Death Does Not Become Us

But you are responsible for your own safe spaces. You can block tags, block words, block people.

“But i thought fandom was supposed to be a safe space” —yeah you have to curate it.

Unfortunately one persons’s safe space may be another persons’ trigger. That’s ok. Simply block them, block the tag, block the word etc. They can do the same for you.

I don’t know who said it first, but “I need to be able to express my anger without shame” and “I need to be away from yelling and loud noises” are both valid needs people can have for a safe space that really aren’t compatible with each other.

So are “I need to process my trauma” and “I need to not meet any trauma.”

Or “I want a safe space to tell/read the stories that speak to me” and “those stories are distressing to me.”

Insisting that your needs are the only needs anyone should have is not a safe space, it’s its own act of violence.

Unicorns across the world

1. ‘Medical Professional Red Flags’ with an image of a doctor with an angry expression

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2. They label you as a hypochondriac (someone who has health anxiety) when you express your fears and invalidated your concerns

3. They don’t tell you the side effects of prescribed medication/brush them off

4. They insist that their diagnosis is right when you have evidence otherwise

5. They become defensive when you ask for a second opinion

6. They rush you through the medical process and don’t spend enough time to understand your condition

7. They don’t listen to you or your suggestions

8. They spend more time berating you and your choices than actually helping you

9. They talk more about themselves than to you

10. Many, people do not trust medical professionals because of these reasons, but the fact is that there are plenty of ethical doctors and nurses out there who do want to help you that these people give a bad name to.

Please feel free to swap doctors if they display any of these red flags until you meet a good one!

Their relationship in a nutshell.