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- you need aftercare too, take care of yourself and learn what works for you

- if that sub can't tell you anything at all about what they want from a scene? hit da bricks- they aren't ready and you aren't a mindreader.

- that sub that keeps breaking small boundaries and trying to act like they are just bratty? They will only get worse and and if they can't determine bratting from boundary breaking you're going to end up in emotionally toxic mess at the least.

- practice your rope knots and quick releases while watching TV, builds good muscle memory.

- make an emergency first aid kit for your scenes- you should be able to cut any restraint, treat burns and cuts, and soothe skin irritation and I also reccomend a bottle of water or saline solution for washing of the eyes or for potential allergic reactions

- make sure you and your sub patch test new lubes and waxes ect before scenes for allergies.

- the middle of a scene is not a place for dom or sub to bring any brand new kink into a dynamic, talk about it before or later.

- just like inexperienced subs need to watch out for manipulative and toxic doms- you need to watch out for toxic and manipulative subs.