cordelia

a list of things that are sex if you’re gay enough about it and you want it to be:

“When I was a dominatrix, I once rubbed balloons all over a man for seventy-five dollars. He would’ve called it sex. I would’ve called it work. It was mutually consensual, and I think we were both correct in our assessment.

the jigsaw supporter: people die in saw traps because they don’t have enough will to live

“girling is enacted not only through being explicitly addressed as a girl, but in the style of mode of address: because you are a girl, we can do this to you. violence too is a mode of address. being girl is a way of being taught what it is to have a body: you are being told; you will receive my advances; you are object; thing, nothing. to become girl is to learn to expect such advances, to modify your behavior in accordance; to become girl as becoming ware of being in public space; becoming wary of being at all. indeed, if you do not modify your behavior in accordance, if you are not careful and cautious, you can be made responsible for the violence directed toward you.”