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Also, and I can't believe this needs to be stated, but when someone sets that boundry, you cannot keep dragging the conversation back to convincing them to say yes or even just to keep talking about it in the hopes they'll come around. If something makes someone uncomfortable or they don't feel like talking about it? DROP IT. You don't get to walk away thinking you're victim after they rightfully ghosted you because you proved you couldn't leave well enough alone.

this includes passive aggressive comments like one example is if someone says they dont want to be touched and then 5 minutes later you start sighing and complaining how touch starved you are. you are going to make the other person uncomfortable & not want to be around you

"the future is plural" "the future is singlet" the future is prioritizing healing. i hope the future is prioritizing healing, no matter what that healing looks like.

We should probably normalize not knowing information about your system like what an alter's role is, total alter count, who is fronting, etc, since that is actually very normal.

Oh my god, this is going on my list along with doesthedogdie.com

Holy shit that’s useful

I probably won’t find myself using this but for my followers: if you can’t handle this shit, USE THIS. If you think a movie or tv show may be hard to watch, do your homework.

Useful info. But… (and I sort of doubt it) is there a database like this for car and/or motorcycle accidents? I end up having to give up on lots of movies and shows because there’s often too much for me to handle still. Don’t really like playing the guessing game of “how traumatized is this gonna make me”

Hey y’all I know I haven’t posted in literal ages but here’s a bunch of sites who do this way better than I do!

I have epilepsy (among other things) and use these sites. When friends haven’t seen a show/movie and can’t inform me if it’s safe, I browse these sites. Saved me from having seizures.

R/systemcringe makes me wonder if they know ANYTHING about being a system. Half of what the members spread on there is false information that can easily be disproved and the other half is grown ass adults bullying children for trying to figure out what they’re experiencing. If they’re wrong, who fucking cares. If they’re right, who fucking cares. It’s no one’s business but theirs. I have been told multiple times by multiple therapists that it’s possible for teens and kids to find out about the system if they’re made aware of other alters or their symptoms and that OSDDID and other dissociative disorders can be self-diagnosed with proper research. I promise you that the rest of the 13 year olds that you do not know personally and who you cannot begin to understand down to what trauma they may have (because you are a separate person and also a fucking stranger on the internet) are not trying to destroy the system community and demedicalize being a system. They’re trying to figure their shit out probably on their own. Non-traumagenic systems are the ones that people should be worrying about not the 15 year old that you have a passionate hatred (because let’s be completely honest, that’s all that god forsaken subreddit is) for as a grown adult that’s trying to exist as someone who has gone through enough. It’s embarrassing. Get a hobby that doesn’t include bullying traumatized kids

I agree with most of the post but OSDDID can't be self diagnosed. You can suspect you have OSDDID but only a professional can diagnose you, especially as OSDDID have symptoms that overlap with many other disorders.

Respectfully, I disagree. I’m of the belief that all diagnosis starts with self-diagnosis and I think that with proper research and help from actual reliable sources online someone can tell if they have OSDDID. I agree that an official diagnosis is a lot more reliable but the people that self-diagnose often don’t have the ability to get one for a number of different reasons (financial situation, home life, etcetera) and because of those reasons chances are they aren’t going to seek help from someone who can help them manage with the symptoms that impact their life. Self-diagnosis really doesn’t harm anyone unless the person who’s self diagnosing is refusing to listen to a professional that’s telling them their experience or symptoms don’t match their disorder, which isn’t super likely to happen. You’re entitled to your own opinion but there are a lot of disorders that have overlapping symptoms with other disorders that are still self diagnosable

I can somewhat understand someone not being able to access an actual professional for many reasons, but you still cannot technically "diagnose" yourself, even with research. You can suspect having a disorder through resources, but that's it. I don't think "self diagnosed" people should be barred from resources, but I don't think they should be treated as spokespeople for the disorder, especially as even mental health professionals can even misdiagnose people with the wrong disorder. I don't think there's a very black/white answer, especially regarding how OSDDID is something that's usually disregarded by the majority of mental health professionals, unless they themselves specialize in dissociative disorders.

”I want to know your headcount” “I want to know who’s fronting” so do I, get in line

R/systemcringe makes me wonder if they know ANYTHING about being a system. Half of what the members spread on there is false information that can easily be disproved and the other half is grown ass adults bullying children for trying to figure out what they’re experiencing. If they’re wrong, who fucking cares. If they’re right, who fucking cares. It’s no one’s business but theirs. I have been told multiple times by multiple therapists that it’s possible for teens and kids to find out about the system if they’re made aware of other alters or their symptoms and that OSDDID and other dissociative disorders can be self-diagnosed with proper research. I promise you that the rest of the 13 year olds that you do not know personally and who you cannot begin to understand down to what trauma they may have (because you are a separate person and also a fucking stranger on the internet) are not trying to destroy the system community and demedicalize being a system. They’re trying to figure their shit out probably on their own. Non-traumagenic systems are the ones that people should be worrying about not the 15 year old that you have a passionate hatred (because let’s be completely honest, that’s all that god forsaken subreddit is) for as a grown adult that’s trying to exist as someone who has gone through enough. It’s embarrassing. Get a hobby that doesn’t include bullying traumatized kids

I agree with most of the post but OSDDID can't be self diagnosed. You can suspect you have OSDDID but only a professional can diagnose you, especially as OSDDID have symptoms that overlap with many other disorders.