Kyle Fasel - Real Friends interview
Say your name and what you do in the band.Ā
My nameās Kyle and I play bass in Real Friends.
I know that yāall did Warped Tour, how did that go for you?
Warped Tour was cool. It was one of those things thatās a lot of fun, but itās a lot of hard work, too. Itās the worst summer of your life and the best. Then at the end youāre like, it was really hard and crazy, but it was awesome.
I know that youāre doing Warped Tour UK too, are you looking forward to that?
Yeah, Iām excited. I think thatāll be a lot different than the regular Warped Tour because itās indoors. Itās more of a bigger show when Warped Tour is kind of a big festival. Youāre outdoors and itās hot and gross, but itāll be really cool. Weāre really honored that we were asked to play. It was kind of overwhelming in the best way possible.
Youāre doing some more stuff in England with The Wonder Years, are you excited for that?
Weāre really looking forward to that. Weāve known them now for a while, and it was really cool that they asked us to come out because weāre friends with them. Handguns weāre friends with too, whoās on the tour now. Neck Deep we donāt really know them, but theyāre a great band. So I think itāll be a lot of fun; Iām really looking forward to it.
Have yāall ever done a tour in Europe?Ā
No this will be our first time overseas actually, so itās really cool. Weāre starting it right after the tour weāre on right now, we go home for like 15 hours then we fly to the UK.
Howās the current tour going?
Awesome! This is definitely my favorite tour weāve ever done just because weāre able to play a lot longer than we normally do if weāre supporting a band. Normally you play like a 25-30 minute set, but now weāre able to play 45 minutes to an hour. It gives us the ability to play more songs and get into the meaning of songs and communicate with the fans better.Ā I like to loosen up and feel like itās a show, but youāre hanging out which is something we always try to do.Ā This tour weāve been able to do that a lot, and turnouts have been great. Weāve had some sold out shows that have been really cool.Ā And other ones have had a lot of people. Even some places where we thought the show would just be all right, but theyāve all been way past our expectations. So itās really cool when that happens, and itās refreshing. Ā Being on the road can be a little monotonous sometimes; driving and long nights and early mornings.Ā Itās always refreshing when the shows are good, but when theyāre bad itās not fun.
Is this your first headlining tour?
Technically, yes. We did a three-week headlining tour this summer, but it was only East Coast and Florida. So this is our first proper, US headlining tour.Ā
Other than the tour with The Wonder Years, do you have any plans coming up?Ā
Weāre going home for like three months to finish writing a full-length record that we dipped into the last time we were home. We were home for two months before, so weāre going to finish writing that and just be home for a while which is cool.Ā I think the next thing after that would be going to Australia earlier next year for Soundwave.
When did the band get started?
We started the band in 2010. It started as a side band I guess.Ā I was in a band with Dave, our guitar player who played drums in the band. We kind of saw it as something different to do, and it kept progressing to where we are today.
I know you said you were in a previous band with Dave, but how did you meet the other members?
Other bands really. Eric, our guitar player, went to high school with me, but we never really talked. Which is really weird; itās always the most unexpected things. Most of the people Iāve been in bands with you meet from playing in other bands with them because you share that interest, you know what I mean? Itās very rare that you meet someone in the street and itās like āOh hey letās start a bandā. Thereās kind of a road to get there. So mainly just other bands.
So correct me if Iām wrong, but PETA is sponsoring the tour right? Are any of the band members vegetarian?
Iām vegetarian, Dan our singer is vegetarian, then our guitar player Eric is vegan. So yeah, PETA is cool; they were on a tour we did with Senses Fail. They actually came out on the tour. They had people talking to everyone at the shows and stuff, which was cool. Thereās a guy Ray whoās like the manager there whoās the coolest dude ever, so itās really great to work with them on the tour.
How long have you been a vegetarian?
Iāve been a vegetarian for, how old am I? Iām almost 25 and Iāve been a vegetarian since Iām 19. Thatās a long time and I didnāt even realize, so about five or six years now. Itās cool, I like it a lot.Ā I donāt feel so weighed down because I canāt eat bad food as much. I used to love Wendyās so I used to go there all the time. Like 99 cent chicken nuggets and stuff so when I stopped eating meat it made me stop eating at those places.Ā
If you could only listen to one band for the rest of your life, who would that be?
Wow, thatās hard. I would have to say Brand New because they have a lot of albums that are different sounding. They made some of my favorite records; I wouldnāt say they are my favorite band though. But in the form of the question, it makes the most sense. They have records that sound like older pop punk, then they have records that are more down tempo stuff, then they have more aggressive stuff, too.
What would be your favorite Brand New album?
My favorite Brand New record would be Deja Entendu. Iām more into chilled out stuff, I donāt really listen to current pop punk which is I guess the style weāre in. But the album is really cool for me because itās a lot slower, so itās always grabbed me more than the other albums.
If you could collaborate with anyone who would you do it with?
I donāt know, thatās tough. Iāve never really thought about that because Iāve always been really happy with the members in this band. I feel like we pull so much influence from different music. I guess the best answer is nobody because Iām happy with where we are now.
What is a hobby you have other than the band?Ā
I write all of our lyrics, so I like to do spoken word poetry. Itās on YouTube, if anyone searches my name, Kyle Fasel, theyāll see it. Like three or four years ago, I had a lot of stuff I wanted to use because I write all the time. And I couldnāt use all this stuff for a band because there was too much, so I took some of the songs and extended them into poems. Some of the ones I have are over five minutes long that are more motivational type stuff. That was the first thing I did where I got the same fulfillment out of it that I get out of writing a song, so that was kind of cool.
What is your favorite show or tour that youāve done?
We got to play with The Starting Line over the winter and that was really cool. Theyāre one of my favorite bands and we got to play a show with them. I still think about those shows.
Whatās your favorite song to perform live?
We have a song called Home For Fall that I like to perform because itās about one of my really good friends. I feel like I connect with that song the most out of all our songs because itās about my friend moving away. I think itās cool to have that personal connection when we play it. I think about the situation and stuff, as I do with all our songs, but that one always held a special place to me.
As a band what was the first song you wrote together?Ā
I donāt know. We have a CD called This Is Honesty, which is our very first CD that no one cared about when we released it. But the first track on there, A Little Too Nice, was the first song we wrote, and it doesnāt sound anything like we do now. Actually, that song, and every first song on our CDās were the first song we wrote for that album. The song Floorboards was the first song we wrote for Everyone That Dragged You Here, and then Late Nights In My Car, on our new CD, Put Yourself Back Together was the first song we wrote for that too. Itās kind of weird how it all works out, three times in a row.
How would you say your sound has changed?
I think the first album we kind of talked about what we wanted to sound like. The problem is we tried to sound like that too much, and then once we decided to write whatever we want to write instead of thinking it needed to sound like something. Thatās when it really worked. Thatās a really cool thing. When you let go and you āre just like āIām going to do it and if people care cool, if not then cool tooā. Thatās what we did and thatās how it worked.Ā So itās really cool that people cared about what we wanted to do. Not something that was forced because I consider our first album forced.
If you could re-name your band, what would you name it or would you keep the same name?Ā
I like the band name; I mean some people say itās stupid. We were going to name the band Never Meant because itās an American Football song, and I thought it was cool. There are a lot of bands who name their bands after songs or lines in other songs, like All Time Low and Man Overboard is from a Blink-182 song. I still like the band name a lot, but I remember looking on Facebook and there was already a band named that, so I wanted something that was just ours. I was surprised there wasnāt a band called Real Friends because itās a very common term.Ā Itās very cool that that worked out and it has meaning too because I was playing in a band with people I didnāt know very well. It was weird touring with people that you donāt know that well. They donāt know anything about your home life.
Whatās it like to tour with people youāre not very close with?
There was a band that I was in where I knew one of the guys pretty well. But everyone else was just there. Which was weird because if I mention the area I hang out in, the mall or the Starbucks, they wouldnāt understand what I mean or know what I was talking about. And if I mentioned my mom, no one would put a face to that. Now everyone Iām in the band with, for the most part, knows my personal life.
Use one of your songs to describe your life right now.
I guess our song Late Nights In My Car, is one I connected with the most, and I still connect with it. Itās a song thatās about moving forward and realizing that everyone in your past thatās not in your life anymore for negative reasons made you who you are today. I reflect a lot on things in my life, thereās time that I wake up and I think of someone I havenāt thought of in a long time or a past friend or relationship, and realizing those things made you who you are turns in into a positive in a way. I deal with that a lot in life, I think a lot of people do. You canāt help but think about the past. But to know that itās gone, and thereās a reason why. I think everything happens for a reason personally.
What is the one song you really wish you wrote but didnāt.Ā
I really like Jimmy Eat World, so it has to be one of their songs. I listen to Jimmy Eat World, and Iām just like ādang I wish that was my bandā.Ā Thereās a Jimmy Eat World song called Kill that I really like. Itās more of a down tempo song, and the lyrics are really good. So I guess I would say that.
When you listen to a song do you listen more for melody or lyrics?
Ā Iām a lyric guy. Even if a song is super catchy and the lyrics donāt connect with me or I donāt think theyāre well thought out it kind of turns me away. Thereās bands that Iāve listened to that maybe arenāt that great of a band, but I think āoh I like that line or I like that partā. Iām definitely a lyric person, but Iām also a musician too so I also listen to musicianship as well which doesnāt always mean it has to be super complicated or something. Lyrics or vocals could definitely kill a band for me.
Any last words for your fans?
You make it seem like Iām dying, Iām just kidding. Thank you to anyone reading this because hopefully theyāll see our band if they already havenāt. Just thank you for the support