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Be normal about anattractional people

Be normal about aromantic people

Be normal about aplatonic people

Be normal about asexual people

Be normal about alove people 

Be normal about afamilial people

Be normal about asensual people

Be normal about aphysical people

Be normal about a-alterous people

Be normal about aemotional people

Be normal about a-aesthetic people

THERE’S MORE

If you are getting gender affirming surgery, especially if it’s your first major surgery, PLEASE be aware that you can become SEVERELY depressed afterwards ESPECIALLY if you have a history of depression or suicidal ideation.

Post op depression is a natural reaction to the crazy mix of hormones your body goes through after major surgery as well as the stress and anxiety of recovery. Think of it like an adrenaline crash, but dragged out longer.

For me it kicked in about 6 weeks after top surgery and the worst of it lasted until about 10 weeks post op. EVERYTHING felt IMPOSSIBLE. None of the skills I’d been practicing worked. I thought everything was going to be bad forever. I didn’t attempt, but I was in the hospital. If it wasn’t for my support system I probably would have attempted.

This is not regret, but it can feel like it. I remain happy about my results to this day (going on six years later).

This is not you failing to maintain your mental health, but it can make you feel like a failure.

Things are not hopeless, but through the haze of this depression they can feel hopeless.

It can be terrifyingly sudden or it can sneak up on you. I didn’t even realize what was going on until after the depression finally passed and my mental health went back to normal.

I am writing this post because nobody told me about this before my top surgery. I was caught completely off guard. For my subsequent surgeries being aware has made all the difference. Being able to treat those symptoms as an expected and normal part of the healing journey has made them far easier to deal with. Because even when my emotions go to dark places I *know* they will pass. I have been able to tell the bad thoughts to take a bad seat and focus on healing.

i love you, trans femmes,

i love you, trans men,

i love you, trans mascs,

i love you, trans neutral people,

i love you, intersex people,

i love you, lesbians,

i love you, gay men,

i love you, bisexuals,

i love you, pansexuals,

i love you, aromantics,

i love you, asexuals,

i love you neopronoun users,

i love you contradictory label users,

i love you women who go by he/him,

i love you men who go by she/her,

i love you people whose identities 'dont fit',

queer people i love you,

i will always stand with you,

there is nothing in this world that can pull me apart from you,

i promise it will get better, i promise we will win,

i promise we won't always have to be afraid,

i promise, if nothing else, that somebody in this world loves you.

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