What kind of effect do you think would it have on Dean and Cas' complex relationship if the writers went ahead and made them a couple? I know how they say that we can interpret the story however we want to, and while I do think them being together would be nice, I just feel like it would change their relationship somehow? It really shouldn't change how I see them if they are couple or not, but somehow I think I would have some mixed emotions. I'm just interested in what you think about this.
As irony would have it, that is the absolutely beautiful thing about Dean/Cas;Â nothing about them or the show would change if they became a couple. And I will tell you why. I have quoted this from myself before, but Iâll quote it again because itâs relevant again:Â
So, from your ask I assume that you watch Supernatural, but letâs say you have a friend who doesnât watch it. Said friend doesnât know what the show is about, and doesnât know anything about any of the characters in it.
Now you tell aforementioned friend about the show as it ACTUALLY is, only altering one little detail. So you tell them:
âThereâs this TV show that I like. In this show there is this young man named Dean, who makes a deal with a demon to save his little brotherâs life, and ends up in hell because of it. Eventually, Dean gets rescued by the angel Cassandra. The reason Cassandra raised Dean from perdition is because God commanded it, seeing as the angels on this show donât have any emotions whatsoever, donât feel like humans do, and are merely programmed to follow the orders of the Heavenly host.
But the moment Dean and Cassandra first meet, all of this suddenly changes. Cassandra soon starts to feel, and starts caring about Dean. Caring turns into caring deeply, and ends in Cassandra turning her back on Heaven, rebelling, and even killing some of her own brothers and sisters in the process, then telling Dean that she did all of it for him.
Dean, who never had faith in God, or Heaven, or angels, still doesnât have faith in any of that, but he now does have faith in this one angel, Cassandra. He trusts Cassandra, he prays to Cassandra (even though praying is begging in Deanâs book, and he hates that), and as the show moves on Cassandra grows away from Heaven, and closer to Dean.
Cassandra and Dean are separated on several occasions, and the odds are always against them, but even when Heaven, Hell, or Purgatory try to keep them apart, they always find their way back to each other. They both make bad decisions, mistakes, and there are cases of betrayal, but in the end they always forgive and forget, because they simply canât stay away from one another.
Several times, Cassandra has died. Whenever Dean thinks heâs lost her, Dean gets depressed, has endless nightmares about losing her, even hallucinates seeing her, and turns to alcohol in order to keep going on with his life. Theyâre pretty much miserable without each other, as it shows on the actual show.The bond they have is strong enough to break through any kind of mind control.
Every single one of their friends/enemies know that Cassandra and Dean are each otherâs weakness, and use it against them at times. Long story short: Cassandra is willing to give up everything, even her wings, only for Dean, and weâve reached a point in the show where Dean is in a position where he has to trust Cassandra with his life, and he easily does so.
As a side note: Itâs not uncommon for Dean to tell Cassandra that he needs her to be with him, and itâs not uncommon for Cassandra to watch Dean sleep.â
Interesting, isnât it? Do you hear what it sounds like when you summarize the actual story of Dean and Castiel as it is, even without changing anything or deliberately making it sound more romantic?
Now you go ahead and ask your friend what kind of story this is, and what kind of relationship they think that Dean and Cassandra have. I can guarantee you that there is a 90% chance that your friend will tell you: âDOH, theyâre in love with each other, itâs a story about star crossed lovers, and that angel is so whipped.â
Then tell your friend that you lied. Tell them that you changed one tiny aspect, even though the rest of what you told them is true to what happened on the show. Tell them that the angel is a male named Castiel, not a female named Cassandra.
Thatâs the only thing you changed. And depending on your friend, there are different kinds of reactions you could get to this one, but the fact remains; It is what it is.Â
What the above tells you is all you need to know really; It already IS a love story. They already basically ARE a couple. Everything they do, how they act with each other, (outside of that kiss that has never been shown on screen), they might as well be together.Â
All of the love and passion and pining between them; itâs already there. Not a thing would have to change, in fact, aside from maybe the occasional handhold or kiss, their relationship could remain entirely the same and it would still be awfully romantic. Because it already is.Â
Truth be told, this is one of my main reasons for shipping Dean/Cas. A show shouldnât have to bend around a ship or change in order to force it to happen. A show shouldnât become the ship. It should come naturally. And in this case, imo it has.
As a bonus, weâve recently been made aware (11x19) that hunter husbands can kick ass, fit into the show, and all of this without the show at all becoming about their relationship or their sexuality.Â
So Iâd say that this is the least of our concerns re: canon Destiel.
