Peace and blessing to you always Ms. Diana, Do you have any insights on people that drain your energy? How to spot them and how to redirect them siphoning your life force?
How to Spot and Stop Energy Vampires
There is nothing magical about energy vampires. What they are, are terrible people. That is all. So the solution is not magical either. Most of the time, you just have to tell them to stop being terrible.
They are always offended.
Here you are, trying to embody positivity or simply get through the day unharmed, and someone tells you that they are deeply offended by something you or someone else said or did. Nine times out of ten, their feelings are completely invalid. Such as white people getting offended for Japanese people, when Japanese people themselves do not even feel slighted by the event.
If they are a loved one, tell them to reflect on their current behavior or morals, because their negativity is toxic, and many people, including yourself, would not want to be around it.
If they are someone you do not care about to begin with, just block them online or in real life. You have no obligation to stupid strangers.
They are always the victim.
It is normal for our family and friends to vent to us about their pains. But when their complaints are needlessly repetitive, and worse, you notice that in their stories, either they are actually the one in the wrong, or there is actually a very simple solution, and yet they are blind to it, then what they are doing is wasting precious time of your limited stay on earth.
If they are someone who was there for you in your time of need, then they deserve your honesty. They might be offended at first, but they will soon see the truth.
If they are someone who never helped you in the first place, then you owe them no such kindness. Simply stop replying to them. Avoid their physical presence. They will take the hint. But if instead they proceed to kindly ask why, then feel free to be honest.
They always compete with you.
When you are the one venting about something, they will belittle your problems by saying how their life is so much worse than yours. Likewise, when you are talking about having received a raise, they will overshadow your happiness by talking about their new boyfriend. Whatever you do, they will do it worse or better than you.
If they seem to be unaware of it and you care about them, have a heart to heart. Tell them you feel invalidated by their behavior. Any non-malicious person would react kindly to such confrontation.
If they seem to be doing it on purpose, know that they are actually waiting for you to confront them. So that they can tell all your friends behind your back about how dramatic you are. So instead, kick them out of your life. Stop telling them about yours, and stop paying attention to theirs. Such people are secretly unhappy, but instead of admitting it and asking for help, they choose to be cruel about it. Let them suffer. They deserve it.
They take advantage of you.
Either they are chronically lazy, and expect you to do everything for them, or they are morally devious, always manipulating you to do their bidding. Be careful. They are the worst kind of energy vampires.
They pretend to be weak or damaged in order to control you. An example would be a romantic partner who cries like a baby after seeing you laugh at another manās joke, saying how they used to always be cheated on. Such people almost always evolve into physical abusers.
Whether you love them or not, all you have to do is learn to say no to their requests. If you are not the confrontational type, then simply ignore them or break up with them. It may look like you are being selfish. But what you are really doing is taking care of yourself and escaping abuse.
Think of energy vampires as sick people. Some of them can be cured, while others are hopeless. Heal the former; eliminate the latter. And if, after all you did was look after yourself, they respond by harming you, then here is where magic comes in. Feel free to put a curseĀ on them.
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