Fenn

Thank you white tme who presents as feminine (oohhh or this one has a little moustache, wow) with an also white partner who views them as a woman. Thank you lesboy who hates lesbians, thank you fagdyke who is disrespectful to both the dykes AND the faggots, thank you tme person who nobody would ever once clock as trans or gay or anything for your riveting opinions on transmisogyny, transness and gayness in general. Thanks so much, we really were in a dearth of opinions from white queers who are cis and het.

Everybody wants the mystique of lesbians/lesbianism without any of the drawbacks of living as a lesbian and they resolve this dissonance by... Adding to the drawbacks of living as a lesbian personally.

when i post about women and loving women as a lesbian i am always talking about trans women as well they are always included i really cannot stress this enough you are not a true feminist if you do not respect and love trans women and you should either change or die but im not fucking arguing with u people on this shit in this day n age especially not on tumblr.com. get out of my space forever

❗️hot take incoming❗️im ngl i hate how tumblr users took the term “pervert,” a term typically used for misogynistic sex pests, and made it into a label to be proud of. like.. it always gave me a bit of a sour taste in my mouth. made me balk the first few times i saw it. i was like why would you be proud of that? until i realized yall just use it in place of “kinky” because it’s edgier and sounds dangerous

i’m tired of babying grown women who let beauty standards control their entire life. stand up, grow up & get over yourself. enough. you aren’t perpetual victims. exercise the autonomy you refuse to acknowledge you have. you can choose to stop this circus anytime. grown ass fucking women acting like helpless victims to the patriarchy and then in the next breath going “COME WITH ME TO MY BOTOX APPOINTMENT😃” you are traitors and we will never make it out of the patriarchy if personal responsibility can’t be taken

like god fucking damn women for centuries fought to have financial and social independence, and we largely achieved that in most countries, just for modern women who have no idea what patriarchy used to do to us to turn around and go “i’m not the problem, blame men for saying i look prettier after a nose job” you have everything your foremothers hoped and dreamed for, all that autonomy won through blood and sweat, and you waste it offering your body up to the patriarchy because “social pressure” get the fuck over yourself and stop acting like you have no choice. absolutely pathetic

and whenever people criticize women who get cosmetic procedures done and who enslave themselves to beauty standards it’s always met with “it’s not their fault, it’s the patriarchy” and i find that to be such a circular, never ending blame game. yes fucking obviously it’s the true fault of the patriarchy but you can’t hold a system of social hierarchy accountable because the decisions individuals make constitute said system. and turning it into a chicken or the egg debate does nothing besides shift blame to something that cannot be reckoned with or addressed. stop blaming the patriarchy at large for the individual decisions of fully autonomous women

no one cares that you shave your legs because of sensory issues shut the fuck up forever

really galling amount of people misinterpreting this post so i'd like to clarify. i'm saying that when discussions about patriarchal beauty standards and the way women are heavily shamed and coerced into eschewing their own natural state of being (hairy) are occurring, it is unhelpful (AT BEST) to interrupt and say that the reason YOU remove the hair from your body is because of sensory issues. that's not what we're talking about. stop asking for validation for doing something that society at large wants you to do. stop derailing the conversation because you feel uncomfortable about being made aware that you, for whatever reason it is, adhere to harmful, unfair and ridiculous beauty standards. you're stepping into the middle of an important conversation that needs to be had and making it all about you. shut the fuck up forever.

also quite frankly i think a lot less people would experience sensory issues if they let their hair grow out so that it isn't bristly and rough and irritating. and i cannot help but wonder why these sensory issues aren't as predominant in men. maybe you're uncomfortable with the hair on your body because you've been taught to be uncomfortable with it. just a thought.