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DARVO is an acronym for a manipulative tactic used by perpetrators to avoid taking responsibility for harmful behavior:

Deny: The perpetrator denies that they did anything wrong, or claims that whatever happened wasn't that bad

Attack: The perpetrator attacks the credibility of their accusers, making it seem like the accusers are untrustworthy

Reverse Victim and Offender: The perpetrator tries to convince others that they are the “true” victim, and that their accuser is actually the guilty one 

DARVO is a common manipulation strategy of psychological abusers, such as those who perpetrate domestic abuse. It's used to deflect blame and responsibility, and to manipulate partners into submission. 

To counter DARVO, you can:

Recognize what is happening

Refocus the conversation to the victim or survivor and their needs