if you do not actively desire sex but still have sex that may be self-harm. i’ve done this. it sucks and in the long run will fuck you up when or if you actually desire sex.
having sex for the sole purpose of “pleasing a partner” is sex that may traumatize you. sex should be enjoyable and it shouldn’t place any burdens on you and if you don’t want sex then don’t force yourself to have sex
It’s true and they should say it.



















