The real thing with ADHD is not "I forgot", but that forgetting is this ongoing process. I remembered! And then I forgot.
At ten this (hypothetical) morning I remembered that I have a meeting at six. And then from 11 through 3 I worked on other stuff and had zero thoughts about that meeting. Maybe even thought about what I was gonna do with my evening at home. Got attached to the idea of taking the time to make a good dinner, maybe play some video games.
And then at three I said, "Oh! Fuck!" and remembered again, hopefully long enough to set an alarm. And then I went to the bathroom and remembered that I need to clean the counter and spent twenty minutes cleaning the bathroom and went to get a snack and then at five I said, "OH! FUCK!" and had to scramble to dress like a real adult and get out the door.
It isn't one clean forgetting. It's a constant process of forgetting and then, with an exhausting adrenaline spike, remembering. And then forgetting. Baby, I can forget the same thing more times in a day than you ever forgot your parents' anniversary.
And then you think, this time i will NOT forget about this. And you focus on it. ALL the time so you dont forget. Oh, i cant do dishes it will take time and forget the appointment. It takes too long to do laundry, i will get late. I have this part of my job to do that will demand concentration and time and i will forget about appointment. When you see, you did nothing all day and then you go on time to the appointment! but now you have dirty dishes, dirty laundry, and more work you could do if you werent so anxious about losing the appointment that you procrastinated.
