calling yourself ugly makes no sense because you don't really see yourself. you don't see yourself lying in bed curled up and silent with your chest heaving and falling. you don't see yourself reading a book with flapping and shining eyes. you don't see yourself looking at someone with love and caring in your heart. there is no mirror to stand in your way when you laugh and smile and happiness pours out of you. you would know exactly how bright and beautiful you are if you saw yourself in the moments; where you really are yourself.

You don’t need to go back to who you were before your trauma. It’s okay to have changed. And while trauma will change you, it does not take away from your value. It’s okay to put the pieces back together differently. You get to decide who you are now. One thing is certain about who you are now, and that is that you are worthy as you are. No matter where you are in your healing, even if you haven’t started healing. You are worthy. 

Relationships are meant to be your safe haven and your happy place, not another battle you have to fight.

don’t forget to hit refresh every once in a while. you can’t start your life again, but you can always start a new day and create a new story

thinking about “you haven’t met all the people who will love you” and like!!! you also haven’t found all the things that will make you happy!!!! there will always be new authors and musicians and artists whose work you will one day discover and love!!!! there will always be new hobbies and skills for you to learn and feel fulfilled by!!! there will always be new things around the corner that will bring sudden and unexpected happiness!!!!!!!!!!!

what if it all works out. HOW ABOUT THAT HUH

Another advice for girls and young women: love and sex is supposed to be fun, happy and make your life better. If it’s not, if it’s making you miserable, if it’s making you love yourself less, if it’s making you doubt yourself, and if you feel like you have to sacrifice yourself or put up with things you don’t want to, you are absolutely entitled to throw it out from your life. In fact, you should, because your life is so, so valuable and you have the right to be happy. Being a girl does not mean having to accept misery and pain, even if that’s what we’re often taught. You are allowed to decide what comes into your life. Let it be happy and beautiful.

happy 2sday everyone. it is the 2nd day of the 2nd month of the 22nd year and it is tuesday

if your teenage or childhood years were robbed from you due to trauma or abuse, i want you to know it’s not too late to experience that childish happiness. it’s not too late to enjoy life, have fun and gain yourself back.

genuinely from the bottom of my heart i wish every single one of you peace love joy and happiness for not only 2022 but for the rest of your lives.