Iāve been seeing lots of dudes lately talking about how they have friends with really conservative views and being likeĀ āyou know what, i donāt agree with him politically but heās a great guy! weāre great friends! he can vote how he wants, we can still get beers together!ā
and i just. i feel like thatās such aā¦. privileged way to exist?
I dunno man. But if youāre actively conservative i literally donāt feel safe around you so. Like. itās not just ideology! Votes donāt go into the void! If some dude shits on women and survivors and LGBT+ people then three strikes ur out! I feel like Iām gonna die! see you never! bye!
So I honestly canāt imagine feeling like you can put aside all these core beliefs and just hang with whoever. Like, if you can look at people like that and feel totally safe and defend howĀ āgreatā they areā¦ Iām wary, thatās all.
Like, yeah, Iāve known plenty of conservative people who are nice to me. But Iām really, deeply uncomfortable with people who are only being nice to me because I fit their arbitrary mental checklist for who deserves kindness. I donāt want your kindness if it would cancel out the moment you learned anything about me. Fuck off.
I just feel likeĀ āagree to disagree and get along anywayā is only an accessible viewpoint to those who donāt have very much at risk. It reminds me of people who stay friends with abusers because theyĀ ādonāt know the whole storyā andĀ āmaybe everythingās okayā. Like, there is no neutral when youāre talking about human rights. There just isnāt. I donāt care if you smile at me and want to discuss a shared interest in marketing psychology and equine sports. If you hate fundamental aspects of who I am, Iām not going to get along with you, and Iām not going to trust the people who do. Simple.
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