"show me a permanent state of the self"

These posts never get much traction on tumblr but I really, REALLY need help, and I would appreciate it if you could donate if possible, or at least reblog to spread it.

Long sob story: My wife and I (and their girlfriend) were offered a place to stay in January when we, three disabled trans folks, were unable to keep paying $1300 in rent. We were assured that this was our home as well, that our friend would never kick us out and definitely wouldn't make any moving plans without a discussion/agreement on all sides.

Until we called her out on some fucked up, predatory behavior. She spent the last two weeks either avoiding us (despite claiming to be sorry and wanting to fix things) or, the few times she was home, being cruel and abusive toward us. She told us over text today that we have til the end of September to move (still looking into the legality of that in New York State, but that's besides the point).

We're all varying degrees and kinds of disabled. I had to quit my job months ago because my POTS and arthritis got so bad I couldn't be up and moving for even fifteen minutes at a time. My wife is physically disabled and working a part-time job that is breaking their body. If you bottled our collective mental health right now, you could use it to poison someone. Simply put, we're fucked.

We're trying to save up enough for us to be able to buy a crappy trailer or put a down-payment on a shitty house, whatever we can manage. Rent is atrocious in our area, and we have four cats, reptiles, and fish that we have to move with. Giving up our cats is NOT an option. Those beasts are the only thing keeping us clinging to life some days. We also need to keep up with car payments, insurance, and phone bill.

Please donate if you can. No amount is too small. I'm not trying to make anyone feel guilty, but I don't know what we're gonna do if we can't get some help from the community.

If gofundme is a pain in the ass for you, here are some other avenues:

Venny: @thebeans24

Cash: $Thebeans24

Fiona is married so it's time to reunite with her parents. But instead of marrying a prince, she's married to an ogre. Not just that, but she's also an ogre. (Yes everyone knew she would sometimes be an ogre but that was when she was a child, she didn't know she would be an ogre for the rest of her life, and besides once she met the right prince she would stop being an ogre. She was supposed to stop being an ogre.)

But okay they're both ogres. We can still ask about when they'll have children because even if they're ogres they can still have kids, right? That's what married princes and princesses do so naturally that's what everyone does. Even if ogres might not be great parents (I've heard that ogres eat their young, is that something you people do?) it's still something that should be discussed.

And okay you can stay in Fiona's childhood bedroom filled with all the reminders that hey, everyone thought she was just a princess and princesses marry princes. Her toys left out from the last time she played with them. The prince slays the ogre. The princess offers a token of gratitude for slaying the ogre. Fiona wrote Mrs. Fiona Charming a million times in her diary because what else was she supposed to grow up to be?

And Harold you have to fix this, your country can't be ruled by ogres. You were unfit to rule when you were a frog but I changed you, I made you better, I made you a prince. You know how this works. Think of your daughter's safety.

If this little book should see the light after its 100 years of entombment, I would like its readers to know that the author was a lover of her own sex and devoted the best years of her life in striving for the political equality and social and moral elevation of women.

If you’re like me, there’s no way you’re buying a fancy packer strap. So here’s a super simple tutorial on how I sewed some of my boxers to fit my packer!

Pls excuse my shitty illustrations I drew them with a sharpie and I’m sleepy rn.

Step 1. Get a pair of boxers with an open fly. The open fly is important because it gives you two layers of fabric to sew a pocket.

Step 2. Sew a little pocket for your packer to sit in. Make sure you position/plan it correctly before sewing so your packer sits in a natural place in your pants.

Step 3. (Inside view yolo) Cut a little hole on the top through the first layer of cloth on the inside only. This is so you can slip your packer inside the little pocket you have just sewn.

Suddenly a man who had lost his nose to a shelling could have it back, or at least a close approximation, and not have to field the stares, intentional or otherwise, he would recieve. A woman with burn scars from the chemical attacks could have her arms unblemished, or at least less obviously so, and not feel the scared looks of her children on her as she went about her day. People had whole halves of their face reconstructed!! And it was all in the name of healing. As they had the scars removed and returned to normalcy, they could see themselves not as people changed and forever harmed by the trauma which touched them, but instead as the them they knew, who had overcome it. Obviously it's not a complete solution, and it is informed by peoples reactions to those who are different, but it was intended to help.

But now? Tiktok nurses who tell you that you need lip fillers at 21. "Doctors" who want you to drink from a special straw and never smile so you don't get wrinkles. Nose jobs to remove most of your nose and ruin your nasal passages so you can look on trend. BBLs to make you an hourglass so men will think you're worthwhile. All for profit and almost all targeted at women with beauty standards built demean them for the sake of making them desperate enough to come to you so men will give them the time of day.

Harold Gillies is considered the father of modern plastic surgery- he put together an amazing team of surgeons, dentists and other medical professionals from around the world because of the dramatic increase in facial injuries caused by WW1.

He did this off his own back- the amazing book The Facemaker by Dr Lindsey Fitzharris is a great resource about this- because he saw the injuries and the lack of care. Men who survived the horrific facial trauma caused by bullets or shrapnel would be left for dead in many cases; some would be rescued only to suffocate when lain on a stretcher. Some would survive- only to be shunned and isolated when they got home. Some had prosthetics made- but these were often made of metal, and were uncomfortable and hot.

Five members of Les Gueules Cassées were present at the signing of The Treaty of Versailles. The name for the organisation translates to The Broken Faces. They attended as a reminder of the price of war.

Plastic Surgery was created to help. To save. To give hope and provide some semblance of normalcy. Not to create deeper neurosis for people who are perfectly fine.

Oh, and Doctor Gillies? Performed the first known FTM Phalloplasty in 1945, and is quoted as saying;

"If it gives real happiness, that is the most that any surgeon or medicine can give.”