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Two very obvious things wrong with this:

Pork is being forced just as much as LGBT is. Pork is shown in TV shows, even in shows that aren't specifically about pork. Pork is served at most restaurants. People eat pork in public without caring who can see it. Children eat pork. Someone who doesn't like pork has to accept that if they go out in public, they will see people eating pork. No one's forcing anyone to eat pork and no one's forcing anyone to marry someone of the same gender.

No. I can't.

The part where you declared yourself superior to me was intentional.

The part where you declared that any criticism of you is disrespect was intentional.

The part where you declared that you're allowed to express your emotions freely but I'm punished if I express mine was intentional.

The part where you hit me and declared that you earned the right to do that was intentional.

The part where you declared that I'm your property, decided who I'm supposed to be, then punished me for deviating from that was intentional.

Only the part where my disability has a label was accidental.

Also, anytime I "didn't mean to" disrespect you, you became violent. Why the fuck should I accept "didn't mean to" from you after a lifetime of you never accepting it from me even though it makes much more logical sense from me?

Also, even after you found out that I have a disability, you still continued to have ableist patterns, like expecting my brain to function on your command, or adding assumed hidden meanings to what I say and responding aggressively. If you were truly sorry, you'd be afraid to continue the pattern.

That's not an apology. That's an attempt to make yourself feel better about it while changing nothing.

But when I struggled with something, it was assumed that punishment was what I needed. People just told me to do whatever sounded good to them, demanded obedience, and punished me when I couldn't do it.

Because ao3’s tagging system explicitly allows romantic pairings in Gen fics as long as the relationship is not the focus of the fic.

(But real talk: this comes up a lot on Tumblr and on r/ao3 and while most people know the Gen fic rules, there’s always a portion of people who don’t and get extremely frustrated when they can’t find a fic devoid of romantic relationships. Which is valid! But definitely not a reason to blame authors or their fics.

What concerns me is the growing amount of people who acknowledge ao3’s correct tagging rules and then say “well I don’t like/believe in it” and proceed to ignore the rules and continue to be upset because they don’t want it to be a rule and they think they can apply their own “beliefs” to the system and others should too.

That’s not how rules work.

If you want to change ao3, join the OTW. Run for one of their elected seats. Petition for a rule change, etc. Help wrangle the “no relationships” tags and encourage use of one others might want too.

But stop treating every relationship like it’s icky and that others are morally inferior because they’re okay with the Gen rules. You don’t make the rules, and that’s a good thing!

GIRL THE EGG COLUMN IS NOT A GOOD IDEA. YOU DO NOT NEED CONVINCING YOU NEED CONVICTION.

IS REASON ENOUGH. BE A

GIRL TODAY RIGHT NOW

-ancient roman posca: water, red or white wine vinegar, honey, salt, herbs (coriander, mint, thyme)

-switchel: water, ginger, vinegar, sweetener, lemon, salt

-ayran: yogurt, water, salt, mint

-sees the reports of the heatwave in Europe-

The Rodeo Rule: you only have to do it for the first time once.

The Rohan Rule: if you are at a social function full of new people and you want to be liked, find someone doing important work like setup or food prep and offer to help.

The Tutorial Mode Rule: to navigate an unfamiliar situation where you fear you will mess up an interaction, preface the interaction by mentioning that you've never done this before, and let them know if you have a specific concern or question.

The Rocket Science Rule: most new things you want to try seem very complicated but are simple when taken step by step.

The [X] Will Remember That Rule: if you need to make small talk with the same person on a regular basis, try to save one fact or current event in their life from a given conversation and bring it up next time you talk.

you only have to do it

for the first time once.

Zohran Mamdani: "Landlords are now not allowed to raise rent."