dutch transman

In remembrance of those who’ve past, the creation of Adam, the first trans man.

trans people do not have to WANT to pass

not every trans person can bind/tuck/get surgery

A new name might feel weird at first, but that doesn’t mean it’s the wrong one for you! 

your chest is not as big as you think it is

male chests are not 100% flat

it is natural for males to have a slight bump

dysphoria will trick you into believing that there is a large bump but there isn’t

your chest is flat

one binder is enough, never use more than one binder to bind your chest

if you really do believe that there is a bump and it is causing you distress, you may need to buy a new binder because washing/drying incorrectly and prolonged use can cause the binder to lose it’s purpose

100% of the time your binder is fine though and it is just your mind telling you different

if you see the slightest bump, you will think it is 10x larger and worse than it actually is, but it isn’t

dysphoria skews your image by heightening your sex characteristics 

no one will notice what you are dysphoric about because often there is nothing to notice, dysphoria is just making you self conscious and distressed over parts that people would not take notice of

dysphoria is not your fault. you are not an inconvenience, crazy or being annoying for having dysphoria. it is a condition and you deserve help.

you may think your legs are super feminine, but they actually appear masculine in those straight jeans. no one notices.

you may have a high pitched voice, but so do many guys. there are cis men who actually sound like women and i know it causes distress, but you can deepen it.

But you think to yourself 

“my dysphoria wasn’t this bad BEFORE I relize I was trans so I’m obviously faking it” 

and i’m here to tell you that is WRONG. 

Imagine this. You have a doctors appointment at the end of the day and you can’t eat until after you go to this doctor. So you wake up and you spend your enitre morning not eating and you think “this is fine im not really hungry anyway.” 

But then you see someone else eating and you relize that not only are you hungry, you are fucking STARVING. And you spend the rest of the day thinking about how hungry you are. 

The more you think about how hungry you are the hunrier you get but yo ustill can’t eat until after this appointment. Even why you try not to think how hungry you are its still in the back of your mind.

Thats kinda how pre-relization dysphoria works. You spent the first part of your life thinking “well im not dysphoric” even though you didn’t knwo what that word was yet. 

Then you learned about dysphoria and being Trans. Suddenly dysphoria hitts you in the face like a bag of bricks. 

Your mind didn’t have a word for dysphoria before so it took those feelings and shoved them into a hole in the back of your mind, but when you learned the word for it you suddenly experianced that emotion a thousand fold. Not because your dysphoria is worse now than it was before you relized you were trans. But because your brain now has a word for it and you can adress these feelings rather than just shoving them into that hole in your mind.