#have this

Like the thing with men beauty standards is they tend to cater toward the male fantasy of being an "alpha" or whatever rather than the female gaze as I'm sure anyone can tell you the typical gym bro does not JUST get swol for the ladies it's for an ego boost, superiority over other men, etc. Like the ads for men vs the ads for women say it all

Women beauty standards are nearly always about the male gaze "men don't like chubby bellies, men don't like hairy body, men don't like this, that etc" and I would know i've been chubby all my life and yeah when I tried to lose weight well that's all I'd be exposed to lmao it wasn't until I learned that most sapphics just lie women for being women that I stopped stressing then got better as a result

Cuz like

Only 1/3 of the men in the finales is considered conventionally attractive

And that's only because one is considered to be conventionally attractive cuz he's played by Ryan what's his face

Like didn't it used to not be common to want men to be skinny? They should have some muscle and literally half the people called Tumblr sexyman are twinks with no meat on dem bones? *motions to the fucking onceler*

Idk when it comes to men I feel like the line is so hard to define due to the fact we stopped defining by men just by their appearance awhile ago but it's much easier to label what counts as conventionally attractive for women

Look at how many times Adam Sandler who isn't ugly but far from a conventionally attractive guy is always paired with a complete bombshell it speaks for itself

Smooch

Scare

Caress cheek