Casuallyghosting

And when you get one moment where you express your voice, you try to impress your existence upon the world, tell your perspective and experience and refuse to be minimized- people will for real treat you like you're just here to bulldoze over the conversation, like men (derogatory) always do, and that you need to accept for once it's your turn to sit down.

Like. You're kidding right?

I am granted no status upon transition, no soapbox, no audience, I am in fact belittled and diminished and erased- and you're telling me I'm motherfucking used to speaking over others? Dude I don't even get to lead the conversations about me, when there even are any.

People are literally so out of touch with reality. They seriously think manhood is some magical category with universal privileges and behaviors and social position. Gender in society isn't coming from magic otherworldly plane like that, and gender dynamics between men and women are not static constructs that just mystically transfer cis experiences over to trans ones without variable or nuance.

Literally engaging with trans men's realities at all would dispel this myth- but that implies listening to us in the first place.

But some people will first jump to calling trans men whiny entitled boys when we don't match up to their boiled down approximations of us based entirely off of cis men, and whatever ideas and attitudes they think are bestowed upon us automatically by the fairy godparent of trans inclusive gender essentialism. From like. The moment we come out, or figure ourselves out as trans, or have like boy brains from birth or whatever.

And they really think they're trans affirming for this. For telling us to shut up if we advocate for ourselves or mention existing at all. #manmoment amiright

both value honesty and directness. cameron is more extreme about it, but chase is strangely one of the characters least likely to lie, and is frustrated by lies and obfuscation (at least directed at him, but he's notoriously bad at lying directly to patients as well).

they're both rather protective people, if manifested in different ways: chase with children and against bad/abusive parents, but also with his friends; cameron with anyone and everyone.

they both share a pragmatic "if it's for the patient's own good" streak, although chase will also apply it to himself and can be quite self-serving. they're likewise two of the more cautious members of the team, especially in contrast to house and foreman: they don't like to take reckless/unnecessary risks, even if again, chase's comes with a dash of "i am watching my own back."

they're both massive gossips with similar, slightly perverted, senses of humor. they both want to be liked, and are prone to idealization and a certain romanticism: cameron and her white knighting, chase and his inability to not forgive and try again with house and his father; both with how quickly they fall in love and idealize their crushes.

both have watched a loved one die, and felt responsible, and been that loved one's main caretaker/support. both have complicated feelings about it.

really i think the main difference is that cameron is more externally focused and chase more introverted. not in terms of shyness/outgoingness, but: cameron spends all her energy on others, fighting and invested. chase tends to be more internal, preferring to mind his own business and stay out of trouble. although chase can be pretty thin-skinned and short tempered, he avoids fights and conflict or tries to brush them off, where cameron will engage with anyone and everyone. chase can be standoffish and surprisingly withdrawn: he's socially adept and can be charming, but doesn't go out of his way to make friends, where cameron is outgoing to the point of nosiness.

and they have several big differences, too. they're not anything close to identical. chase is athletic and impulsive and sarcastic; cameron is sincere to a fault, uptight, and ambitious. cameron has strong morals and ethics and is uncompromising; chase does have morals but will compromise anything at any time.

chase haaaaates being taken care of. i don't think he's completely ridiculous about it, he's not going to throw a hissy fit if cameron makes him tea or something, but he very much believes that he can Handle It Himself, Thank You. love is a finite resource and he is not wasting her supply on the flu

so he tries to avoid her/blow her off when he's under the weather. does it politely, thanks for your concern but i'm fine, i'll sleep it off, very s8 chase of him, right? and on the one hand: he's a grown ass adult, he really is perfectly capable of taking care of a stomach bug without supervision.

except then something serious does happen. he eats a strawberry. he catches something from a patient. he gets stabbed. and chase is still going to go it alone, he's perfectly fine, you should never, ever, ever burden your loved ones with your needs.

but it's also a case of immovable object vs unstoppable force, right? chase spends so much time being cameron's emotional support object and comforter that i think she's probably itching to return the favor, to prove she can be there for him, too. she likes being that person! she likes being supportive and taking care of people!

i imagine the most ridiculous cold war. chase insisting he's fine and has it covered, cameron showing up with progressively more elaborate care packages. she's going on australian snacks dot com and buying everything there. she's cooking. she's cuddling him mostly to keep him still and in bed. it's kind of performative, right? not that cameron doesn't care, but she also wants to make sure he knows she cares and is capable of supporting him for a change, so she's overdoing it.

of course cameron wins, because not-so-deep-down whenever she does anything, gives him any sign of affection, chase is all owo about it lol. she has him in one of those cat burritos to keep him in bed with the grim determination of cameron on a rampage, and he's just sitting there like omg... she like likes me..........