Leave me alone.

At first I though this was a joke

Don’t ignore this Tumblr

Yet they still do even when it’s right in their face.

Ok. Regardless of the fact that I don’t think 91,000 notes is tumblr “ignoring it,” there are a few issues with this. First of all, that “40%” statistic is from a men’s rights group in the UK called parity, which is outspokenly anti-feminist. Rather than acknowledge that when domestic abuse of men does happen, it’s more likely to be at the hands of another man, they weasel-words themselves out of citing any actual statistics but a self-report survey done as a companion to the BCR, the british crime survey, all the actual data of which STILL reports women as the primary sufferers of domestic abuse (ie 55-60+ percent.) Now, we can sit here and mince words all day, and I can certainly agree that violence against men is prevalent and important, but it is absolutely unethical and ignorant to pretend that men aren’t also the primary perpetrators. Rather than creatively painting the primary victims of domestic abuse as the perpetrators, it may be advantageous to look at some neutral statistics, bearing in mind that statistics for BOTH are probably higher, since abuse reporting for EVERYONE is low. There, at the National Domestic Violence Hotline website, is this statistic: “From 1994 to 2010, about 4 in 5 victims of intimate partner violence were female.” and they cite their sources. The other reason this bugs me is that when you try to look this up, most of the sources are from Parity, meaning no, nobody’s “ignoring it-” they took those flawed, misrepresented statistics and ran with them, implying worldwide issues from a single survey in the UK/Wales. Look. It’s important to protect EVERYONE from domestic abuse. But if you’re attempting to do that by misrepresenting the primary victims, I don’t want any part of it.