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Trust

Reliance on or confidence in the dependability of someone or something.

In interpersonal relationships, trust refers to the confidence that a person or group of people has in the reliability of another person or group; specifically, it is the degree to which each party feels that they can depend on the other party to do what they say they will do. The key factor is not the intrinsic honesty of the other people but their predictability.

Trust is considered by most psychologists to be a primary component in mature relationships with others, whether intimate, social, or therapeutic.

How to Build Trust: General Tips

The following suggestions about how to build trust were provided by Carthage Buckley (n.d.), a stress and performance coach.

Minding in Relationships

The concept of “minding” is an unexplored yet crucial aspect of relationships.

Harvey and Omarzu (1997) presented the concept of minding as an essential tool for maintaining close and satisfying relationships.

A well-minded relationship involves a mixture of equality, empathy, negotiation, companionship, and deep commitment.

The process of minding involves 5 components:

You have a claim to the throne. Sort of. Well, at least you think you do. And that kingdom or empire or city next to you is looking pretty good, it would be nice to have your own setup or just to add to your collection. So how do you do that exactly?

Reasoning

Let's be honest, everybody wants to rule the world. If you have a chance to sit on a throne or take a position of power, you would. Behind the want for a crown that isn't yours, there must be a secondary reasoning, a way to back up any claims that you're an invader and you don't belong on the throne. Most new dynasties who invade and depose the previous monarchs do have a back up claim. Either they are:

Distantly Related -> They have a blood claim. This means they are somehow related to a previous monarch. This can be a weak claim, either distantly, either through the female line (most inherited blood right passes through the male line) or even through an illegitimate line. Example, The Tudors, The Hanoverians, the Bourbons.

Invited -> Perhaps some nobles and powerful figures are disgruntled by the current regime and they decide that a figure either within the Kingdom or abroad might do a better job. Sometimes that person is asked to help in a succession crisis and decides that they are the best choice. Example: Edward I in Scotland and Henry II in Ireland. Lesson, do not invite the English over.

Dibs -> The holy concept of dibs was actually a valid claim to a throne. By 'right of conquest' essentially means I've taken it and now it is mine. Conquest is usually backed up by the idea that if there is a deity, they wouldn't have allowed the rightful monarch to be overthrown and this must be the will of the god(s). One may need a good propagandist to make this work.

Toolkit

To invade and overthrow any monarchy and establish your own regime, you will need the following things.

Army -> Military might or at very least support is paramount. You need an army to protect you, to beat your enemies and later on, establish control. Armies can be acquired either through allies or by raising them yourself from your lands or you can hire one - store bought is fine if you can't do homemade.

Allies -> Everybody needs a friend. No incoming monarch or invader has done so without an ally. This could be nobles within the Kingdom itself who want a regime change. This could be foreign heads of state who want to fuck up that kingdom by triggering a civil war or want to control that kingdom in the future through their puppet. Allies essentially put money, vocal support and military support behind their guy but this is always in hopes of a return: money, land, titles or just a favour in the future. Allies are essential.

Money -> Most importantly, you need money. Money is essential in taking over a throne. You need to pay your soldiers, buy ships, feed your soldiers, house them, buy allies, buy equipment and of course, but appropriate drip. You want to be king, spend like one.

PR and Propaganda -> To invade, kill a bunch of people, likely steal a lot of food and burn and pillage probably wouldn't endear you to the people. People will endure a lot of awfulness if the PR machine is working. We burned that village? When this new guy landed on our shores, there was this fuck ass comet that like had to have been sent by the god(s)? We murdered your King? Yeah, well he was a bad guy and we saved you all actually.

When the Party is over...

You have just successfully invaded the country and overthrown the previous monarch. They are either:

(A) Dead

(B) Your prisoner

(C) On the Run

All options are good and are a success but in any take over of a regime like this, only one option is left to the new monarch if they want to make sure there are no reprisals.

Kill them all.

It sounds dark and villainy and it is but if you want to establish a new dynasty, the old monarch must die along with any heirs strong enough to oppose you. As a prisoner, they are a rallying point for your enemies and dissidents. In exile, they could just pull an Uno reverse and pull the same crap on you. Levelling the playing field is the better thing to do in the long run. That's everyone even young children unfortunately. Any smart monarch would do this and anybpdy left alive would be married into the new royal family for two reasons: it both negates the bloodline of the previous royals and bolsters the claim of the new royals.

Not only royalty need to die. Any nobles or dissidents will have to be seen to. Executions usually follow regime change. Nobles who supported the last monarch and won't change allegiance? Chopped. Commons who riot over your ascension? The hangman will be busy. Advisers who advised against you or won't change their tune? Thrown out a window.

Secondly, a new monarch should get crowned as quickly as possible. It sort of puts a solid seal on everything especially if there's a religious aspect.

50 Questions ⚜ Backstory ⚜ Character-driven Story

Basics: How to Write a Character ⚜ A Story-Worthy Hero

Basics: Character-Building ⚜ Character Creation

Types of Characters: Key Characters ⚜ Literary Characters ⚜ Flat & Round Characters ⚜ Morally Grey ⚜ Narrators ⚜ Allegorical Characters ⚜ Archetypes ⚜ Stereotypical Characters

Worksheets: Backstory ⚜ Character ⚜ Kill your Characters ⚜ Antagonist; Villain; Fighting ⚜ Change; Adding Action; Conflict ⚜ Character Sketch & Bible ⚜ Protagonist & Antagonist ⚜ Name; Quirks; Flaws; Motivation ⚜ "Interviewing" your Characters ⚜ "Well-Rounded" Character

Personality Traits

5 Personality Traits (OCEAN) ⚜ 16 Personality Traits (16PF)

600+ Personality Traits ⚜ 170 Quirks

East vs. West Personalities ⚜ Trait Theories

Tips/Editing

Character Issues ⚜ Character Tropes for Inspiration

"Strong" Characters ⚜ Unlikable to Likable

Tips from Rick Riordan

Writing Notes

Binge ED ⚜ Hate ⚜ Love ⚜ Identifying Character Descriptions

Childhood Bilingualism ⚜ Children's Dialogue ⚜ On Children

Culture ⚜ Culture: Two Views ⚜ Culture Shock

Dangerousness ⚜ Flaws ⚜ Fantasy Creatures

Emotional Intelligence ⚜ Genius (Giftedness)

Emotions (1) (2) ⚜ Anger ⚜ Fear ⚜ Happiness ⚜ Sadness

Emotional Universals ⚜ External & Internal Journey

Goals & Motivations ⚜ Grammar Development ⚜ Habits

Facial Expressions ⚜ Jargon ⚜ Swearing & Taboo Expressions

Happy/Excited Body Language ⚜ Laughter & Humor

Health ⚜ Frameworks of Health ⚜ Memory

Mutism ⚜ Shyness ⚜ Parenting Styles ⚜ Generations

Psychological Reactions to Unfair Behavior

Rhetoric ⚜ The Rhetorical Triangle ⚜ Logical Fallacies

Thinking ⚜ Thinking Styles ⚜ Thought Distortions

Uncommon Words: Body ⚜ Emotions

Villains ⚜ Voice & Accent

I recently purchased Procreate Dreams, so I decided to animate this illustration I made while I was in Italy ✨

20 Questions ⚜ 100 Words for World-building

Basics: World-building ⚜ Places ⚜ Imagery ⚜ Setting

Exploring your Setting ⚜ Habitats ⚜ Kinds of Fantasy Worlds

Fantasy World-building ⚜ World-building Vocabulary

Worksheets: Magic & Rituals ⚜ Geography; World History; City; Fictional Plant ⚜ A General Template

Editing

Setting & Pacing Issues ⚜ Editing Your Own Novel

Writing Notes

Animal Culture ⚜ Autopsy ⚜ Alchemy ⚜ Ancient Wonders

Art: Elements ⚜ Principles ⚜ Photographs ⚜ Watercolour

Creating: Fictional Items ⚜ Fictional Poisons ⚜ Magic Systems

Cruise Ships ⚜ Dystopian World ⚜ Parts of a Castle

Culture ⚜ Culture Shock ⚜ Ethnocentrism & Cultural Relativism

Food: How to Describe ⚜ Lists ⚜ Cooking Basics ⚜ Herbs & Spices ⚜ Sauces ⚜ Wine-tasting ⚜ Aphrodisiacs ⚜ List of Aphrodisiacs ⚜ Food History ⚜ Cocktails ⚜ Literary Cocktails ⚜ Liqueurs ⚜ Uncommon Fruits & Vegetables

Greek Vases ⚜ Sapphire ⚜ Relics ⚜ Types of Castles

Hate ⚜ Love ⚜ Kinds of Love ⚜ The Physiology of Love

Mystical Objects ⚜ Talisman ⚜ Uncommon Magic Systems

Moon: Part 1 2 ⚜ Seasons: Autumn ⚜ Spring ⚜ Summer

Shapes of Symbols ⚜ Symbolism ⚜ Slang: 1930s

Symbolism: Of Colors Part 1 2 ⚜ Of Food ⚜ Of Storms

Topics List ⚜ Write Room Syndrome

Vocabulary

Agrostology ⚜ Allergy ⚜ Architecture ⚜ Baking ⚜ Biochemistry

Ecology ⚜ Esoteric ⚜ Gemology ⚜ Geology ⚜ Weather ⚜ Art

Editorial ⚜ Fashion ⚜ Latin Forensic ⚜ Law ⚜ Medieval

Psychology ⚜ Phylogenetics ⚜ Science ⚜ Zoology

What does your character do when they think no one’s looking?

What’s the one thing your character would save in a fire (beyond the necessities)?

Who’s on speed dial?

Your character gets turned down for their dream job. What’s their second choice?

What would they tell their ten-year-old self?

Where would they want to go on a first date?

What’s the best advice they’ve ever received?

What’s the worst advice they’ve ever received?

What’s one physical detail they’d change about themselves?

When was the last time they were held? By who?

What’s their favorite thing about their favorite season?

Their wallet gets stolen. What do they do?

Prioritize: Love, money, power, knowledge?

What’s something nobody knows about them?

What’s in their fridge?

What (creature, object, substance) are they most disgusted by?

What’s their second worst habit?

What are the victory conditions for their life?

In the end, your character fails to save the day. Assuming they survive, what do they do?

Your character is charged with a crime they didn’t commit. What do they do?

Your character is charged with a crime they did commit. What was the crime?

How would you describe your character’s life in one sentence?

What important statistic would they want displayed above them?

What’s the first thing they would buy if they won the lottery?

What profession do they most respect?

What childhood injustice did they never get over?

How would they handle having a panic attack?

Your character is burdened with an inconvenient superpower. What is it?

If they died and could come back as any person, animal, or object, what would they be?

What’s the best meal they’ve ever had?

Where would they stand at a dinner party?

Who would they invite to the dinner party?

What makes a perfect day for your character?

If given the opportunity, would they want to know how and when they died?

What’s the one thing they’ve always wanted to do? Why haven’t they done it yet?

What do they tend to joke about?

What’s off limits?

Whose wedding would they cross the world to attend? Whose funeral?

What impossible choice did they make that turned out to be the right one? The wrong one?

Your character has someone to hype them up. What would they say to get everyone excited about your character?

What recurring dream does your character have?

What is the meaning of life to your character?

What book does your character pretend to have read?

Someone takes undeserved credit for your character’s work. What do they do?

What controversial belief or view does your character hold? Why? Do they hide it?

Your character is at a theme park. Where do they go first?

What’s your character’s favorite name?

What’s the biggest compliment they’d give themselves?

How does your character feel about bugs?

If your character could hit a reset button on their life, would they?

congrats! Now you have a motif! A recurring theme! A focus for your art! Something to haunt you!

Seventeen still lives of dandelions? Three hundred poems about grief? A sketchbook dedicated to your grandmother’s house? Two books trying to unravel the complexities of familial relationships?