bisexuals rule the world

My angry posts about bi women and the issues we face get around 100 to 1000 or 2000 notes at the most, and they’re usually reblogged by other bi women.

But when I post like hard, concrete, direct proof of all the issues we face, the articles and quotes I post get at most 200-300 notes. 

It’s so funny because biphobes constantly demand proof that bi women face real patriarchal oppression too. I myself am interested in empirical studies about bisexual subjectivities and bisexual womanhood so I’m constantly on the look out for news articles, journal articles, and empirical studies about bisexuality. 

I’ve posted many news articles about bisexual men and women facing overt physical violence, homophobic hate crimes, and even bisexual kids being murdered by homophobic parents or being bullied into committing suicide. I’ve posted numerous quotes from many research studies showcasing the struggles bi women face in everything from mental health to physical health to sexual health to psychosocial disorders to interpersonal relationships. I literally post facts upon facts about all of these things.

Hardly any of these articles are reblogged, and the only people who do reblog them are other bisexual women of color or other bisexual people of color. Usually these articles get 5 notes and then collect dust. 

And the funniest thing too is that so many of these issues pop up around the world. The study from this specific article was conducted in Australia, and I’ve read studies highlighting the same phenomenon conducted in the United States, Canada, and the United Kingdom. The statistics about bisexual women facing high rates of intimate partner violence apply to the United States, Canada, and the United Kingdom, and a UN report from 2018 on the oppression LGBT people face around the world similarly stated that bisexuals in particular face struggles relating to intimate partner violence, abuse, and sexual violence. And the first person to gain asylum into the United States for specifically being bisexual was an Indian woman, who was constantly sexually harassed and stalked after she came out when she was still living in India. That was back in 2016. 

So clearly these are issues that don’t just impact bisexuals in the United States - they affect bisexuals around the world. There are hundreds upon hundreds of real studies with hard statistical evidence showcasing that our oppression is real. 

And yet no one else cares. Bisexual women are not a priority to anyone: not to progressive groups, not to feminists, not to the LGBT community, not to women’s shelters or organizations, not to leftists or communists. No one ever mentions bisexual women as a group at high risk for facing violence or privation. Everyone assumes that the height of our struggles is not getting enough media representation or a biphobic person telling us not to go Pride, when it’s so much deeper and more complicated than that. People still assume that we’re a fringe group who faces misdirected violence occasionally, and spends the rest of the time whining about unimportant things. So many self-professed progressives, feminists, and leftists claim that we only talk about unimportant things, that we’re homophobic toward gay and lesbian people and only complain about them, that we have nothing more substantial to do than write bad articles for publications like Buzzfeed. 

The reality is that there still isn’t enough information on the extent of what causes bisexual women to go through these issues, or to what degree bisexual women face these things, or the intersections between bisexual identity and race, socioeconomic status, citizenship status, etc, or what specific solutions bisexual women need to address these problems. 

We are screaming, and no one is paying attention to us. No one will ever pay attention to us. The oppression we face isn’t seen as oppression; the invisibility and erasure we face isn’t seen as deliberate, dangerous, or violent. We are told to shut up by our own communities and to stop angling for “attention” because we’re being “selfish”. 

There is all this objective, empirical, tangible, and material proof that we are not privileged for being bisexual, that we are not oppressing other LGBT people or other women, that we are not gaining benefits from their oppression or at their expense, that we have real issues that we have to contend with daily, but it’s always ignored, especially by the same people who claim that biphobia was a term invented by tumblr and the same people who demand that we proffer proof and the same people who tell us to log off and read a book or go outside. 

when we within the lgbt community make opposite gender attraction out 2 b the bad, bigoted, regressive attraction n same gender attraction 2 b the good, radical, correct attraction, we tear bi ppl apart.

its the same shit as the rest of society tells us, jus w the inverse form of attraction 2 have 2 b hidden, censored n ashamed of.

So, I’m living in a hotel right now. I can’t be on the streets as I have specific medical needs that need to be taken care of in order to survive. I really need help with the money to secure a two bedroom. I’ll be living with my caregiver. The rent is $1,350/month. So in order to get the place on November 15th, we need to pay last months rent ($1,350) and half of this months rent ($675). Altogether, we need $2,025. Without this, I run the risk of being on the streets. Please consider donating and/or reblogging to help spread the word!

*Note: I have raised $325 so far on other social media!

$325/$2,025

👨🏻👨🏽👨🏾👨🏿Bi men of color are important and should feel safe and comfortable in bi spaces.

“Bisexual—being emotionally and physically attracted to all genders.” - GLSEN in fucking 1998

“Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in naturs [...] In fact, don’t assume that there are only two genders.” 1990 Bi Manifesto

“But there are also many bis, such as myself, for whom gender has no place in the list of things that attract them to a person.“ 2002

“Bisexual people are those for whom gender is not the first criteria in determining attraction.” 2003

“Assuming that all bisexuals are never attracted to trans or genderqueer folk is harmful, not only to bi individuals, but to trans and genderqueer individuals who choose to label themselves as bi.”

“Bisexual: A person who is attracted to people regardless of gender (a person does not have to have a relationship to be bisexual!)” 2003