Uphold Radical Feminism With Misandrist Thought

this is what men had to say about why they engage in it if women find it painful

While not all young men in the study wanted to have anal sex (eg, saying it was not for them’), many men said they encouraged one another to try the practice,and men and women said men wanted to tell their friends that they had had anal sex. Men in a group discussion said anal sex was‘something we do for a competition’, and‘every hole’s a goal’. By contrast, men and women said women risked their reputation for the same act, a sexual double standard familiar from previous literature.

men think coercion is normal

The idea that women would generally not wish to engage in anal sex, and so would need to be either persuaded or coerced, seemed to be taken for granted by many participants. Even in otherwise seemingly communicative and caring partnerships, some men seemed to push to have anal sex with their reluctant partne rdespite believing it likely to hurt her. Persuasion of women was a feature to a greater or lesser degree of most men’s and women’s narratives abou tanal sex events, with repeated, emphatic requests from men commonly mentioned.Women seemed to take for granted that they would either acquiesce to or resist their partners’ repeated requests, rather than being equal partners in sexual decision-making.

coercive rape

Some men also described taking a‘try it and see’ approach, where they anally penetrated a woman with their fingers or penis and hoped that she would not stop them.Shane told us if a woman said‘no’when he started“putting [his]finger in”, he might keep trying:“I can be very persuasive […]. Like sometimes you just keep going, just keep going till they just get fed up and lety ou do it anyway”.‘Try it and see’ generally either hurt the woman or was‘unsuccessful’(from the man’s point of view) in the sense of not penetrating ‘it just didn’t go in really’.(Jack) A verbal‘no’ from the woman did not necessarily stop anal penetration attempts.

conclusions

First, some men’s narratives suggested that mutuality and consent for anal sex were not always a priority for them. 

Second, women being badgered for anal sex appears to be considered normal.

Third, the commonly circulating ideas that ‘everyone’ enjoys it, and that women who do not are either flawed or simply keeping their enjoyment secret, help support the erroneous idea that a man pushing for anal sex is simply ‘persuading’ his partner to do something that ‘most girls would like’.

Fourth, anal sex today appears to be a marker of(hetero)sexual achievement or experience, particularly for men.18The society which our interviewees inhabit seems to reward men for sexual experience per se(‘every hole’s a goal’) and, to some extent, rewards women for compliance with sexually‘adventurous ’acts(enjoyment signifying not being naive, unrelaxed, etc),although women must balance this with the risk to their reputation. Women may also be under pressure to appear to enjoy or choose certain sexual practices: Gill describes a ‘postfeminist sensibility’ in contemporary media, where women are expected to present them-selves as having chosen behaviours that conform to a stereotype of heterosexual male fantasy.

the notes:

You can’t support women and allow any man who says he feels like a woman to be allowed unregulated access to women and girls

You can’t support women and claim that whether or not you’re a woman depends on how you behave and dress

You can’t support women and have the behaviour and dress standards for women dictated by people who on average have spent over a decade being socialised to hate women

You can’t support women and tell us we’re bad people for fearing rape and violence

You can’t support women and tell us that our only choices are to have invasive unstudied medical treatment to try and make ourselves look like men, or have everyone assume that we actively and totally identify with being treated as stupid and targeted with violence

You can’t support women and encourage any woman who hates her body to just start changing it instead of discussing how hatred of your body, especially sexual anatomy, is an extremely common aspect of the female experience

You can’t support women and tell us that we’re bad people if we object to the emotional manipulation and threats trans women use to try and get us to perform emotional labour for them

You can’t support women and refuse to let us discuss misogyny as it is

You can’t support women and tell us if we object to a set of artificial behavioural standards that were made to crush us then we cannot call ourselves women

You can’t support women and demand we accept in our private spaces people who very openly hate us and our bodies to the point that they feel very comfortable telling us our vulvas are disgusting and dirty and stink, that our pubic hair is obscene, and then whine if we’re anything less than enthusiastic about their bodies

You can’t support women and support a movement that silences all the women who’ve been sexually and psychologically abused by trans women because it might hurt trans women’s feelings

You can’t support women and demand that we not name the problems that affect us for what they are because the feelings of a handful of people are more important than our actual safety

You can’t support women and be a rape apologist

You can’t support women and support a movement that is so excited by violence against women that you create popular blogs to joke about how funny it would be to have women whose behaviour you disagree with set on fire or doused in acid or gang-raped

You can’t support women and hate female bodies so much that you see an artificial hole as equivalent to the complex, beautiful organic system that is female genitalia

You can’t support gay people and insist that gayness is disgusting

You can’t support gay people and tell them that they have to be able to be attracted to anybody who decides they’re eligible, even if that person has previously lived very comfortably as the opposite sex for years

You can’t support gay people and support the transitioning of children starting to show indicators of being gay by their parents

You can’t support gay people and not recognise that being forced to ‘just try’ interacting with the opposite sex is an actual conversion therapy method

You can’t support gay people and demand that they allow complete strangers to decide how they’re allowed to feel on a whim

You can’t support gay people if you support a movement where completely obviously gender-conforming non-dysphoric members of the opposite sex can just say “I am the same sex as you” and then either corner the gay person or create a platform for calling that gay person disgusting and perverted

You can’t support gay people if you support a movement that doesn’t even regard sexual trauma as a fully valid reason to not want to sleep with someone of the opposite sex

You can’t support autistic people and support an ideology that relies on the exact debunked ‘brain sex’ theory that has prevented autistic women from getting diagnosis and support for years

You can’t support neurodivergent women and encourage them to perceive their entirely natural discomfort with performative femininity as a signifier that they’re not women and therefore need sterilising medical treatments

You can’t support dysphoric people if you won’t recognise dysphoria as a symptom of mental illness, often trauma

You can’t support dysphoric people if you attack all discussions of ways to deconstruct the causes of dysphoria so that people don’t need to change their whole lives and bodies unless absolutely necessary

You can’t support dysphoric people if you uphold the system of gender that creates the social restrictions on behaviour that cause so much distress

You can’t support trans people if you support a movement that claims anybody who believes you have to actually have dysphoria to be trans is “truscum”

You can’t support trans people if you attack the people trying to discuss how dangerous the current treatments for trans people can be

You can’t support trans people if you support a movement that hates anyone who detransitions and dares to speak about it

You can’t support trans people if you support a movement that refuses to seriously include trans men

You can’t support trans people if you support a movement whose big names very often turn out to be rapists, murderers and paedophiles

You can’t support trans people if you support a movement that knows its big names are rapists, murderers and paedophiles and openly supports their right to access women and children anyway

You can’t support people of colour if you support a movement that claims they couldn’t understand the concept of sexual biology until white people showed up

You can’t support people of colour if you support a movement that deliberately misinterprets the cultures of other races to use them as props (you can’t support gay people if you refuse to acknowledge how the “third genders” in other cultures very often exist to designate same-sex attracted males as separate from other males. you can’t support women if you refuse to acknowledge that these cultures often have no room in those “third genders” for women because women were not allowed that freedom of expression)

You can’t support people of colour if you support a movement based on the ideas of women of colour and Jewish women, still heavily populated by those women, being equated to Nazism for the purposes of sensationalism

You can’t support people of colour if you refuse to acknowledge how privileged you have to be to feel like you can seriously “identify out” of womanhood 

#i’ve always thought instead of normalizing huge expensive fucking weddings  #(with all the financial and emotional pressure that puts on young couples)  #it should be more normal to have intimate weddings with close family and friends  #and then after maybe 10 or 20 years or whatever. when the couple has a longstanding stable relationship and hopeful financial stability.  #THEN maybe do a larger celebration if they want to.

“we’re not trying to be asian we just want to look like an anime girl” - an argument they use very often

anime is asian

egirl culture heavily relates and sources itself from asian cultures all these girls are profiting off of asian ethnic features as they infantilize actual asian women with their behavior of dressing up in our aesthetics and act like a sexy child online for profit and male validation which further fetishizes actual asian women besides it’s tone deaf, we asians have been mocked for our eyeshape for decades but now it’s fashionable not to mention the current rising hate against asians for a white(non-asian)girl to just put our features on as a “costume” and profit of it without a single regard towards our struggles it’s very offensive