Like we have commodified human connection to a degree where if you go beyond smalltalk you're oversharing and if you talk too deeply about your life you're traumadumping and if you get visibly upset you're manipulative and if you care too much you're codependent and if you want to talk about anything heavy you're expected to go hire a therapist because your friends shouldn't have to deal with that stuff and yet we're all sitting around wondering why so many people are lonely...
This! Fucking this. It's like people just don't want to even care about other people anymore. People have completely weaponized mental health terminology just to feel comfortable. Unfortunately, ife isn't always comfortable. I know. It sucks.
People need people during times of stress and uncertainty. This is a fact of life, and if you don't work on being kinder to people, you are going to spend the rest of your life in the same miserable, burnt out state your boomer parents are in.
I don't know about you, but I sure don't want to end up another middle age cog in the machine who's only concern is getting theirs. If I'm going to live the rest of my life poor, I wanna be 40 and still living with compassion and authenticity. Unfortunately that requires actually feeling my emotions and processing them with another person.
People reaching out for support are doing a good, normal thing! Stop being an asshole!
We live in a very lonely time, and yet everybody is so eager to brush off social interaction that delves beneath the surface. I wish the term "trauma dumping" had never entered the popular lexicon because now all people do is misuse it and accuse their friends, the people they supposedly support, of doing it whenever they need beyond the bare minimum surface-level human care.
Not to sound like an oldhead or an Uncle Ted type, but I feel like social media transforming the internet from relative anonymity into everybody's presentation of their Ideal Self has contributed to this attitude. Especially among the younger folk who've grown up with it without exposure to life prior to the internet (and specifically social media) being Everywhere.























