I think when a sub says "you can do whatever you want to me" what they're actually wanting is to not make decisions anymore, and they think by saying this they can foist the decision making off on the dom without having to do any of the work beforehand. But unfortunately to get to the Not Making Choices part of kink you do in fact have to make a Lot Of Choices beforehand and communicate those choices to your partner. This is an essential part of the process and skipping it is both unsafe and unfair for whoever you're playing with.

had so much lukewarm sex because of people doing this exact thing. I have learnt to either avoid people like this, or if it's someone I'm really interested in (and is clearly a inexperienced with kink) be world's brattiest domme & make them make some decisions in a very satisfying and sexy way. I really reccomend instructing them to hurt you & watching them fail to hurt you hard enough & insisting they go harder. really opens up the back & forth and encourages them to engage with the sexual improv, while maintaining the power dynamic they crave.

I think when a sub says "you can do whatever you want to me" what they're actually wanting is to not make decisions anymore, and they think by saying this they can foist the decision making off on the dom without having to do any of the work beforehand. But unfortunately to get to the Not Making Choices part of kink you do in fact have to make a Lot Of Choices beforehand and communicate those choices to your partner. This is an essential part of the process and skipping it is both unsafe and unfair for whoever you're playing with.