Just to note, I have in fact had gay dudes in my life try to bond with me through queer culture by talking about how pussy is gross. I am a butch queer woman. This doesn't seem to matter: it seems that guys like this only really interact or think about interacting with straight women and cis gay men, and they tend to assume that strategies for one or the other of those categories will work for me. Protip: doesn't work that way, bucko!
These gentlemen are inevitably confused and taken aback if I object to this, because in their non-work lives apparently they never hang out with anyone but other cis gay men and maybe a couple other queers who tolerate this shit. So let me make this clear: performing exaggerated disgust at how gross you find my genitals is not a way to make fucking friends. It is not cute. It is not fun. It is not cheeky.
I always want to tell them: if you don't stop, I'm going to have to explain this to you and let you sit in uncomfortable silence while I explain all the weird things I do not like about male bodies, which is a thing I do not bring up often and particularly not ever around my dude and transmasc friends for the simple reason that their bodies do not exist for my pleasure. I don't have to like their bodies. I just have to like my friends. It's hard for me to like my friends when they're telling me my body is gross, which is what you're doing. If I need to do the same thing to get it through your head that this feels bad, I will, but I hate having to do that. So please just think before you speak, yeah?
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