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Yes, sexuality is fluid, and no two people have the same exact experience.  But honestly, the extent of terms that are on the “ace” spectrum is getting out of hand.  I understanding wanting terms to relate with.  I understand wanting to explain yourself accurately to others.  But I came across a list of all these sexualities, most of which are considered to fall under the ~ ace spectrum ~.

Honestly, look at all of these:

Abrosexual ____fluid ____flux Acorsexual Aegosexual Akoisexual Aliquasexual Altsexual Amicussexual Antisexual Aplatonic Apothisexual Apressexual ARCsexual ____spike Autosexual Boreasexual Burstsexual Caedsexual Cassexual Ceasesexual Ceterosexual Cupiosexual Demisexual Dreadsexual Duosexual Durasexual Fictosexul Finsexual Fraysexual ____flexible Iamvanosexual Iculasexual Kalossexual Limnosexual Masexual Merosexual Minsexual Morphesexual Multisexual Myrsexual Neusexual Ninsexual Nomasexual Novosexual Nowomasexual Omnisexual Penultisexual Perosexual Placiosexual Poetisexual Polarsexual Polysexual Pomosexual Presexual Proquasexual Proquusexual Quadsexual Quintsexual Quoisexual Reciprosexual Requiessexual Sentisexual Sanssexual Sensusexual Singulusexual Splitsexual Thymsexual Trisexual Vexsexual Volitsexual Womasexual Xumsexual

This is getting out of hand.  This is harmful because we’re just trying to think of words to express minor situations that don’t lead to any oppression, and it undermines people who are (dare I say it) actually asexual.  I’m not gatekeeping or policing or whatever you guys call it, I’m being honest.  I don’t like these terms, I truly don’t think they belong in the community. 

Besides posting to the wrong blog or answering a question, I haven’t even touched this blog in 6 months.  That post you’re responding to was posted two years ago.

Further, I’m over posting about asexuality.  I don’t even identify as asexual anymore.  I think it’s a valid sexuality, and there’s nothing wrong with identifying as asexual (I mean really, if someone wants to use one of those descriptors in the original post? Be my guest, whatever makes a person happy).

Yes, sexuality is fluid, and no two people have the same exact experience.  But honestly, the extent of terms that are on the “ace” spectrum is getting out of hand.  I understanding wanting terms to relate with.  I understand wanting to explain yourself accurately to others.  But I came across a list of all these sexualities, most of which are considered to fall under the ~ ace spectrum ~.

Honestly, look at all of these:

Abrosexual ____fluid ____flux Acorsexual Aegosexual Akoisexual Aliquasexual Altsexual Amicussexual Antisexual Aplatonic Apothisexual Apressexual ARCsexual ____spike Autosexual Boreasexual Burstsexual Caedsexual Cassexual Ceasesexual Ceterosexual Cupiosexual Demisexual Dreadsexual Duosexual Durasexual Fictosexul Finsexual Fraysexual ____flexible Iamvanosexual Iculasexual Kalossexual Limnosexual Masexual Merosexual Minsexual Morphesexual Multisexual Myrsexual Neusexual Ninsexual Nomasexual Novosexual Nowomasexual Omnisexual Penultisexual Perosexual Placiosexual Poetisexual Polarsexual Polysexual Pomosexual Presexual Proquasexual Proquusexual Quadsexual Quintsexual Quoisexual Reciprosexual Requiessexual Sentisexual Sanssexual Sensusexual Singulusexual Splitsexual Thymsexual Trisexual Vexsexual Volitsexual Womasexual Xumsexual

This is getting out of hand.  This is harmful because we’re just trying to think of words to express minor situations that don’t lead to any oppression, and it undermines people who are (dare I say it) actually asexual.  I’m not gatekeeping or policing or whatever you guys call it, I’m being honest.  I don’t like these terms, I truly don’t think they belong in the community. 

for example, omni/polysexual means someone loves more than one gender, but in different definitions.

nomasexual means someone loves all ppl whose gender isn’t “man” or deeply rooted in masculinity.

womasexual is for nonbinary ppl who love women but aren’t fem-aligned and thus don’t feel comfortable with sapphic terms at all because it misgender them, but they still want a word to define their special attraction to women as a nonbinary person.

some of these terms i also have my problems with, like “quintsexual”because UM GROSS ?? TRANS FETISH IS GROSS ?? or presexual, who literally means “preceding sexual development or maturity”, it’s literally not a sexuality.

like. op didn’t make an actual list of sexualities under the ace spectrum. they just picked a bunch of bs things ending with “sexual”. they just made up shit to make ace ppl look bad. by shitting on trans and m-spec ppl at the same time.

Besides posting to the wrong blog or answering a question, I haven’t even touched this blog in 6 months.  That post you’re responding to was posted two years ago.

Further, I’m over posting about asexuality.  I don’t even identify as asexual anymore.  I think it’s a valid sexuality, and there’s nothing wrong with identifying as asexual (I mean really, if someone wants to use one of those descriptors in the original post? Be my guest, whatever makes a person happy).

What is Karma? Karma is the Sanskrit word for action. It is equivalent to Newton’s law of ‘every action must have a reaction’. When we think, speak or act we initiate a force that will react accordingly. This returning force maybe modified, changed or suspended, but most people will not be able eradicate it.

This law of cause and effect is not punishment, but is wholly for the sake of education or learning.

A person may not escape the consequences of his actions, but he will suffer only if he himself has made the conditions ripe for his suffering. Ignorance of the law is no excuse whether the laws are man-made or universal. To stop being afraid and to start being empowered in the worlds of karma and reincarnation, here is what you need to know about karmic laws.

1. THE GREAT LAW

– “As you sow, so shall you reap”. This is also known as the “Law of Cause and Effect”. – Whatever we put out in the Universe is what comes back to us. – If what we want is Happiness, Peace, Love, Friendship… Then we should BE Happy, Peaceful, Loving and a True Friend.

2. THE LAW OF CREATION

– Life doesn’t just HAPPEN, it requires our participation. – We are one with the Universe, both inside and out. – Whatever surrounds us gives us clues to our inner state. – BE yourself, and surround yourself with what you want to have present in your Life.

3. THE LAW OF HUMILITY

– What you refuse to accept, will continue for you. – If what we see is an enemy, or someone with a character trait that we find to be negative, then we ourselves are not focused on a higher level of existence.

4. THE LAW OF GROWTH

– “Wherever you go, there you are”. – For us to GROW in Spirit, it is we who must change – and not the people, places or things around us. – The only given we have in our lives is OURSELVES and that is the only factor we have control over. – When we change who and what we are within our heart our life follows suit and changes too.

5. THE LAW OF RESPONSIBILITY

– Whenever there is something wrong in my life, there is something wrong in me. – We mirror what surrounds us – and what surrounds us mirrors us; this is a Universal Truth. – We must take responsibility what is in our life.

6.THE LAW OF CONNECTION

– Even if something we do seems inconsequential, it is very important that it gets done as everything in the Universe is connected. – Each step leads to the next step, and so forth and so on. – Someone must do the initial work to get a job done. – Neither the first step nor the last are of greater significance, – As they were both needed to accomplish the task. – Past-Present-Future they are all connected…

7. THE LAW OF FOCUS

– You can not think of two things at the same time. – When our focus is on Spiritual Values, it is impossible for us to have lower thoughts such as greed or anger.

8. THE LAW OF GIVING AND HOSPITALITY

– If you believe something to be true,then sometime in your life you will be called upon to demonstrate that particular truth. – Here is where we put what we CLAIM that we have learned, into actual

9. PRACTICE. THE LAW OF HERE AND NOW

– Looking backward to examine what was, prevents us from being totally in the HERE AND NOW. – Old thoughts, old patterns of behavior, old dreams… – Prevent us from having new ones.

10. THE LAW OF CHANGE

– History repeats itself until we learn the lessons that we need to change our path.

11. THE LAW OF PATIENCE AND REWARD

– All Rewards require initial toil. – Rewards of lasting value require patient and persistent toil. – True joy follows doing what we’re suppose to be doing, and waiting for the reward to come in on its own time.

12. THE LAW OF SIGNIFICANCE AND INSPIRATION

Like, there are treatments for things that have NOTHING to do with sexuality that will… affect your asexuality.

“I can’t help you without doing this” is an actual reality lots of treatments face?

I was deep into what most of y’all would call ~grey-asexuality before I was on my hypothyroidism medication. Because hypothyroidism can tank your libido (and lots of other things–your metabolism, your mental health, etc).

There is no medication I can be given to treat my hypothyroidism that wouldn’t also affect my sex drive. My doctor, a woman who knew NOTHING about my sex drive, because the only reason she diagnosed me w/ hypothyroidism is because of my blood work not because of anything I said to her, could not prescribe me something that helped my hormone production but didn’t affect my sex drive.

She could not help me without prescribing something that “fixed” my libido as well. That’s not aphobia, that’s just the reality of medication and hormone production. I’m still largely disinterested in sex and romance but my sex drive has changed because… well…

That’s sort of just… how thyroids work.

So if you’re with a doctor and they’re saying, “Me offering you medication to help you with [insert disease, neurodivergence, disorder, whatever] is going to have some side effects, perhaps on your sex drive,” that’s not aphobia. That’s just… how medication works. And doctors are MUCH MUCH MUCH MUCH MUCH more likely to put you on a treatment that absolutely TANKS your sex drive and makes you disinterested/incapable of sex than they are medication that increases your sex drive.

Which is why “amount of sexual attraction/sex drive” can’t be a coherent identity. Gayness, transness doesn’t change on a daily dosage of levothyroxine or whatever the fuck you’re on.

But amount of sexual attraction/libido/desire, whatever the fuck? Can change with mood, medication, disorders, hungriness, energy levels, mental health, relationship status, how much you leave the house and see actual real people that you COULD be attracted (ie a hermit who only sees their parents is probably gonna experience sexual attraction a lot less than someone who leaves their house and sees other people), physical health, trauma, age, development, religious/personal beliefs/guilt/shame, and just about any other minutiae.

Claiming that lacking sexual attraction is pathologized without acknowledging that literally every single human being has periods of time where they’re not experiencing sexual attraction, even long periods of time (and I’m talking years here) where they don’t have any sexual desires or maybe only experience sexual desires in very specific contexts (ie only with their partners, only in certain places, etc) is just… ridiculous.

“Asexuality is pathologized because some treatments for unrelated things might affect someone’s level of sexual desire” just proves asexuality cannot be a coherent experience, identity, or orientation the way gayness or transness is. It doesn’t prove pathologization or oppression.

Asexuality can be a symptom of something larger. Lack of sexual desire can be a symptom. (Side-note: Y’all only ever conflate asexuality with a lack of sexual desire when it comes to earning oppression points, any other moment and you’re screaming about how aces can have sexual desires.) Gayness and transness are not symptoms. They’re considered mental illnesses because people hate gayness and transness, not because they’re actually associated with any disorders. Gayness and transness aren’t tacked on to physical or mental ailments and are treated as as side effect.

Gay people don’t get put on hypothyroid medication and come out straight. Ace people… get put on hypothyroid medication and can come out less ace.

All aces aren’t being targeted by medical treatment. It just so happens that… some people are ace because they have medical conditions. That’s not pathologization of asexuality, that’s pathologization of their medical conditions.

And there are aces who are ace all their life and it’s not related to any known physical/mental health issue and you know how institutions response to that? They say, “If you aren’t distressed about it, it’s none of my business. If you are distressed about it, we will offer you counseling so you can adapt to and accept it.”

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then i read the rest and the tags and i was like o

and like idk if I haven’t talked about it enough here or what but like the first time I id’d as asexual was literally because I was involved in an unhealthy “relationship” with someone 10 years older than me and felt like identifying as asexual was the only way to avoid any sexual discussions

and like knowing how this website is I would not be surprised if ppl were telling kids they’re probably asexual without also mentioning that it’s normal to have anxieties about sex and romance at that age!!!!