reread that quote for me. "We experience life, sometimes discrimination, sometimes benefits, based on a number of different identities that we have". Trans men experience discrimination for being trans, and experience benefits for being men.
you are the one comparing your experiences as trans men to cis men and cisgendered people. when you analyze the community and compare trans men to trans women, the privilege y'all hold becomes obvious in any rigorous analysis.
for every experience of oppression on the basis of transness trans men have, there are transfems who experience the same oppression for straying from cisness, mixed with and filtered through misogyny, creating transmisogyny. for every extra marginalization you can add on (race, class, ethnicity, sexuality, ability, what have you), there are transfems who share the same marginalizations, and have it worse.
you are, at this moment, in this conversation, benefitting from male privilege. your words can be as disorganized, nonsensical, or flat-out wrong as you like, and they will still be listened to above mine, no matter how articulate and intelligent my points. because that's how misogyny and transmisogyny function.
Both Kimberlé Crenshaw and Maria Lugones spend a significant portion of their writings analysing the ways in which men of color are privileged over women of color for being men. if what you got out of those writings was "men are oppressed for being men" you need to retake first grade cause you clearly cant read.
and here, watch this it's really neat: because i, as a trans woman, just made the capital mistake of getting emotional in a conversation with a man, being condescending and making a personal insult (gasp!), you now have free reign to dismiss anything and everything i've said, criticise my attitude, and have the world back you up on it.
whether or not you actually do that is irrelevant, because everyone's already thinking it. some people have done enough work in unlearning misogyny and transmisogyny to recognize that thought for what it is, but most havent.
men have privilege over women. this is the most basic tenet of feminism. to deny this is antifeminist, and misogynistic. trans men have privilege over trans women. this is the most basic tenet of transfeminism. to deny this is antitransfeminist, and transmisogynistic.
you will never liberate yourselves by throwing trans women under the bus, which is what you're doing by bringing back the men's rights movement but trans this time. you will never create a safe community for anyone, you will never be safe to be around, until you can recognize your privilege and take action to mitigate it.
