Egalitarian D/s. Itâs a thing.
Thereâs a post floating around regarding equality in D/s. I wish I could find it to link it here {Iâm sure one of my lovely followers will attach it in the comments and then Iâll update with a direct link}. In it, there is a reply wherein egalitarian D/s is referred to as âcancer.âÂ
Without touching on the horrible thing of comparing something like this to a disease I am far far too familiar with in my life right now, I want to touch on this concept.Â
Egalitarianism. Letâs define it quickly.Â
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1.relating to or believing in the principle that all people are equal and deserve equal rights and opportunities.
As Iâve been thinking about writing this post, I spent a lot of time reviewing my own beliefs about the subject. And honestly, it comes back to a viewpoint that I have been forced to hold since I was very very young.Â
The concept of complimentarianism is one found in a lot of conservative circles, especially religious ones. The crux of it comes down to traditional gender roles, to a point. Men are the head, women are the feet. Men are the rulers, women are the subjects. Men are the lords, women are the lackeys. Men rule, women drool.Â
This is where a lot of the dangerous viewpoints spring from: purity culture, modesty culture, r*pe culture.Â
In D/s, there are categories where traditional gender roles are enforced and embraced. There are categories of CNC, of women belonging under menâs feet, of women âknowing their place.â There are parts of these categories where T and I find ourselves, alive and blissful.Â
@instructor144 writes about the hierarchy of needs in a D/s relationship. I happen to adore his theory and hold closely to it, as does T:Â
The needs of the submissive
The needs of the Dominant
The wants of the Dominant
The wants of the submissive
In this, there is egalitarianism. There is a beautiful equality here. I am, at the end of the day, Tâs partner. In true D/s, it is the submissive that holds the power. One word and it slows. Another word and it all ends. The Dominant loves and cherishes His submissive to such a degree that it is His lifeâs goal to ensure that she is held and elevated to a place of height, almost above Him as she is beneath Him.Â
It is not a cancer. It is oxygen.Â
It is not a death. It is a life.Â
There is a phrase in Scripture that says, âto be great in the Kingdom of God, you must be the servant of all.â The greatest Dominants I have ever known have been the ones who kneel at the feet of their submissivesâperhaps not literally, but stooping to lift them up after beating the strength from them, who bathe them and love them, who tenderly adore their little ones to the point that they would go hungry if there was only enough food for one of them.Â
In the D/s world, there are a thousand forms, a thousand types, a thousand twists, a thousand personalized terms. But in this, I hope we can all agree, at least at the barest base form.
Equality. That is true D/s.
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