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hello!! decided to argue my claim in another post so that i can format it a bit better.

while many people may argue that misandry isn't real in its entirety, i would say that in some cases, it is - but only when in correspondence with other axis of oppression. it's not an issue of whether misandry is real or not, but what axis it lies upon versus which axis it doesn't.

according to a study analyzed by the University of Albany, "By age 23, 49 percent of black males, 44 percent of Hispanic males and 38 percent of white males have been arrested." In comparison to the statistics found for women of these groups, "By age 23, arrest rates were 20 percent for white females and 18 percent and 16 percent for Hispanic and black females, respectively," the numbers are staggering. It indicates not only a specific bias towards people of color, but one aimed towards men of color specifically. These statistics are further supported by a study run by sciencedirect, where it's stated that "We find that Black men have the highest levels of violent victimization with the lowest likelihood of evading victimization. Black women experience especially high rates of chronic victimization that decreases over time,(...)". It's evident that there's a uniquely high bias against black men in the justice system - a form of misandry that becomes prevalent when it's intersected with racism. This intersection has been dubbed andronoir in a research paper by Chaaz C Quigley.

Additionally, a study done by the Williams institute showed that in terms of violent crimes, there were no differences between transgender women and transgender men. The study is quoted to have found that "Transgender women and men had higher rates of violent victimization (86.1 and 107.5 per 1,000 people, respectively) than cisgender women and men (23.7 and 19.8 per 1,000 people, respectively)," meaning that in terms of violence transgender men actually were reported to have faced more violent victimization in comparison to their peers. This is further supported by a study poll done by the Jama network, having found in their data that "In a Poisson regression model controlling for age, cisgender men had lower risk (AIRR, 0.5; 95% CI, 0.3-0.7), transgender men had greater risk (AIRR, 3.0; 95% CI, 1.7-5.1), and nonbinary individuals had greater risk (AIRR, 3.3; 95% CI, 2.1-5.2) of past-year sexual violence relative to cisgender women (eTable 3 in Supplement 1)." Trans women were reported to have relatively similar rates of sexual violence to cisgender women in these studies. The reported discrepancy between trans men's rates of victimization comparable to other groups has been dubbed transmisandry, or transandrophobia - not as a reflection of transmisogyny, but as a gender-specific term for the oppression and violence trans men face.

now, i do acknowledge that there are some flaws within these research articles - the study run by the Jama network does underrepresent trans women in their study, with only 35 participants compared to trans men's 52. additionally, the study also acknowledges that there may be some missed data when we bring ethnic violence into the mix, as they have stated that "For example, transgender and nonbinary individuals who belong to minoritized racial and ethnic groups face disproportionate risk of violence and are at greatest risk of fatal violence,24 but we could not assess this in our study due to small cell sizes." There are also many arguments to be made that trans women do face unique challenges that trans men do not, such as their hypervisibility within anti-trans news, their complete ban from the Olympics, and the study done by the Human Rights Campaign revealing that trans women make 60 cents to the average worker's dollar, 10 cents less than trans men's 70 cents. Transmisogyny is a very real, very important societal issue to address.

However, these unique struggles also go the other way. Testosterone is a schedule 3 drug according to the DEA, making it much more difficult to access than estrogen and placing all trans men who use it on a governmental list. Not only that, but abortion bans and medical discrimination affect trans men disproportionately compared to cis women- a study done by the Williams Institute explains that "Transgender men are less likely to obtain regular Pap tests compared to cisgender women, and the 2015 U.S. Transgender Survey found that 13% of transgender respondents had been denied coverage by a health insurance company for supposedly gender-specific services such as Pap smears and mammograms." The effects of abortion bans and discrimination in reproductive healthcare on transgender men and nonbinary people are vastly understudied, and there are likely more extensive issues beneath the surface that have gone unnoticed.

There are so many examples of how misandry becomes realized within varied axis of oppression, I don't have time to get into each one. It exists within disability, within religion, within sexuality, within socioeconomic status. Deeming misandry "not real" purely because it does not stand on its own is erasing the experiences of millions of marginalized men, and how their masculinity is inherently tied to the oppression they face. The truth is, it doesn't fit neatly into either box of "real" versus "not real" - it sits in a gray area and only becomes visible when it is intertwined with other forms of discrimination, but there are so many places where it intersects that it ends up in a perpetual in-between zone on how "real" it is. It's a matter of nuance - of understanding that sometimes things are not just one or the other, but somewhere in between.

Imma be real with you, anon; This is super transmisogynyistic.

One of the first people I've had to block on here when getting into talks about transandrophobia was a trans man who identified as a radfem, and supported the concept of transandrophobia but very specifically used bio and gender essentialism to do it.

Last time it happened I just kept reblogging tokophobia stuff because it was setting off my anxiety/nausea and I guess the invasive ear of the algorithm heard that and stopped targeting those ads towards me.

So, let's have a definition. Tokophobia is an extreme or irrational fear of pregnancy and childbirth. The fear may be rooted in the loss of control over the body, the pain and hormonal changes, gender dysphoria, loss of autonomy and consent, the idea of another living creature growing inside or moving, and the political, social, and medical scrutiny a pregnant body falls under. It can be about being made vulnerable, or being threatened, or being forced to stay with an abuser. It can come from horror stories about death in child birth, or from a friend in highschool who's mother barely escaped with her life because her husband kept raping her to keep her pregnant so she could never leave him. It might also drop a magnifying glass on the heavy social pressure, the idea if you are capable of getting pregnant then you owe use of your uterus to someone else, that your body isn't your own, especially if you choose to avoid impregnation with it. Also, that last one can start as young as like, eight. Tokophobia can have any number of roots and factors from bad experiences, trauma, horror stories, nightmares, and expectations. It can make just EXISTING as a person who CAN get pregnant feel like a constant violation. Arguments will be started over a body that can be pregnant, arguments that the body has no real say in. Born with one of your organs owned and owed to someone else. Ordered to fulfill the fantasy of grandchildren to a parent or biochildren to a partner.

Other peoples' wanted pregnancies don't bother me.

So no, I do not want your drama/romance about the sad, brutalized pregnant person. I don't want to play your game, I don't want to read your story, I don't want to look at your obviously AI generated comic or animation or whatever the fuck.

Birth for people who can have it but are dysphoric about it, can be a permanent trauma on their body in so many ways. It’s okay to acknowledge that and it doesn’t make a person bad for feeling those things and it doesn’t make us ungrateful when we do feel dysphoric over it.

Sitting down at the table, I remembered the scars on my arm. The universal signifier of "This Kid Needs Help." Maybe his kindness was only out of pity. He saw those and assumed there was some great misery and wanted to offer me some relief. It's generally good to be kind to people who are hurting. But I wasn't hurting that bad.

The thing is, there is some great misery. People generally aren't doing that great. There is a great misery within me and within him and within everyone, and some people notice the pain, some people express it, others don't. But we all suffer from something.

It doesn't matter if someone seems to deserve some relief. Everyone needs it. Everyone is suffering constantly. Some more than others, but still. This Kid Needs Help applies to everyone.

Thirty minutes later, I went to get a second pastry, intending to pay and leave a tip this time. It was the same cashier. As he reached to grab it for me, I saw scars on his arm.

He returns one night to his humble apartment, which is known to have vermin, and comes across a rat, which he could easily kill or set loose on the street.

But the rat- it is special. It seems to speak to him. Promises him every little thing he desires- talent, fame, and fortune. Recognition and esteem like he has only ever seen from afar; fine company like the wealthy men and women whose scraps he picks at over the sink.

Put me on your head, the rat says. Put me on your head and think of nothing.

It is strange at first, yes. Strange to feel another take control of his life and live it better than he ever could. To see miraculous things created with his own two hands, to feel his feet move in graceful and fantastic ways with a confidence he has never had.

But the rat delivers as he had promised: he receives promotions, notoriety, admiration. He is noticed. Envied. Every day is a waking dream, rubbing elbows with beautiful women and handsome men and influential personalities who lavish him with praise. It is addictive, this lifestyle- never mind that he is only ever truly conscious of it as a passenger of in own brain.

It is when he has reached heights few can ever conceive, with all that the rat had ever promised- a beautiful wife in a beautiful house with all the world in his palm, in possession of all the wealth and success a man could ever want, that the rat says that it is leaving.

Leaving? The rat cannot leave. Everything he is, the rat has provided.

"I have delivered on our bargain", the rat says. "I have brought to you all that you have ever dreamed. What more could you desire? I must live my own life, now."

The man is furious. He is terrified. He destroys the rat, in all of the ways that a rat can be destroyed, until nothing is left of it but a fine smear of marinara sauce.

He returns to the restaurant the next day moving like the shell of something hollowed-out and brittle. He cooks well- his fingers remember the movements, his eyes recognize the patterns, his mouth knows without his asking what orders to speak and what platitudes make patrons smile pleasantly with their straight white teeth.

He retains the talents of the rat. The charm of the rat. All the worldly pleasures the rat had provided him.

Still, it seems, he is little more than a vessel for the talents of the rat.

But the rat is gone.

Dipper: Don’t do that.

Stan: I BET I CAN DO 110!

Mabel: YOU’RE ON OLD MAN.

Dipper: