walk with the shadows.

Hey Yall! Here is the link to the shop lists for witches of color. This will be updated weekly (hopefully), and as more people submit. If you’re a witch of color or practitioners of color and want to submit your shop info to be added to this list, HERE’S the link. 

“I Receive Good News Soon”

Ingredients for spells can be found pretty much anywhere. Here are ten you may not have thought of, most of which I’ve used!

The ribbon used to tie a bouquet: Very versatile ingredient! Can be used to symbolise love, connection and happiness. The ribbon’s correspondences can be varied based on the situation by which you acquired the bouquet. A bouquet given to you by your partner on your first anniversary, for example, will have strong love energy and could even be used in a spell to reignite the ‘spark’ in the relationship. If the bouquet was given to you by a best friend on your birthday, it would correspond with friendship and potentially have solar energy (with a birthday celebrating one revolution of the sun). The ribbon could also symbolise your connection to whomever gave you the bouquet. I keep the ribbons I get off bouquets for this purpose!

The thorns from a rose given to you: I kept the thorns from roses that were given to me by an ex and used them when performing a curse. Really good for symbolising toxic relationships or helping someone realise they’re causing you pain. You could use thorns off roses in your garden, but the thorns will act better as a taglock if they’re given to you.

Bobby pins: Structure, organisation and beauty. An air of temporary composure when things might be falling apart. Perfect for glamours for this reason.

Greeting cards: Happiness, love, relationships, friendship, connection, celebration, appreciation. The occasion upon which they were given and who they were given by will of course affect their energy.

Old clothes: Another versatile ingredient. If you feel the old clothes represent a version of yourself that you want to let go of, they could be used in a cleansing ritual (perhaps by burning). If they were clothes you really liked but wore so much that they’re breaking, they could symbolise beauty, comfort or contentment. Also a good taglock if they were gifted to you by someone. Poppets are extra potent when constructed from this fabric.

Train/bus tickets: Discovery, exploration and opportunity. If the ticket is taking you to a favourite place it might correspond with happiness. If the ticket was acquired on holiday it might correspond with relaxation.

Stickers you still have from your childhood: Innocence, happiness, creativity. Can symbolise bringing back something which has been lost.

Washi tape: Small blessings, excitement, beauty, adding something good to an otherwise ordinary situation. Colour and symbol correspondences may also come into play here.

Wrapping paper: Can symbolise happiness, disappointment (if the gift sucked) or gratitude. Could be used in beauty spells or for glamours. If the wrapping paper came from a disappointing gift, it could even be used in a hex/curse for someone who tries to sugarcoat terrible situations, or changes the topic/turns it on you when you try to approach them about issues in your relationship. Could be use for prosperity or money spells.

Guylian seashell chocolates: Really great offering for Aphrodite (chocolate and the ocean). Useful in sea witchcraft, or as an offering to ocean deities. Good for beauty and love spells.

It’s been a long time since I’ve made any relevant posts for the community, but while sifting through my packed inbox I noticed a trend. A lot of people have been coming to this blog asking what they can use as offerings/on altars/as associations for certain characters. The problem here lies in the fact that I am only one Human (currently the only one running this blog) and I can’t possibly know of every character in existence. 

It can be very tempting to message someone and ask for the answers, but what do you do when that person doesn’t know? You’ve got to fall back on yourself at that point. When it comes to PC Paganism a lot of questions can be answered by yourself through critical thinking of the source material. You don’t need a stranger on the internet to tell you what offerings or associations a certain character has when you’re the one consuming this media. You should be able to come up with a small list at least. But it might not be an easy task, especially if you aren’t used to doing this. So how do you approach this task?

Take some simple steps:

Write down everything you know the character canonically likes

Write down things you think the character would like based on other canon information (ex. character loves bees. Maybe they like bee-friendly flowers since more of those leads to more bees around them?)

Write a list of pastimes, people they like, things they eat more often than others (like Dean Winchester and his pie), things they wear a lot, etc.

If you’re truly stumped on what a character likes, this is probably a sign that you need to start from the beginning and reread/watch the source material over. Get it back in your head and casually keep notes. The more fresh it is in your mind the easier it’ll be to come up with ideas for offerings.

And if none of that works? Use pictures as representations of them for altars and give offerings of things you have around the house. Unless it’s something they have been known to hate, they’ll probably appreciate the effort regardless. 

Okay, that’s it for now! If you’d like a more in-depth post about offerings and associations give this post a read. And remember that you don’t need an “authority” in the community to tell you these things; you have everything you need. You can be your own authority on the matter!

A spell to banish toxic and draining people from your life and to cut your ties with them. This spell needs to be done while actively cutting them out of your life via social media, communication channels and interactions - this spell won’t be much help if you personally keep initiating contact.

You Will Need:

🔥 Black Salt/Witch’s Salt (simple recipe if needed: 1 part sea salt, 1 part black pepper, 1 part ash - grind together)

🔥 A Black Candle

🔥 2 Red Candles

🔥 Poppet of Person or Persons

🔥 Cookie Tray/Sheet 

🔥 Wax Paper (easy clean-up)

🔥 A small bag you can throw away

🔥 Tape (preferably duct tape or packing tape - scissors may also be needed)

Set Up:

Cleanse yourself and your space well. If needed or desired cast a circle or any protection wards you may feel to be necessary though this up to you as a personal preference. Make sure you are working in a place where you can safely burn candles, tie back long hair and roll up any loose clothing or sleeves. Place your cookie tray down in your work area and cover it with wax paper if desired to protect it from dripping wax. 

For your poppet make it out of what you wish to and make sure to write the names of the individuals you are banishing from your life on it. If you have any taglocks you may attach them to the poppet as well. Have your bag and tape set to the side for easy access but out of the way. 

Set up your candles so that the red ones are on either side of the black candle, light them as you desire before beginning your spell.

The Spell:

🔥 Place your poppet onto the wax paper lined cookie sheet 

🔥 Take your black salt and pour it over the poppet, visualize it being all of the negative words and things they have thrown at you, all of the darkness they’ve brought to your life and all of the reasons why they need to be banished from it

🔥 Once it is well coated take your red candles and extinguish them, make sure the wax at the top is well melted and easy to drip and pour - begin dripping wax over the black salt and poppet below

🔥 “By Din’s Fire, I banish you” Repeat this as you drip the red wax

🔥 Once done with the red wax extinguish the black candle carefully and drip the black wax

🔥 “(name[s]), You are gone from my life a never return” 

🔥 Take your wax paper with the poppet, salt and wax still on it and fold and crumple it up carefully but firmly so nothing falls out.

🔥 Place this bundle into the bag you are using and tape it up well, sealing any remaining energies or things they have brought into your life so it cannot affect you again

🔥 Take the taped up bag and toss it into the trash or dumpster where it belongs and continue on with your life without them

A curse to stop someone who has been spewing hateful speech and words and return that negativity they put out back into their life.

You Will Need:

Sea Shell (preferably a clam shell)

Paper

Black Marker or Pen

Black Candles

Taglock (if you can manage)

Pencil

Sea Water (sea salt in water will suffice if needed)

Steps:

On your small slip of paper write down your target’s name in pencil.

With your black marker write in large letters covering the name “SHUT UP!”

Crumple up the paper between your fingers, rolling it and squashing it. Put all of your frustration and anger into this action.

Place the crumpled piece of paper into your sea shell. To release more negativity and return it to the target spit onto the shell and paper. If you have a taglock place it in the shell as well.

Place your candle onto of the sea shell and light it, let it burn down and cover the shell and paper in wax

Once it is sufficiently covered take your sea water and pour it over the candle drenching it and the shell. Take the shell and bury it in the ground or into a planter. If you cannot do this then store it somewhere dark.

Azura

Varies. Every time she possesses someone new, she craves their favorite food, but rarely has the chance to indulge in it. She considered this, during our interview with her, to be the greatest curse the world has ever seen. Our researchers, taking into consideration Azura’s history with cursing people, wisely decided to not challenge her on that claim, for fear of the reprisals it could bring.

Boethiah

Unknown. Our researchers refused to risk contacting Boethiah over such a matter, regardless of the incentives offered to do so.

Clavicus Vile

It’s not the specific food to him, but the company he keeps while he enjoys it. Clavicus will go on long treks to a food stand, enjoying a five minute snack after spending three hours with his number one pal. For his part, Clavicus Vile claimed the entire trip was just to grab a bite to eat.

Hermaeus Mora

There was a… grave cost for this forbidden knowledge. What has been done can never be undone, and the knowledge gained can never be forgotten. It is a seasonal rib sandwich sold at a convenience restaurant chain, which he claims to have invented, and to be made out of… himself…

Hircine

Hircine claims that he does not believe in comfort food, his body is a temple. However, our investigation into this matter reveals his trail mix recipe produces far too much trail mix to be practical for any hunting excursion. He also always keeps a bag filled with it on him, and never seems to share with his fellow hunters.

Malacath

Orc home cooking. Malacath was very up front with his preferred comfort food upon summoning, and was arguably the easiest Prince to work with for this project.

Mehrunes Dagon

Mehrunes Dagon has each Loredas on his calendar circled out with an hour long block, notated with “Only if you did good”. Our attempts to speak to him about this were met with no clear answers, but our agents were able to track his activity during these periods. While it was noted that he chose to skip this activity irregularly, he will normally spend that hour browsing various sweet shops, thoroughly judging the menu and offerings. And without fail, he will eventually, and seemingly spontaneously, order exactly one item, which he will then ravenously consume on the spot.  

Our research team insisted we mention that Mehrunes Dagon always paid the tabs for these meals, with tips varying from a flat two Septims, all the way up to doubling the listed price of the item during one of these trips.

Mephala

Record of Summoning of Daedric Entity “Mephala” on 2E853, 13th of Frostfall

Lead Summoner: “The ritual is nearly complete, your opportunity to speak to her will soon come. Be prepared.”

Lead Researcher: “Yes… yes… good. Right on schedule.”

Acolyte: “She is being connected to us!”

Lead Summoner: “Oh Mephala, Webspinner, Spider, Teacher of the Secret Arts, Queen of the Eight Shadows of Murder, Sibling of Herma Mora, Hear Us Now!”

Mephala: “Not another one of these…”

Lead Researcher: “Clan Mother, we hope our offering has pleased you, and will hear our humble…”

Mephala: “Spiders.”

Lead Research: “I beg your pardon for interrupting…”

Mephala: “The answer to your question is spiders.”

Lead Summoner: “Acolyte, what did you do? Our connection is clearly…”

Mephala: “No, I can hear you. Your acolyte performed their duties admirably. The issue is, you chose to summon me, on my busiest day of the year, to ask me ‘What is your favorite comfort food’. Do you have any ideas how many petitions, questions, offerings I receive… how much I have to do today? I really don’t want to listen to the usual spiel for such an easy question. Now that the matter at hand is settled, I will take my leave.”

End of Record

Meridia

Tracking Meridia’s activity proved to be challenging, and required prolonged study. However, our researchers began to notice a pattern develop after several years of observation. Meridia’s desire for comfort food was first noted after [This passage has been censored by order of the Temple] After which, she will seek out the simple and ever popular sweetroll.

Interestingly, it has been noted that her preferred method to acquire this treat is to travel to Mundus, accost a random person who currently possesses a sweetroll, seize it from them, before loudly boasting “No one will ever believe you” while disappearing once again. Her claim appears to be sound, as our research has shown there are vast numbers of reports of stolen sweetrolls in Tamrielic history, but no serious investigation into these brazen thefts.

Molag Bal

[This passage has been censored by order of the Temple]

Namira

Namira was, surprisingly, extremely receptive to our line of questioning. She provided us a lengthy list of all things she enjoyed eating, and offered a sample with every example. Our researchers, save one Khajiit scholar who attended the summoning, proved incapable of stomaching most of the concoctions she presented, but a clear preference was present. Overly sweetened food, to the point of causing gagging and vomiting at the mere taste, are Namira’s favorite comfort food.

Nocturnal

Our scholars noted, of all the Daedra who were not contacted directly for this research, Nocturnal’s proved to be the absolute easiest Daedric Realm to infiltrate. Our agents considered contacting the Prince about the lax security, and offering some suggestions to improve her security to prevent further intrusions, but have decided to avoid doing so for now, in case another infiltration of her Realm ever proved necessary.

Nocturnal’s private kitchen proved to be stocked to the brim with nothing but unhealthy snack foods. Our researchers recovered samples included a wide spectrum of various comfort foods, ranging from full desserts, salty snacks, alcoholic beverages, and common childhood treats from virtually every known culture. Some items have yet to be identified, and further investigations into them are scheduled on the pending projects board (Volunteers, please refer there for further inquiries, And no, we are not going to risk detection in Evergloam for another “snack run”. We don’t care if the first dozen missions were a total success, we are not going to push our luck).

Peryite

Due to the dangers associated with Peryite, no direct field research was conducted. He generously restricts mortal ability to reach his realm for very good reason, and a summoning was deemed to be too large of a risk to Tamriel’s public health. Our researchers have concluded that, if anything, Peryite would most likely prefer caffeinated beverages and snacks as a treat of choice to focus on his very important work.

Sanguine

Everything and anything, depending on the occasion. Due to the addictive nature associated with Sanguine worship, field research into Sanguine on this subject was completely restricted.

Sheogorath

Cheese. Thankfully, Sheogorath has made his peculiar infatuation with cheese abundantly clear, and our existing records provided enough evidence to support this conclusion without risking a confrontation with the Prince of Madness.

Vaermina

Here’s a recipe on how to make ground taproot!

(this is my own personal *recipe* on an alchemical item in skyrim! you might do one differently)

Taproot is used for regenerating and restoring magicka, increasing illusion, and creating a weakness for magic.

This *mix* can be made into tea or used in spells or used for whatever!

The mix:

Lemongrass

Mint

Green tea

Mix these loose herbs together and use this if you need to gain your energy back and if your magick is low.

Witchblr is a fantastic place to learn. You have access to loads of free content and a diverse community. These are two things that are hard for witches to find elsewhere! Before I found witchblr I only had whichever blogs I could find through Google and my local library’s one-shelf occult section. That being said, once you’ve looked through all the top-ranking posts and find the same ones coming across your dash again and again, it can start to feel like you’re not getting much out of it. So, how do you get the most out of witchblr?

Refining Your Dash

The dashboard (home page) - where you take in the majority of information! It’s super important to make sure the content coming across your dash is good quality. This is where you’re most likely learning from on witchblr, and as a result it cannot be more essential that you ensure you’re taking in information that is accurate and useful.

The best way to do this is go through the list of people you’re following. Check the following things:

When was the last time they posted? Most blogs will show this when you access their actual blog by clicking on their profile picture (URL should show up as username.tumblr.com). Look at the date stamp on their most recent post. If you can’t see a date stamp, type into the URL bar “username.tumblr.com/archive”. The general rule of thumb I use is that if they haven’t posted in three months, unfollow. This blog is most likely inactive by now. However, if this is one of your favourite blogs or this blog has a habit of periods of inactivity (i.e. taking breaks from Tumblr), it’s obviously completely fine to make an exception.

What do you want out of Tumblr? If you’re mostly here for the memes, with some witchy content on the side, skip this step. If you’re here to learn, give this a shot. Scroll through their recent posts and see how often they post witchcraft content. Is it mostly memes? Political commentary? Fandom posts? If their feed is full of non-witch content, this blog is contributing to clogging up your dash. Be the judge of how much non-witch content you’re okay with seeing, and unfollow accordingly. Keep in mind that the short-and-sweet posts so many of us favour on witchblr aren’t actually the most informative! Long-form posts will usually have more depth, making them more educational. Try to find a balance between the two.

Is their content reliable? This is applicable to both reblogs and posts they’ve made themselves. Read through some of the witch content on their feed. Do they make assumptions without proof to back them up? Do they contribute to stirring unwarranted drama in the community? If they’re making original posts with ideas you’ve never heard of before, check their sources. Is this UPG (unverified personal diagnosis aka information that they figured out themselves)? Great! If they provide their reasoning, or you see the post marked UPG, that’s totally fine. Do they cite their sources or mention the books they’ve read that inspired the post? Also great! Do they have a habit of continuously making statements without any sources, education or reasoning behind them? Not so great. Do they make posts that essentially just regurgitate information you’ve read elsewhere a hundred times? Also not great. Try to make sure you’re following blogs that clearly know what they’re talking about, or that have done their research. Bonus points for following blogs that aren’t complete beginners - I’d say pay special notice to blogs that have been practicing for 5+ years; there’s tons of beginners in the witchblr community so paying attention to those with experience is a good move for reliable info! If they don’t have much experience, do they document their craft? It’s also a good idea to follow blogs that talk about what has/hasn’t worked for them as a witch. This way, you can learn from other people’s mistakes (and successes)!

Now that you’ve reenacted The Purge (2013), it’s time to some shiny new blogs to follow! Personally, to find blogs to follow, I look through my favourite posts that I’ve reblogged. Then, I check out the blog that posted it in the first place. After quickly vetting them with the above steps, I give them a follow! This is a great way to find good blogs, and you’ll often find that they’re still producing quality content. If you’re stuck for somewhere to start, I’m gonna include a list of some recommended blogs:

@hillbillyoracle

@nightshadeandroses

@alienswithbeans

@powerpriestess

@maddiviner

@kitchenwitchtingss

@an-irish-witch

@underworldariel

@thepastelpriestess

@chaoticirce

Actually Using Resources

I used to be one of those people who just hoard Tumblr posts. You know, just reblog everything and be like I’ll read this again later or I’ll use this spell at some point. That’s great if you actually do read it later, or do use the spell. But, most of us don’t. You don’t need to actually try every ritual that comes across your dash, but there’s certainly ways to use the content that you’re seeing more.

Use tags appropriately: Tags are great for organising your blog. You can tag things however you like - by subject, difficulty, how interested you are in it, etc. Whatever system you use, just make sure to stick to it! Tags are pretty useless if you change which ones you use all the time. If you’re looking for inspiration, take a look at how other witchblr’s use their tags. Personally, I tag posts by subject, so that if I’m feeling like doing some kitchen witchcraft, I can just search “kitchen witchcraft” on my blog. I also tag my original posts with “lucipost” (a short, unique tag) to make it easier for me to collate my original content.

Do a grimoire update: By now you’ve probably got lots of good resources archived in your blog. It’s time to come through on your promises of I’ll come back to this later and go through everything you’ve reblogged. Pick out the best quality posts, and the most interesting information, and use it to write new or improved sections in your grimoire in your own words. Don’t forget to add in links or citations (”source: @username on tumblr”) so that when you come back to the information you know where you got it from!

Interacting with the Community

As I mentioned earlier, one of the best parts of witchblr is its wide range of content creators making free resources! You have access to hundred of witches, each with different opinions, cultural backgrounds, values and beliefs. Take advantage of this! It was Socrates who said “I am the wisest man alive, for I know one thing, and that is that I know nothing”. Learning from other people’s practices is one of the most rewarding and beneficial experiences you can have on witchblr.

Engage with other people: I’m sure you have favourite blogs on witchblr, or people you find really funny (or even really cool - I myself am I victim of Admiring From Afar). Engage with them (and everyone else)! Reply to posts with your thoughts on their ideas. If you try someone’s spell or ritual, snap a quick photo of a part of the process, then post it and tag them in it - let everyone know what changes you made, what worked and what didn’t. It’s this kind of feedback that’s helpful for everyone, and that encourages people to continue sharing their practice! Have something you’re confused about? Need a nudge in the right direction? Send in an ask. Most blogs will love to hear from you. Just remember to say thank you! If you’re in a financial position where you’re able to support content creators through their Patreon (for continuous donations) or Ko-Fi (for one-off tips and thank you’s), I’d highly recommend it. This money compensates them for the time that they spend making resources free (again!! free!! how crazy is that!) and accessible. It gives them more time to keep making the things you love, and allows them to reinvest in their craft. Contributing to Patreon will also usually give you access to more, better quality, resources. It’s a relatively affordable way of investing in your witchcraft education, and the education of others.

Join witchy discords: There’s tons of witchcraft-based discord servers that offer a place for you to have in-depth, engaging discussions with other witches. They’re great when you want to talk an idea through with someone, or even just hear someone else’s opinion. I would especially stress this if you’re a closeted witch, as these servers provide a place for you to find an accepting community. Build connections with the other people on the server, add them on Tumblr and send them posts you think they’d be interested in. Try to remain active on the server, even if it’s just five or ten minutes of conversation a day. If you’re a little shy, try to lurk (just read the chats other people are having) for a few days and slowly start contributing to conversations to build confidence. If you can, join voice chats! Actually hearing the voice of other witches feels kinda crazy sometimes, especially since it’s easy to forget there are real people behind the screen. I genuinely think that this is one of the most important steps if you want to have a more rewarding witchblr experience.

Look out for community events: Discord servers will often run workshops and events that’ll either help you learn more or have fun with the community. For example, the recent TechnoCon 2020 not only featured several panelists talking about a wide range of witchcraft practices, but also dress-up competitions, a group ritual and a charity fundraiser that raised around $1200 for COVID relief! CozyCoven is currently running an energy work workshop throughout the month of May. Even if you can’t attend the event because of timezone differences, someone will usually transcribe or record the workshop/panel if you ask politely, if they weren’t already planning on doing so. I’d also highly recommend making some notes in your grimoire about your experience with the event, what you learnt, and who was responsible for it. Other than educational events, I’ve seen servers do a whole range of things from secret santa gift exchanges to movie nights!

I’m gonna link to a few discord servers here. I’m a member of a few of them, but I’m not really that active anywhere other than Cozy Coven:

The Cozy Coven

Church of Night

Moonseeker’s Nexus

Resting Witch Face

Ashes of Alexandria

Sunflower Cottage

Document Your Journey

This is a short point, but it is an important one. Witchblr is a platform that thrives off engagement, interaction and sharing. If you’re in a position to be educating other people (I’m gonna say a minimum of one year of practicing, although it really should be more), make posts! Talk about what you’ve learnt. If you’re newer to this, share your experiences. Use witchblr as a diary to document things some of the things you’ve tried - other people might find it useful! Obviously, only share what you’re comfortable with. Everyone’s spiritual journey is personal and at times private, so don’t feel the need to overshare.

Witchblr As a Home Base

I think this is a good point to end on. I think of witchblr as a home base: it’s somewhere to start, and somewhere to come back to, but if you want to extend yourself, it’s not somewhere to stay constantly! There’s tons of other witchcraft resources out there: IRL festivals/conventions, books, YouTube, non-Tumblr blogs, etc. It is SO important that you broaden your horizons. Getting diversity in your sources is something academics make sure to do for a reason! Witchblr will always be here for you to come back to, but it’s a good idea to go out on an adventure now and again so that you have something interesting to bring home.

Here’s a little recipe (UPG) on how I make a mix inspired by Skyrim’s Dwarven Oil.

What you’ll need is:

Dragon’s blood

Leftover burnt herbs (specifically rosemary, St John’s wort, and/or lavender. Though it can be any type of herb!)

Olive oil or Almond Oil or Jojoba oil or Sunflower oil (Basically any type of oil, I don’t recommend vegetable oil, these are my suggestions though)

Coffee filter

Vial/Jar

Optional: Essential oils (If you don’t have burnt rosemary, st. john’s wort, or lavender you can use Essential oils! Burnt herbs give more of a color though.)

Grind your mix! Grind the herbs and dragon’s blood together and once grinded down to more smaller granules put it in a container and add the oil(s). Let it sit in a dark area for a bit, the longer you wait the more potent it will be!

Once satisfied with the mix, strain it into a jar/vial with a coffee filter and tadah! You’ve got yourself a jar of Dwarven Oil.

Scathecraw is a very power herb that is used in jinxing, hexing, cursing, and poison (please don’t use it for this! it’s harmful in the game and don’t ever make poison).

Let’s get started!

You will need..

🥀Star anise (ground)

🥀Black peppercorns (ground)

🥀Tobacco (if you are 18 or over!)

🥀Optional: Nightshade or Mistletoe

A spell to encourage the person you like to kiss you (under their consent). Wonderful for dates~

You will Need:

Lip Gloss or lipstick (preferably red or a vibrant pink)

Rose Incense

Pink paper

Red Marker or Pen

Rose Water or Rose Quartz Gem Elixir

Mirror (preferably on the wall)

Steps:

Set up your area in front of the mirror you will be working with. Light your rose incense. Let it burn during the entirety of the spell.

Do your make up as you would normally though leave your lips for last.

Take your lip gloss or lipstick and hold it up and view it in the mirror. “Tonight will be the night, for me to meet your lips.” Uncap/open your lipstick/lip gloss and apply it to your lips. While doing this visualize drawing a heart on your lips in pink/red energy and it entering your lips and leaves them glowing, beckoning someone to partake.

“Tonight, I will be kissed by (name of date/person of desire).” On the paper write the person’s name. Kiss the paper to ensure you leave a kiss mark on the paper, imagine it glowing and fading into the name.

If needed touch up your lipstick again but be sure to still be visualizing them glowing in a beckoning manner

Place the piece of paper into a bowl of rose water/rose quartz water and leave it there for the duration of the date. 

Before leaving wink at yourself in the mirror and blow a small kiss at it to close the spell and boost yourself with a bit more confidence. Also be sure your incense is out before you leave.