Well, young dragon... Where might you be?

If you want to talk to others with BPD, make friends, support each other, and overall just make new connections in a safe place, this is the server for you!  This server has a section devoted to recovery and positivity, and aims to be a positive and supportive space and to aid people in their recovery.

All you need to join the server is to have BPD/BPD traits/be seriously questioning it; self dx is 100% okay ofc!

Please make sure to read the rules when you join. Also, I am very good at spotting trolls and will be quick to mute/kick/ban them, and will have multiple mods there who can do the same.

NOTE: the following types of people are not allowed in the server:  TERFs, truscum/transmeds, alt-right/facists/neo-nazies, pedophiles/MAPs, bigots, or anyone that supports/sympathises with these groups. 

Therapist: Oh! Sounds like you need to do YOGA! That will help!

Me: *signs up for yoga*

Therapist: ok lets refocus on things you like about yourself. This week i want you to try and journal about good things you’ve for yourself and others.

Me: *does the homework* yeah but i still hate myself but feel bad cause i shouldn’t

Therapist: feeling like you shouldn’t hate yourself is a step in the right direction. Mental health is complex and isn’t something that will ~magically~ improve. We have a lot of hard work head of us but I’ll be here to help you.

As a psychologist the amount of bullshit on this site, the amount of fucking dangerous bullshit on this site about how therapy is neurotypical bullshit and isn’t worth it and how exercise is pointless and good diet is pointless and that therapy homework is pointless DRIVES ME UP THE FUCKING WALL

Exercise is fucking important. good diet is fucking important therapy is fucking important. WHY???

because pills alone don’t help. they improve the hormonal imbalance (as does exercise and good diet which ALSO are a form of very real self care as your physical being is sorta connected to your mental one but go fucking figure right?), but guess what? the suicidal thoughts, the thoughts of harm, the thoughts of hating yourself, they’re still there.  suicides actually increase when medicated.  why? because suddenly you have the energy to fulfill thoughts of harming yourself.  which is why you NEED therapy alongside pills.

it has taken you years, or decades to create your maladaptive thought processes and behaviours.  that shit doesn’t disappear overnight. core beliefs don’t change overnight. these are the very fucking core of your personhood, your being and personality. THAT TAKES TIME TO CHANGE

So, as you guys may have seen, Krissi decided it’s best for her to delete the bpdbuddies server, and I support that choice. With her blessing, I’ve decided to make my own BPD discord server for both people from bpdbuddies to stay connected to each other, and for new people to join!

If you want to talk to others with BPD, make friends, support each other, and overall just make new connections in a safe place, this is the server for you!  This server has a section devoted to recovery and positivity, and aims to be a positive and supportive space and to aid people in their recovery.

All you need to join the server is to have BPD/be seriously questioning it; self dx is 100% okay ofc!

Before you join please take a quick look over the rules under the cut and make sure you agree to follow them before you do! Also, I am very good at spotting trolls and will be quick to mute/kick/ban them, and will have multiple mods there who can do the same.

Once you’ve done that, here’s the link to join, and we hope to see you there! 

https://discord.gg/j7dXVQA

Hey guys! Figured I’d swing by here as well to talk about the happenings with my BPD server. I’m too lazy to write up an entire thing, so I’m just going to copy and paste what I wrote in the server early yesterday.

First off I wanted to thank everybody for being so nice and turning this chat into what it’s been for the past two or so years. Well okay year and a half. 

 I made this server when I first found out about my BPD. I had just gotten out of a terrible relationship with an exfp and I needed others to talk to and relate to and I figured having a discord chat would help me out with that. I didn’t expect the server to get as half as many member as it did and it was a really good ride.

 I know a couple of weeks ago I threw out a bunch of different options for the direction this server could take, but unfortunately I have decided to go with the “worst” one; I am deleting the server. 

 This isn’t really because of any specific person or whatever and I don’t hate any of you!! I love the server and that’s why I want to delete it. I feel bad for not being here to moderate it and interact with everyone anymore. With what little free time I have left anymore I am dedicating to talking to my girlfriend, being with my dog, drawing, or playing video games with friends. Server management doesn’t fall into any of these categories and at this point it’s more of a chore than anything else. 

 The bots are broken. We only have two moderators. I could open up mod apps and fix the bots and do an entire server revamp, but that requires the motivation to do so, and unfortunately I don’t have any motivation to keep this server alive anymore.

There is a light though! @bpdrotten has decided to make her own BPD server because both her and I know that a space like this is very important for the community. There will be more details on that later, but THIS SERVER WILL STAY UP UNTIL SHE GETS THAT SERVER SET UP. Once she makes it we’ll likely keep this server up for another day or two just to give everyone enough time to join the new one, but after that, this server will be deleted! 

 I hope you guys can respect my decision on this. If you all want to continue talking to me, feel free to add me! Or follow me on my main blog Zensorbs. I’m active daily there. 

You don’t need shit like that in your life. That’s toxic and abusive, and it perpetuates the idea that those with BPD are inherently abusive and can’t control ourselves.

well, i havent really left, but im not involving myself in the community anymore. i havent for a few months.

when i first joined the bpd community on this site and made this blog, it was shortly after my then-fp left me with a letter saying she didnt wanna be friends anymore, and shortly after that i got my official bpd diagnosis.

i was lost, scared, and confused. i was alone. my fp left me and i had nowhere else to go.

so i joined the bpd community.

it was accepting beyond words. seriously. the community two years ago made me feel accepted and “normal” and it made me feel less alone in the things i was feeling. 

but now…

it just makes me feel gross. the mental illness community as a whole now is just… disgusting, honestly. anti-recovery. so so so much negativity and abusive behavior and pushing it on their mental illnesses.

it isnt okay. and i dont want to be a part of this anymore because ive come so far and associating with these sort of people will either make me relapse or make my recovery come to a stop.

you all know what im talking about but if you need clarification ill pull up some examples of shit ive seen on bpd tumblr as of late that have really unsettled me.

so yeah.

this blog will still be up as a source for good bpd resources (check my /tagged/ref) and if i need to rant about bpd specific things, but i no longer will be answering asks about bpd/giving advice and i no longer will be actively participating in the community.

though its been like that for about a year now.

once again i guess if you guys have any questions feel free to ask me in a dm or an ask or something. idk. 

if you wanna follow me on my main:

http://zensorbs.tumblr.com/

im active daily there.

well, i havent really left, but im not involving myself in the community anymore. i havent for a few months.

when i first joined the bpd community on this site and made this blog, it was shortly after my then-fp left me with a letter saying she didnt wanna be friends anymore, and shortly after that i got my official bpd diagnosis.

i was lost, scared, and confused. i was alone. my fp left me and i had nowhere else to go.

so i joined the bpd community.

it was accepting beyond words. seriously. the community two years ago made me feel accepted and “normal” and it made me feel less alone in the things i was feeling. 

but now…

it just makes me feel gross. the mental illness community as a whole now is just… disgusting, honestly. anti-recovery. so so so much negativity and abusive behavior and pushing it on their mental illnesses.

it isnt okay. and i dont want to be a part of this anymore because ive come so far and associating with these sort of people will either make me relapse or make my recovery come to a stop.

you all know what im talking about but if you need clarification ill pull up some examples of shit ive seen on bpd tumblr as of late that have really unsettled me.

so yeah.

this blog will still be up as a source for good bpd resources (check my /tagged/ref) and if i need to rant about bpd specific things, but i no longer will be answering asks about bpd/giving advice and i no longer will be actively participating in the community.

though its been like that for about a year now.

once again i guess if you guys have any questions feel free to ask me in a dm or an ask or something. idk. 

if you wanna follow me on my main:

http://zensorbs.tumblr.com/

im active daily there.

well, i havent really left, but im not involving myself in the community anymore. i havent for a few months.

when i first joined the bpd community on this site and made this blog, it was shortly after my then-fp left me with a letter saying she didnt wanna be friends anymore, and shortly after that i got my official bpd diagnosis.

i was lost, scared, and confused. i was alone. my fp left me and i had nowhere else to go.

so i joined the bpd community.

it was accepting beyond words. seriously. the community two years ago made me feel accepted and “normal” and it made me feel less alone in the things i was feeling. 

but now…

it just makes me feel gross. the mental illness community as a whole now is just… disgusting, honestly. anti-recovery. so so so much negativity and abusive behavior and pushing it on their mental illnesses.

it isnt okay. and i dont want to be a part of this anymore because ive come so far and associating with these sort of people will either make me relapse or make my recovery come to a stop.

you all know what im talking about but if you need clarification ill pull up some examples of shit ive seen on bpd tumblr as of late that have really unsettled me.

so yeah.

this blog will still be up as a source for good bpd resources (check my /tagged/ref) and if i need to rant about bpd specific things, but i no longer will be answering asks about bpd/giving advice and i no longer will be actively participating in the community.

though its been like that for about a year now.

once again i guess if you guys have any questions feel free to ask me in a dm or an ask or something. idk. 

if you wanna follow me on my main:

http://zensorbs.tumblr.com/

im active daily there.

well, i havent really left, but im not involving myself in the community anymore. i havent for a few months.

when i first joined the bpd community on this site and made this blog, it was shortly after my then-fp left me with a letter saying she didnt wanna be friends anymore, and shortly after that i got my official bpd diagnosis.

i was lost, scared, and confused. i was alone. my fp left me and i had nowhere else to go.

so i joined the bpd community.

it was accepting beyond words. seriously. the community two years ago made me feel accepted and “normal” and it made me feel less alone in the things i was feeling. 

but now…

it just makes me feel gross. the mental illness community as a whole now is just… disgusting, honestly. anti-recovery. so so so much negativity and abusive behavior and pushing it on their mental illnesses.

it isnt okay. and i dont want to be a part of this anymore because ive come so far and associating with these sort of people will either make me relapse or make my recovery come to a stop.

you all know what im talking about but if you need clarification ill pull up some examples of shit ive seen on bpd tumblr as of late that have really unsettled me.

so yeah.

this blog will still be up as a source for good bpd resources (check my /tagged/ref) and if i need to rant about bpd specific things, but i no longer will be answering asks about bpd/giving advice and i no longer will be actively participating in the community.

though its been like that for about a year now.

once again i guess if you guys have any questions feel free to ask me in a dm or an ask or something. idk. 

if you wanna follow me on my main:

http://zensorbs.tumblr.com/

im active daily there.