i'm Alex (they/them). i care about you. i love plants (i run bplant.org), questioning things, and discussing deep ideas. i love talking to people, send me a message! i really appreciate selfies.
i am nonbinary (agenderflux), vaguely transfem and gender-non-conforming, and use they/them pronouns.
i'm neurodivergent. i have sensory issues and am generally weird.
i'm married and you can read more about my boundaries about our relationship below.
my blog is off-the-wall and inconsistent. cute animal photos, stupid memes, nature pics, wall-of-text commentary are all likely.
i am friendly and like to chat. My phone notifications are always off and i mostly use Tumblr at the computer. i am inconsistent at responding. i might engage immediately sometimes, and take days to get back to you others. please don't take it personally, i still care about you!
i am WAAAY over 18. read why my age isn't in my bio and why i don't demand or even encourage people putting ages in bios.
Some boundaries:
i appreciate mass likes / reblogs and love engagement on my old posts. don't be shy!
i don't mind being called girl or guy but dislike being called woman or man. i care less about pronouns and language and more about gendered assumptions. i.e. if you are thinking "Because you are (female/male/nonbinary) you must..." keep these thoughts to yourself and maybe consider working through them because they're probably untruthful. People are diverse.
i like talking about sex, and i like being given compliments about my body, but i do not want to hear about any sexual fantasy involving me, nor do i want you to ask me if i fantasize about you. this both oversteps a boundary of my marriage and i still usually didn't like hearing this type of thing even back when was single. i don't roleplay or send explicit pics and please don't ask.
i am sex positive and anti-censorship, but not seeking porn. i may engage with a more explicit picture on your blog, but please do not send me any explicit or pictures by DM. i may have liked the pic in spite of the fact it was explicit, not because of it, and similarly for following you if your blog posts NSFW content. or i may have wanted to signal my support for your sex positivity. Me liking your post or following you is NOT consent to receive such pics by DM.
i do not support violence except in self-defense, and i may unfollow or distance myself if your blog advocates for such. This includes violence used for causes i agree with, for instance, i oppose far-right extremism, but I don't support "punch a nazi" rhetoric. Want to know why? Read this post. Any other violence in posts is not intended seriously.
i don't tolerate negative generalizations directed at groups of people. i don't care whether the group is privileged or not, it always ends up harming marginalized people. Read this post for my explanation. I'm especially sensitive to how negative overgeneralizations about men can harm trans and neurodivergent people. If you post such negativity and I value our connection, I will challenge it. Otherwise I will unfollow or block you. I don't want people in my life who voice this sort of negativity.
You do not get to tell me what my experience is or what my intentions are. Nor do you get to tell other people this nor do I want to listen to you making these kind of statements about others. This is especially true if you are speculating about someone having negative intentions. I will react similarly to this point as to the point above.
Don't ask me for money, to buy content, or to reblog your fundraiser post if I do not know you. I like supporting people, but I am not here to buy content, and I'm wary of scammers and selective about who I support. I only support people I know well. If we are mutuals, feel free to reach out for financial advice. I love helping people improve their financial situation. If you want to support me, visit bplant.org and donate to that project; you will help support education about and protection of North American native plants and the ecosystems that depend on them!
Don't message me or follow me without having engaged with my blog at all, especially if you are an empty or new blog. You will get blocked and reported as spam. Fill out your blog, make some posts, engage with my blog. And if you message me, please tell me how you found me and what made you want to message me.
I think that pretty much covers it, but I can update this if more issues arise!
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oh my god iâm so tired psychotic does not mean violent it does not mean angry or erratic. it refers to a person suffering from psychosis, a loss of touch with reality that includes hallucinations and/or delusions. psychotic people are not inherently violent and y'all need to understand how much stigma you create when you again and again incorrectly use the word psychotic without even thinking about it
the person closest to me who experienced psychosis would like go wander into stores or cafes and say incoherent things, but being friendly. she bought a couple shirts in the wrong size that had to be returned. didn't really damage anything besides her own life.
another person i know who experienced psychosis, basically was staring at a table doing nothing most of the time while going through it
It was flagged as "Eksplicit", shadowbanned, and every reblog turned invisible. The flagging is also unappealable (unless that is an error, thanks tumblr)
Happy Trans Day of Invisibility from your tumblr mods!
Only found out because I tried to reblog with an update from your local trans unicorn siblings!
I cannot even LINK to my old comic without every new post getting deleted.
And yet, we will CONTINUE to exist, and grow, and find each other. We will be visible up to and beyond our own deaths. Because we stand for love. We love ourselves and each other and that just makes us stronger.
The original post was pardoned, but the shadowban still persisted and every reblog was hidden from the dash and flagged explicit. I'm not sure if it recovered by now, or if it's always going to be at risk of banning.
So whatever staff reviewed my complaint agreed that it wasn't explicit. So thank you for that, moderator. This highlights that the problem starts with bad actors reporting anything they don't like, and that it's a tossup if your appeal is seen by a bot, a normal human, or a bigot.
I'm grateful I can still touch people and spread positivity. Many of my queer siblings, brothers, and sisters - especially trans sisters - can't say the same.
But no matter what happens, we will always have each other. Every letter in our alphabet is a pillar holding up a beautiful world that only stands if we're all in it together. The world may call you a monster, but it calls me one too. Maybe you won't hear it from the rest of them, but listen and you will hear it from me.
Bear religion probably fucking rocks. You're a fucking bear, you're the deadliest thing on earth, once a year an endless supply of salmon just flings itself up the river to gorge on and then you nap for 3 months.
The most delicious food in the world is protected by tiny demons who can defend it from everyone except you. Your natural armor is thick enough that you can just eat the damn hive while they buzz around you. God's chosen animals right there
Regular bears tell stories of angel bears sent by the Bear God, pure white and twice as strong as any normal bear could be, who rule the summit of the Earth and kill all who stand in their path.
And they are right, those bears exist and totally do that. Humans just have fake angels as a cope.
Bears tell a story about how the one apex predator smart enough to kill bears was too powerful, so the Bear God made the predator's mind so that they would forever think bears, even adult bears, were cute and "friend-shaped" and would take measures to reduce conflict with bears and even protect bear habitat.
wait you understand that kinks are ok because they're fantasies that make you happy right? you all get that you don't need to have trauma for your kinks to be okay? right? like none of you think i witnessed a tragic accident on the pool toy assembly line right?
like "some people work through their personal issues with kink" was a good first step for some of the class that were struggling but i think now we're ready for "things that don't hurt anyone and make people happy are okay even if you personally think it's icky"
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Living in a conservative part of a blue state and watching tv during an election year is really trippy because nationally people are like oh youâre all liberals over there you donât know what itâs like living in a conservative area but then the local attack ads are like my opponent wants to be NICE to ILLEGALS and the RADICAL TRANS AGENDA and BURN DOWN POLICE STATIONS. You should vote for ME. I will SHOOT immigrants PERSONALLY in THE STREET. I am a former NAVY SEAL. BARK BARK.
wait, you mean that by spending decades joking about how schools are disease vectors because children are just naturally disgusting, adults were ignoring a structural problem they had created? how surprising and not at all precedented
i see posts here about how people are so mortified when they are acknowledged as being a regular customer somewhere that they never return. cowards. the employees at taco bell treat me like a celebrity. like royalty. i am their strange little pet customer who gets traded along as staff comes and goes. they know my car before i even speak in the drive-thru speaker. today i was 2 hours late and she ran over and squealed that she "thought i'd left them!" and that she "made my order with extra love!" and you what, she did
it's funny that this is getting notes again, because last night i went to the thai place in my neighborhood. it's run by a family and during covid times i ate there literally almost every day. later i cut back on eating out so much and hadn't been there in two years but last night we went and ate inside for the first time ever and the owner ran over to say hello and ask how i was, and repeated our old regular order. it was sweet. it's so easy to feel like you are an island, but stuff like this reminds you that you are part of a community.
One time i went to the bakery near my home and just as i entered the put out a fresh tray of spinach cheese ham crossiants, and when i ordered one they just told me its on the house
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I made this series to share clear, no-BS info about abortion in a way that feels kind and easy to understand. Each post starts with a simple âDid you know?â fact â covering everything from how long a first-trimester procedure takes, to what recovery can look like, to the reminder that all kinds of people (not just women) have abortions. I wanted the tone to feel approachable and nonjudgmental, so I used soft, pastel rainbow colors and a clean layout to keep things gentle but informative.
[ID: A series of informational slides with alternating simple images of long-haired and short-haired people in a variety of skin tones pointing to the text. They read:
"Did You Know? You can have an abortion at home with about 5 pills? Medication abortion is safe, effective, and FDA-approved.
Did You Know? It's actually easy to get pregnant again after an abortion? birth control options can be discussed at your visit - but the choice is always yours.
Did You Know? A first-trimester abortion takes about 5 minutes? It uses gentle suction to empty your uterus.
Did You Know? Sedation options can range from local to general anesthesia? You can choose what feels right for you.
Did You Know? Cramping and bleeding can last up to 6 weeks after an abortion? Or not at all - everyone's body is different.
Did You Know? Women aren't the only people who have abortions? Trans men, nonbinary people, and other gender-diverse folks can become pregnant and need abortion care, too.
Did You Know? Reproductive health info should be easy to find. Learn more at prochoice.org" /id]
People often use "Economics 101" as a pejorative term. But I never hear people use "Psychology 101" as a pejorative, even though it seems to be worthy of the same disdain if not more so. It has been shown how Psychology 101 textbooks frequently severely misrepresent a LOT of classic studies and cases-- including Phineas Gage, the Stanford Prison Experiment, the Kitty Genovese murder, the Marshmallow Test, and many, many more.
My psychology 101 textbook was okay at some topics but the thing that was really terrible about it was that it depicted Psychology as this subject with competing theories, so like there would be a phenomenon, call it A, and it was like...so there is a theory that B causes A. There is this competing theory that says that that's wrong, and that C causes A.
And it would do this for literally everything.
A lot of it was gross misinterpretation of the research. If you read the primary literature, it often wasn't even talking about cause (which is famously difficult to establish using rigorous statistics) and almost none of the research was saying that other theories of explaining behavior were wrong. Many weren't saying anything about them at all and were just looking at a particular question or association.
It was absolutely aggravating. The whole metaphysic or philosophy underlying the presentation was obviously flawed and woefully out of sync with the research, and it could have been so obviously remedied by some relatively simple rewording of how the various research and theory was presented in the text.
That was 25 or so years ago. I really hope the textbooks and teaching have gotten better since then.
It's kind of amazing how much this is the identical strategy. Focusing on the distress and harm of parents over the trans or autistic person themselves. Pathologizing the condition treating it as an epidemic, including calling it a social contagion causing a worrying "explosion" of diagnosis because it is "trendy."
Ignoring the experts on the subject while also appealing to "common sense" and dismissing all research that contradicts them while also appealing to "basic science."
Plus it's all the same quacks and bad actors behind previous medical and social moral panics saying the same things in the same ways and no one seems to acknowledge that.
The same man who invented ABA to stop autistic behaviours also invented conversion therapy, which was explicitly to 'stop adult transsexualism', so this feels less surprising than it should be.
âYou feel the bulge in his pantsâ - implies that you are feeling some guyâs penis, may be sexy depending on context
âYou feel the bugle in his pantsâ - implies that this guy has a military horn in his pants, invites confusing questions like why does he have that and how big are his pockets
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#this is the star trek i wanna see#like when somebody asked gene roddenberry why piccard was bald#because wouldnât they have found a cure for male pattern baldness by then?#and he was like âno by the 24th century no one will careâ#i wanna see that attitude with disability and neurodiversity#itâs not that weâll have a magic cure for everything#thereâll always be something new#but disabilities and neurodiversity will be celebrated and seen as part of the norm#it will be accomodated#so blind people can serve in star fleet#and so can people in wheelchairs and autistic people and people with prosthetics and people with chronic illnesses (via @hunterinabrowncoat)
This episode ends with Geordi saving the planet by using something derived from the technology found in his visor (an adaptive device that lets him sense things around him). So a disabled man literally saved the lives of an entire culture that wouldnât have considered his life worth living, using technology they would have never deemed necessary without the presence of his unique needs.
My favorite thing about this episode is that, while the rest of the characters are taking a more Star Trek philosophical approach to this situation, calmly debating the good and bad points of this colony built upon eugenics, Geordi is just seething. Troi is having a romance with their flippinâ president, but Geordi never hesitates on his morals. Heâs always aware that this worldâs supposed perfection is built upon the despicable philosophy of killing people like him. He barely even bothers to hide his anger as he has to work alongside their scientists. Heâs snappish and short-tempered and bitter, clearly only working with these people because lives are at stake. When he discovers the solution is based on his VISOR, he is viciously triumphant, his joy at saving the people boosted by a bitter sense of righteousness that these people were only saved because someone like him was allowed to survive.
And even though this anger and bitterness are very un-Star-Trek-like approaches to diplomacyâit works. The scientist who works alongside him is the first person who decides to jump ship and leave the colony behind. She sees the stagnation of their bland ââââââutopiaââââââ and realizes that diversity and adaptation create a much better society. And while the other Enterprise crew members have some wishy-washy lament over how this will destroy this planetâs âââcultureâââ, Geordi never waffles. He has far too personal a stake in this to lose sight of the fact that peoplesâ lives are more important than any high-falutinâ philosophical justifications. The episode might waffle over the Prime Directive points of this societyâs decline, but Geordiâs perspective is the one showing clearly why it needs to die.
I don't necessarily think the anger and bitterness are un-Star-Trek-like. Star Trek does over-idealize some things (*cough* economics *cough*) but I think the way it handles emotions especially in TNG is both golden and realistic. The characters all have complex emotions and they don't repress them. They express them and deal with it.
Geordi is angry, has good reason to be angry, and doesn't hide it. But he also still does his job, and not only that, he still upholds his values.
Star Trek has a lot of episodes that show this general pattern in different ways: characters who are dealing with Some Shit⢠and still do their jobs.
You get the full range of emotions too, from Picard's smugness when he finally triumphs over petty bureaucracy (TNG: The Ensigns of Command), the trauma O'Brien goes through when given the memories of 20 years in prison (DS9: Hard Times), Troi going through all the emotions when she loses her empathic abilities (TNG: The Loss--BTW this issue also deals with many other aspects of disability including its subjectivity, like a person becomes "disabled" by losing an ability that most people never had, and of course this stirs up some emotional reactions in others too), or the whole crew being frustrated with a new hard-ass commander (TNG: Chain of Command).
Star Trek has never been about suppressing emotions. The characters get angry and show it. What is idealized about the show is that there's an ideal community and social structure for helping people channel their anger and other difficult feelings in healthy ways and still do their jobs when dealing with heavy stuff, and ultimately heal from it.
A YTP of a bowhunting instructional VHS. I picked up a copy of this tape at a flea market and was delighted to find that it had been digitized and uploaded to YouTube.
Initially I had some inexplicable technical headache with the project file and had to start the whole thing over, but I'm happy I could preserve what I'd started and produce a hefty 10+ minute video.
