#have this

Like the thing with men beauty standards is they tend to cater toward the male fantasy of being an "alpha" or whatever rather than the female gaze as I'm sure anyone can tell you the typical gym bro does not JUST get swol for the ladies it's for an ego boost, superiority over other men, etc. Like the ads for men vs the ads for women say it all

Women beauty standards are nearly always about the male gaze "men don't like chubby bellies, men don't like hairy body, men don't like this, that etc" and I would know i've been chubby all my life and yeah when I tried to lose weight well that's all I'd be exposed to lmao it wasn't until I learned that most sapphics just lie women for being women that I stopped stressing then got better as a result

Cuz like

Only 1/3 of the men in the finales is considered conventionally attractive

And that's only because one is considered to be conventionally attractive cuz he's played by Ryan what's his face

Like didn't it used to not be common to want men to be skinny? They should have some muscle and literally half the people called Tumblr sexyman are twinks with no meat on dem bones? *motions to the fucking onceler*

Idk when it comes to men I feel like the line is so hard to define due to the fact we stopped defining by men just by their appearance awhile ago but it's much easier to label what counts as conventionally attractive for women

Look at how many times Adam Sandler who isn't ugly but far from a conventionally attractive guy is always paired with a complete bombshell it speaks for itself

Smooch

Scare

Caress cheek

a year after we had what I now know was our last joy-ride, a big farewell getting absolutely pissing drunk and faded for his birthday with his work buddies in the middle of the week, closing-out-the-bar might-piss-myself-on-public-transport levels, around four years ago, some six months after we’d seen each other last, I just unfollowed and softblocked them mostly everywhere for my own piece of mind specially after the heartfelt bday message I’d sent him went unanswered (it was kind of our thing, only saying things out loud on our birthdays, allowing each other to voice all that we’d usually compact into long hugs and hand-held silences).

I think I will forever miss the 20yo version of ourselves, tho. And all the other universes and stories we could have lived. I know in another timeline I could have fallen in love with him and maybe never realised I was a lesbian. I like to believe that there’s another where we’re non monogamous queer guys having a secret third thing together. Maybe somewhere we’re teachers and roommates, our most absolutely obnoxious version. In this one I’m choosing to keep the memories and the songs and the football games and the sunrise we saw walking back home together that one cold saturday morning after almost no sleep. the long lost video of me tickling him until he cried and fell to the floor from laughing. the curaçao blue bottle we drank together and all the chelsea matches. In this one I’m keeping all the ways we’ve changed and affected each other.

the blistering hot summer afternoon spent in my parent’s bed under the crackling ceiling fan after a failed session of phantom menace with too many space cakes. all the walks on the beach sharing beers, blunts, secrets and cigarettes. all the warm bony hugs and how much and how natural it was for us to be touchy and caring with each other. ​getting tequila-obliterated together and the disgusting and delicious concoction we came up with mixing whisky and condensed milk. all the movie nights, all the songs, all the school projects and cheating on tests we did together. all the books and the stories and the tales we shared. all the drinks and the laughs and the fights and discussions we could get into. all the teasing and the poking and listening we gave to each other.

I’ll never stop telling people about how I met one of my best friends by going up to him while he read Eragon and point blank asking him if he knew that people wrote fanfiction about the main character fucking his cousin. it worked, once. and it was bright and loud and beautiful while it existed.

-_-

Their body language and vibe is friendly but certainly a nonchalant bored type attitude with them only visibly reacting when shit has gone down

Berry on the flipside is very expressive and has mastered a little shit type grin, they tend to smile a lot. It's both cute and a little creepy at times, however they react very strongly and are almost cartoonish with certain expressions. Especially the case if they're feeling dramatic for whatever reason

Cherry normally just looks TIRED honestly, they have constantly squinty eyes due to sleep deprivation, they're usually on the less expressive side of things but more openly emotional and less cool under pressure than Lil' Classic

Aliza unless she's in a room full of people she's very familiar with looks visible tense and nervous in most situations, usually looking down, eyes darting around (left over survival tactic from underground) and just looks immensely uncomfortable especially in a crowd. Once she eases in with someone she is far more calm and tranquil, quietly welcoming

Mercy normally alternates between a small smile or a naturally curious look, the most objectively patient of all Frisk alternatives. Just kinda here to vibe and is wandering around at their own disclosure, their closed eye look is actually very literal because if they open their eyes well....they don't have any.

Shell is baby and reacts a like baby, though they tend to get surprisingly bashful when it comes to tears always compelled to hide their face and their go reaction to feeling in danger is to curl up into a ball like a rolley polley

Ribbon & Shifty are the drama queens of the group who are either too cool for school or suddenly huffy, dramatic sass queens lmao. Admittedly Ribbon far more than Shifty, Shifty has no problem speaking for themselves but is still relatively chill. Ribbon is a good kid but definitely high strung and opiniated

Bear usually looks annoyed and has something of a resting bitch face, this is entirely just trauma and Teddy constantly giving off a gruff edge is also an influence. Frowns and glares a lot, frequently seen giving the side eye but is also tense and kinda nervous. Far more friendly than they left on though