soooooo i understand the world is terrible at nuance these days but the idea that clark doesn’t owe anyone his secret and that him keeping his secret negatively impacted the people around him are not mutually exclusive actually.
and honestly? when you’re keeping secrets to protect yourself even though you know they directly impact people and are sometimes even about other people just as much as they are yourself (see: lana and the stones), at some point they actually do have a right to know more.
is it clark’s fault that he was raised to hide himself and be afraid at every turn? no. is clark a teenager and going to make mistakes? yes. does clark treat people he claims to care about like shit when they want to know more about things that directly impact their lives? also yes.
the whole fucking point of clark’s situation and his relationships is that they are not simple. his life is not simple. it sucks to be clark kent smallville. that doesn’t mean he didn’t still hurt the people around him. it doesn’t mean that the things he chose to do to keep himself safe didn’t endanger others. it doesn’t mean that his choices didn’t have a lasting effect on his friends.
there is no correct answer to this debate and there never will be. i wish people would just accept that instead of using it as a way to put other members of the fandom down. clark is a deeply flawed character and so is everyone else in smallville and there really is no point in pretending otherwise. and the chaos of their lives just makes the whole thing worse.
the point is: you can absolutely defend clark’s actions and come at them with nuance. that doesn’t mean the other characters were in the wrong for reacting to them. he may not have owed anyone his secrets and had every right and valid reasons for keeping them, but they didn’t exist in a vacuum.