear image of their fresh cuts on their wrist. This was immensely triggering for me and sent me into a severe panic attack, as I figure it would anyone.
As I said before, I do not have the receipt for this, so I understand if you are skeptical about this. Moving on.
^^^ The above is two of very many situations I've had to deal with where they either send some very scary and depressing messages, or extremely uncomfortable to look at vent art. I would try to comfort them to the best of my ability, however, they would always continue with more self deprivation until I either somehow managed to comfort them with their favorite characters, or doodles drawn by my own hand.
While yes, it is okay to vent to a friend, they are an entire adult venting to a child and making that child extremely uncomfortable. This is not a situation I should have ever had to deal with, yet I did, almost daily.
And, whenever I felt the need to vent, which was not often, I was met with simple "Oofs" or "Oop", and so on.
I've reached the image limit for this post so I will be unable to display any more receipts/screenshots at this time, but if this post gets popular and/or people need more evidence, I will be happy to supply them.
And recently, as in late June of 2021 recently, my mother and I took pity on Frisk and their current situation. As far as we knew, their adoptive mother was extremely abusive emotionally, as well as racist and homophobic. We were informed that Frisk was being forced to help her pay rent, therefore we shelled out nearly 1K to drive to Colorado and move them out to live with us for about a month until they could live on their own.
The first month they stayed in our home, we fed them, made sure they were taken care of, and even did their laundry until they got themselves foodstamps within the same month. However, they seemed to have no desire to find work.
I constantly sent them job applications, as almost every workplace in my city was and still is hiring due to the pandemic. However, they did not find a job until mid September.
We had been housing them for nearly 3 months at this time, without asking for a cent in rent, simply because we wanted them out of our home as soon as possible. However, they have no car, let alone a drivers license, therefore my mother was forced to drive them to work and back nearly every day. Gas money is expensive for our tiny car, and we never saw any money from them to help.
We soon found out that Frisk was in fact NOT being forced to pay their mom rent, and their name was actually on the LEASE OF THE APARTMENT.
My whole family was fed up by this time, as we had been used and lied to.
Frisk had been very rude to my brother for no apparent reason, which I assume may be a form of ableism, as he does suffer from age regression and developmental disorders. But I am not going to pursue that.
My mother was finally at her limit, as recently, she experienced a very hard loss on her side of the family. Frisk's estranged grandfather apparently died the same day, and my mother made sure to console them. They made no effort to do the same when they saw my mother was an absolute mess, because they have the tendency of making everything revolve around them.
This was the breaking point for my mother, and she finally had a very serious talk with them about their toxic behavior. They had been moping around the house when we asked them to look for a job, only ever played video games, planted vent artwork around the house for us to find, and used my family as their therapist. They were generally a toxic person to be around and we were done.
Merely a day after this, they found themselves an apartment. Proving that 3 months of them staying here was simply them procrastinating and using us. We were emotionally drained, and it was affecting my mother and I physically. I was suffering from severe anxiety, depression, and heart palpitations within their presence, and my mother was neglecting herself and triggering other health problems, such as heart palpitations, and jaw and back pain as well.
Finally, about two weeks ago, they finally moved into their apartment. This was when I properly cut them off and tore into them about their toxic behavior. I finally cut them off and blocked them on discord, only unblocking them in order to get the receipts for this post.
I had been contemplating long and hard on whether I wanted to make this post or not, but I finally settled on doing so, because they severely affected my life, and my family's life. I don't want them to do the same to anyone else.
If you wish to talk to me about any of these claims or need more receipts, I will be happy to respond to comments, reblogs, and private messages on this account.
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