"A marriage ending isn't a failure at all. I spent eleven years with her. We were so in love that we couldn't image life apart from each other. We got our own place, adopted a dog, and supported each other through school. I thought if tow people loved each other enough the rest would fall into place, except... love isn't everything.

And I didn't want to believe that, but we were sitting in counseling one day, talking about our future and I realized we were describing two completely different lives. Where we'd live, what kind of life we wanted, what made us happy. And it hit me that- I love this woman and this woman loved me. And after eleven years of loss, grief, career changes, we were so deeply in love... but we weren't aligned. And I kept thinking 'We just need to try harder. We can find some compromise to make this work,' because that's what you're supposed to do when you love someone, right?

But the reality was, we had just become different people. Her trade school took her in one direction, my graduate degree in another and trying to force us back into who we were five years ago wasn't coming from a place of love. It was coming from a place of fear. Fear that, if this ended, it meant we wasted eleven years. But sitting there across from her, I realized: That's not how love works.

Those eleven years happened. They were real. The dog, our home, showing up for each other through grad school and trade school. I wouldn't change a single thing because loving someone doesn't mean you're meant to stay with them forever. And letting go doesn't erase what you had. We measure marriage by whether it lasts forever or not, but what if we measured it by whether it mattered?

What if we measured it by the love we gave, the life we built, and the people we became? Because love's job isn't to last forever, it's to help you become fully completely yourself, and sometimes the most loving thing you can do is give each other permission to be yourselves, separately. But the dog doesn't know were' divorced. He just gets two Christmases now."

I JUST

He was problack

Physics.

LESBIANS CAN LITERALLY DETECT OTHER LESBIANS BY SENSE OF SMELL AND WILL AUTOMATICALLY PREFER THE SCENT OF OTHER LESBIANS

vardaesque:

#chris hemsworth will make a black widow movie even if he has to make it in his backyard with an ipod #he’ll call up his brothers #HEY LIAM HEY LUKE HEY GUYS #I’M MAKING A MOVIE YOU NEED TO PLAY SHIELD AGENTS #they’ll be like srsly bruh #YEAH MAN CMON THERE’LL BE FOOD #they get won over #he calls up tom one night when he needs a scriptwriter #tom wakes up like ‘chris my what time is it’ #chris is like CAN YOU WRITE A SCREENPLAY FOR A BLACK WIDOW MOVIE MATE I NEED YOU #tom lurches out of bed #almost starts crying #’yes of course i’ll do it #do you think she’d like shakespeare??’ #’tom wait—’ #’I CAN DO THIS’ #he mails over a script worthy of an oscar stuffed full of classical literature parallells and gorgeous imagery #chris stares at his one camera and grumbles about ‘fancy fucking brits’ 

(via lanaparrillasituation)

#Hemsworth calls up RDJ #Bro, I need financing for a Black Widow movie. #Is $100 million too much? #Nah, sounds good, mate. # Calls up Evans #Black Widow movie. You wanna direct it? #Evans flails & catches the first flight from Boston.