Please remember that some ADHDers cope with their traits by becoming efficient.
My husband has combined ADHD, with very strong hyperactivity traits, executive function difficulties, strong time blindness, and memory issues.
To cope, he has become obsessed with being on time, writing everything down, sticking reminders everywhere etc. Not because it is a solution (it's not, he's rarely on time anywhere) but because years of trauma have made him terrified of forgetting.
He may have to go to the shops just to pick up some items. He will iron his clothes, be showered and dressed by 6am, but not go until 11am.
It looks like he's being proactive. But he's actually just scared himself into getting ready. He forgets his medications, to shower, to eat... Unless if there are consequences. Then he becomes a nervous wreck to simulate that he's under control.
This is me. I overcompensate to appear like a functioning adult. It's exhausting
