“women + nbs” and “men + nbs” orientation language
Our proposal: Trixen- and Toren-
(-sexual/romantic/amoric, etc)
After our recent post about the legitimization of “women + nbs” and “men + nbs” orientations, we were prompted to search for what the language for that actually is.
Turns out, it’s actually… fairly lacking? There are the juvelic terms, which are geared mostly towards multi-gender NBs and require specifying your own gender(s), and are all different depending on your very particular gender/attraction arrangement. There are other terms like neptunic and uranic that rely on alignment language/categorizing NBs into a trinary in order to separate which kinds of nbs you are and are not attracted to. There do not appear to be any general terms that simply mean “I’m attracted to a binary gender and NBs” that allow one to specify one’s preferences or lack thereof without them being built into the term itself.
Here are our suggestions for this language:
Trixensexual: (Trixenromantic, trixenamoric, etc) A person who is attracted exclusively to women and non-binary people.
Torensexual: (Torenromantic, torenamoric, etc) A person who is attracted exclusively to men and non-binary people.
These words combine “trix” and “tor”, from the feminine and masculine latin suffixes that were also used in the creation of trixic* and toric**, with “en”; alongside X, “N” is often used as a marker of non-binary identity, or can refer to the first syllable/sound of “enby” or “nonbinary”.
“Trix” + “N” = Trixen-
“Tor” + “N” = Toren-
Who can use these terms?
Anyone. Cis people, binary trans people, non-binary people… anyone.
Can I use them in addition to/as a modification to another orientation?
Yep! You can be a toren polysexual, a trixen bisexual, a trixen lesbian, a toren mlm… Whatever you want. As long as you consider yourself only attracted to men + nbs (toren-) or women + nbs (trixen-) you can use these terms in conjunction with whatever you want, or you can use them all by themselves.
What if I’m only attracted to women and nbs who are also women/partial women/women aligned?
You can use trixen-, and simply further specify your preference when you want to.
What if I can be attracted to men and most kinds of NBs, but I’m just not attracted to women-aligned NBs/partial women/etc?
Still fine to use toren-, and to further specify your preference when you want to.
What if I’m attracted to women and any kinds of NBs, including male-aligned ones/partial men, just not binary men?
Still appropriate to use trixen-!
I’m a woman, and I’m attracted to men and NBs, but not to other women. Lots of people consider me straight, but I know that it’s disrespectful and inaccurate to blanketly consider my attraction to NB people straight attraction. Can I use torensexual?
Yep! Regardless of whether you can be attracted to any kinds of NBs or only specific kinds, you can use torensexual to describe yourself. Thanks for recognizing that your attraction to NBs isn’t the same as your attraction to men, and doesn’t fit within the paradigm of straightness!
Just say bisexual…… :/
No! :)
Attraction to NBs is fetishizing their identity. Categorical attraction to NBs isn’t a real orientation, it’s chasing.
Fuck off! :)
*trixic: An adjective form of NBLW. An NB who is attracted to women, exclusively or in addition to other genders.
**toric: An adjective form of NBLM. An NB who is attracted to men, exclusively or in addition to other genders.
