God Is Love

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did not entirely expect that

But your personal experience into being suckered into porn does not equate to “Women have no choice but to do porn” or “The porn industry is bad”

how the porn industry fuels sex trafficking

how consuming porn can lead to violence

how porn can become addictive

how porn changes the brain

how porn affects sexual tastes

boys who watch porn are more likely to be misogynistic

porn affects how archaeologists think of depictions of the female form

a review of several epidemiological studies found a positive correlation between the quantity of porn consumption by men and the degree to which they endorsed sexual assault

study suggests a link between porn consumption and rape-supportive attitudes in men

study found that pornography consumption was associated with sexual aggression, both verbally and physically

researchers at middlesex university concluded that pornography is linked to unrealistic attitudes about sex, beliefs that women are sex objects, more frequent thoughts about sex, and found that children and young people who view pornography tend to hold less progressive gender role attitudes

porn is used to train sex slaves

an interview of 854 women in 9 countries revealed pornography is integral to prostitution

88% and nearly 50% of the best selling porn contains physical and verbal aggression towards women

porn actress nikki benz sues mindgeek, brazzers, co-stars for sexual battery, gender violence

10 popular ex-pornstars reveal the brutal truth behind their most famous scenes

The evidence is all there. How it harms male biology, and mis-directs male hormones. How it skews viewpoints that rational men have about women in their lives (especially regarding incest and workplace relationships). How these factors hurt society.

Even worse?

The tsunami of evidence about how porn hurts generations of women (mostly underage girls) is far more vast & terrible.

Silent Treatment

When after a fight or argument, your partner refuses to talk to you or say more than one word at a time, this is the silent treatment. This is a sign of emotional/mental abuse. It can be highly damaging to someone’s confidence and over all mental health.

In a normal relationship, there are arguments and fights, maybe followed by moments of silence. But the two involved in the relationship still talk. They still try to resolve the conflict.

With a partner to utilizes the silent treatment, their end goal is to make you apologize, make you step down, and make them the victim. The goal is to get you to be groveling for forgiveness.

Compromise is Impossible

In any relationship, there has to be compromise in order for it to be healthy. If your partner is unwilling to meet you in the middle most of the time, this should be a huge red flag. If there isn’t compromise, then one person is going to feel like they don’t matter, or that they should just give up on their own thoughts and feelings.

Makes you Feel Worse

If you and your partner are at a party and you are feeling insecure about yourself, your partner should try to help make you feel better. If they tell you to get over it, or that it’s not that big of a deal, then they are not behaving properly for a healthy relationship. It can even be construed as emotional abuse, just as damaging as physical abuse.

In any relationship. the two people should try to build each other up, not break them down. But, it is important to keep in mind that you shouldn’t be putting them up on a pedestal, telling them they can do no wrong.

No Support

Like I said before, your partner is supposed to build you up, and supporting you in your life is a major piece of that. They might not agree with your choices or decisions, but they will still support you - though expect some expression of their thoughts on your choice/decision.

Every healthy relationship is like a dance, you both have to work at it for it to work, and there needs to be a push and a pull.

Dismisses Your Thoughts/Feelings

I feel like this one is pretty self explanatory. I also covered this on the “Makes You Feel Worse” section.

Cannot Have Calm Conversations on “Touchy” Subjects

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