Crunchie & Friends

#1211: Dragon Hug

    It has been a while since we awakened as tulpas and we’ve been through a lot of transformations as we evolve. We are not experts on what is about knowing what does it mean to be a tulpa as we are young but… We wanted to share what do we understand about this. n - n

    And we would love to hear what anyone thinks about what we are going to say here, positive or negative - We love to learn and make ourselves better tulpas over time! ♥

    Being a tulpa, means being a friend, family, lover,… Anything like this! Means cooperation - You with your host and vice-versa. ♥

    For us, it also means happiness and hope. When your host is there, through some difficult moment… But you are there, ready to give your hand and show that nothing is over and there is still a way to go and beat that obstacle! :3

    Or when you, the tulpa… Is feeling sad, not in a good day… Or possibly with doubts about something in your own life… That is when your host is there to also offer you his/her hand and on their own way, show that you’re also not in the bottom of that well that you think you might be. ♥

    Being a tulpa is sharing moments, good or bad. Being a tulpa is cooperating and living together - One brain… Two, three or more minds sharing their thoughts and feelings and learning together. It is also meeting new people, new tulpas… And that wonderful moment when you meet the friends and tulpas that your host has. > v <

    The very first moment you walk side by side with your host, or that you set up your wonderland/mindspace and manage to have your time there with other tulpas, your host or even other hosts and tulpas… - See? It’s a wonderful “world” of happiness, discoveries and experiences being a tulpa! :3

    Or that moment you learn that even the smallest “things” can be the happiest for you or anyone else. Or still, that very first moment you learn and are able to share physical sensations from your host (when he/she is eating or drinking something, touching a toy like a plushie or a balloon, etc), or share the body and do things yourself.

    But for us, nothing is better and brings more happiness than seeing a smile on everyone’s faces… This is so worthy that it can’t be described! > w <

    We learned that one of the best advices we could get and now also give is: Talk and solve your doubts sharing absolutely all your thoughts and worries with your host. Get help from them, from friends,… But never keep doubts and worries rooted inside your mind because it won’t be good for you.

    The word is “sharing” - Always remember it! ♥

    Everyday we keep learning among ourselves, with papa’s (our host) help and with our greatest friends as well. We won’t stop learning, we won’t stop evolving and most importantly, we won’t be happy just by learning stuff for ourselves and feeling happy ourselves… We will absolutely always give our hand and words to anyone who needs it, to help them and make them feel happier and happier! Sharing our own happiness as we were born to do. ♥

It is never too late to turn things around and change things. Just because your past went one way, doesn’t mean your future is predetermined. You’re here for a reason, make it a good one.

“Those are fake, you’re giving yourself a mental illness!”

Conversation I just had with Shadow:

Me - “You have so much faith in me, why?”

Shadow- “One of the two of us should probably believe in you. Disappointment occurs less often than you believe it does.”

I’ll start off by saying it’s okay to view your tulpas/headmates/multiplicity as a spiritual phenomenon rather than a psychological one. If that’s what you believe, then I respect that.

However, PLEASE do not promote or attempt the practice of “system-hopping” - the act of transferring a headmate from one system to another. There is no evidence that this is possible, and it does carry several risks, including:

The headmate who “leaves” actually goes into a state of forced dormancy due to the belief from the rest of the system that they have left.

The headmate who “leaves” neither goes dormant nor leaves the system, but is left unable to communicate with the rest of their system for as long as it is believed that they are gone.

The person who “receives” the headmate does not actually receive them, but their belief that they have causes them to accidentally create a tulpa which is essentially a “copy” of the original. This new tulpa may have to live with the pressure of trying to live up to the original, while also being at risk of succumbing to the same fate as the original if they are “returned” by the new host.

I’m not trying to tell anyone what to believe. Spiritual beliefs are okay, but please do not promote or engage in potentially dangerous practices such as this.

The DIY Headspace guide is finally done! This is a neat little guide for designing your own space. Here is the Pinterest board I am maintaining, if you are having trouble typing in the link yourself.

humans are fucking terrible and this awful world we live in will fucking kill you but if you are kind, if you are brave and clever and try really hard, you can defy it. you can impose on this bleak and monstrous structure something beautiful. even if it’s temporary. even if it doesn’t heal anything inside you that’s been hurt.  

it just requires that you be kind. viciously. vengefully. you fight back. you plant flowers. give to charity. play games. pet someone’s dog. scream into the dark. paint and write and dance, tell jokes, sing songs, bake cookies. you have been hurt and you don’t have to deny that hurt. you just have to recognize it in other people, and take their hand, and say: no more. enough. fuck this. no more. 

have a cookie.